Do you find yourself giving more, waiting longer, explaining harder — just to keep love alive?

In this episode, John Kim reflects on overgiving, emotional boundaries, and the quiet ways we abandon ourselves in relationships. Recorded in Costa Rica, he uses lessons from surfing to explore why love shouldn’t feel like anxiety, confusion, or constant effort.

Inspired by the idea of “Let Them,” this episode offers a necessary reframe: there are some things you simply should not let people do.

This is a reminder that protecting your heart isn’t selfish — it’s essential.

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