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Have you ever felt like you want to be close to someone more than anything—

and yet, at the same time, you feel panicky and overwhelmed of getting close?

Like part of you craves intimacy… while another part is scanning for the first sign of betrayal, rejection, or abandonment?

It's because —especially early trauma—shapes the way we attach, connect, and even perceive safety and danger in others.

In today’s episode, we’re going to break this down together:

What is the core symptom behind interpersonal instability?

How does trauma fundamentally rewire the way we attach to others?

And how can you start managing those overwhelming emotional reactions in relationships without losing yourself

► Links and Resources:

Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma Paper: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspx

First Episode of Attachment Series: https://youtu.be/4vs3gDlmS18?si=_gjZE9dEfe2OBXgm

Polyvagal Theory Episode:

https://youtu.be/2iT8Msp8Vx0?si=0OH70XrtI-QJ0SJp

Brain Activation in CPTSD: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/344886575_The_sense_of_self_in_the_aftermath_of_trauma_Lessons_from_the_default_mode_network_in_posttraumatic_stress_disorder

Brain Dysregulation Episode:

https://youtu.be/-WJo7Seemzk?si=Kauyo-gNMF9ZPMjR

Fragmented Memory Episode: https://youtu.be/i1SF4Dhu3m0

Working Through Avoidant Attachment: https://youtu.be/FpNODQ7xYJg

Working Through Anxious Attachment: https://youtu.be/lbLG9432BkY

Working Through Fearful Avoidant Attachment: https://youtu.be/leT0-kFOSR0

Becoming Securely Attached: https://youtu.be/wq6sRKNdUsE

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:28 Series Overview

02:09 What Is Interpersonal Instability?

03:54 How Does Trauma Shape Our Attachment?

08:14 How Can I Differentiate Between Genuine Relationship Issues And My Trauma-Induced Perceptions?

13:41 How Can I Manage Intense Emotional Reactions In Relationships Effectively?

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► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.

My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)

► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.