Ed Stott & The Big Life Questions

Grief is one of those things that many of us still have no idea how to talk about. Whether we've lost someone or know someone who has lost someone it can be very uncomfortable to know what to share, when & even how to just broach the subject. This struggle is one Cariad Lloyd knows well.

After losing her dad at 15, she says she only really started to understand her grief when she was 34 and pregnant and decided to start her award winning podcast Griefcast. Running since 2016, the podcast has helped a whole host of people to process & verbalize their grief & Cariad's book encompasses some of those lessons. Cariad is a comedian & author of You Are Not Alone.

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BOOKS You Are Not Alone

PODCASTS Griefcast The Grief Gang Good Mourning TIMESTAMPS 00:00:00 - Intro 00:01:30 - What is the grief club? 00:02:30 - Why did Cariad start Griefcast in 2016?

00:06:00 - What enabled Cariad to start to grieve?

00:08:30 - Myths about grief

00:10:30 - Victorian time limits on grief

00:12:24 - What is grief?

00:14:20 - The physical sensations of grief

00:16:20 - How processing grief changed Cariad

00:18:19 - Grief never goes away & that's okay

00:24:09 - Why the 5 stages of grief are complete BS

00:30:30 - Dual process theory

00:34:00 - Why we should all be talking about death more

00:38:00 - What to say & do for someone who's grieving

00:44:05 - The best thing to do / say if an acquaintance loses someone

We all know how essential a good night's sleep can be for our health, but whilst we might be prioritising our bedtime routine, our partner's night time habits may be the thing that's costing us a perfect night's sleep.

Whether they're a champion snorer, elite level fidgeter or they just have a completely different sleep schedule to you - it doesn't take much to affect our eight hours. So what can we do about it? How can we sleep better as a couple & is it time for a sleep divorce?

Dr Wendy Troxel, is licenced clinical psychologist specially trained in sleep medicine & a senior behavioural scientist at the RAND Corporation think tank and the author of Sharing the Covers: Every Couple's Guide to Better Sleep. Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - [email protected]

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BOOKS Sharing the Covers: Every Couple's Guide to Better Sleep TIMESTAMPS 00:00:00 Intro 00:01:11 Why this is Wendy's area of expertise 00:02:17 What does the research say about sleeping together or separately? 00:04:30 How men & women sleep differently 00:07:45 The benefits of sharing a bed 00:10:35 How we've slept throughout history 00:12:53 How important sleep is to our relationship 00:14:30 When to re-evaluate sleeping in the same bed 00:18:30 How to start experimenting with sleep as a couple 00:23:40 The stigma against night owls 00:27:28 Why we should see sleep as a social behaviour 00:31:51 Sleep as a public health issue 00:32:48 How to manage pets & kids in the bed 00:38:00 The one thing to take away 00:39:39 Sleep & morality

If you're anything like me, ageing is probably something you try not to think about. But it doesn't have to be this way - we can embrace ageing, help to combat ageism & make the most of all the brilliant things that come with it, without denying of course that it's not all wonderful.

So how do we do it? Well, lucky for you, my guest today is an expert in this.

Anne Karpf is a writer, sociologist, Professor of Life Writing and Culture at London Metropolitan University and the author of How to Age.

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BOOKS How to Age

A good skincare routine can be a truly fantastic thing, but with SO many products on the market making wild claims, it is incredibly hard to know where you should be focussing your time, not to mention your money.

Fear not though, Dr Michelle Wong is here to help - you might know here as Lab Muffin Beauty Science on social media where she's been debunking the beauty industry since 2011.

She's a cosmetic chemist & her latest book is called the Science of Beauty - we're going to work through some of the beauty myths & get you what you really need to know about the products you use everyday and what actually works.

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BOOKS The Science of Beauty

TIMESTAMPS00:00:00 Intro 00:01:20 How Michelle started researching the chemistry of beauty 00:03:55 Does more expensive mean more effective?

00:05:45 Can we trust the research that brands quote about products?

00:07:30 How can we tell if a product is working?

00:10:30 How to choose a good cleanser 00:13:00 Should you use a cloth or tool with the cleanser?

00:14:20 How to choose a moisturizer 00:17:52 What to look for in a sunscreen & how often to apply

00:22:45 How to use spray sunscreen

00:23:30 If your makeup has sunscreen included, do you need to apply sunscreen?

00:24:37 Other things to do to protect your skin from the sun

00:27:00 How important is sleep to our skin?

00:28:30 Do skin supplements work?

00:31:10 How to fade a scar

00:32:30 Dealing with stretch marks

00:33:55 Michelle's top 3 products

00:35:50 Sleeping to avoid wrinkles

00:38:15 Michelle's top 3 active ingredients

00:40:00 Michelle's top 3 tips

The saying goes - win the morning, win the day. But, if you're anything like me - your morning will be determined by your inbox, who calls first or what's been dropped in your lap that day.

Productivity expert Donna McGeorge says this way of working is a big mistake and could see the quality of your work suffer, not to mention the extra hours spent at your desk later in the day.

So how can we take back control, maximise our time & spend less of it working?

Donna is my guest today & she's the author of The First 2 Hours: Make Better Use of Your Most Valuable Time.

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BOOKS The First 2 Hours: Make Better Use of Your Most Valuable Time PODCASTSHow To Supercharge Your Day with ChatGPT Productivity Hacks The Happiness Lab: Ask for help...spread happiness TIMESTAMPS

00:00:00 - Intro

00:01:10 - Why the first 2 hours are so important

00:03:06 - How to best structure your day for max productivity

00:05:30 - Tools for structuring your day & protecting your mornings

00:09:30 - How to write a to-do list that's actually helpful

00:13:30 - How to tailor your day to your circadian rhythm

00:21:00 - Don't give 100%, 100% of the time

00:26:40 - Bad habits that are costing your productivity

00:29:30 - Being mindful of the time you've gained back

00:34:00 - How to avoid social media stealing your saved time

00:36:00 - Being kind to your future self

If I were to ask you how healthy you are right now, what would you say? Would you tell me about your social life? How many friends have you connected with in the last week? Or how connected you feel with your local community?

Probably not, but Kasley Killam says that social health is vital to our physical health & by ignoring it, we're missing out on some huge benefits. She's the Author of The Art and Science of Connection: Why Social Health Is the Missing Key to Living Longer, Healthier, and Happier. Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - [email protected] CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Kasley on Instagram⁠ & via ⁠her website. BOOKS The Art and Science of Connection: Why Social Health Is the Missing Key to Living Longer, Healthier, and Happier.

TIMESTAMPS 00:00:00 - Intro 00:01:20 - Kasley's definition of social health 00:03:29 - The importance of social health 00:05:35 - How social connection changes us physically 00:09:50 - Quality over quantity 00:11:15 - Signs of a good social connection 00:13:14 - How to do a social audit 00:17:34 - How to deepen connections 00:20:30 - The 4 social styles 00:26:00 - The ebb & flow of relationships throughout our lives? 00:29:00 - How to find your people 00:32:33 - The common barriers to making genuine connections 00:37:00 - When it's time to let a friendship go

If you've ever shared that you're feeling it, the most common reaction is 'oh my gosh me too'. I'm talking about Imposter Syndrome - it's brutal, unhelpful and feels horrible. So why do we experience it and how can we tackle it?

That's exactly what we're going to take down today - by the way this episode was requested by Jess on Instagram - if there's something you're struggling with follow me @thatshelpfulpod and send me a DM, because if you're going through it likely many of us out here are too! My guest today is the wonderful Dr Jessamy Hibberd, she's a Clinical Psychologist & the Author The Imposter Cure: How to stop feeling like a fraud and escape the mind-trap of imposter syndrome.

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BOOKS The Imposter Cure: How to stop feeling like a fraud and escape the mind-trap of imposter syndrome

OTHER MENTIONS Forget the Dream Job, You Need a Good Enough Job-

TIMESTAMPS

00:00:00 - Intro

00:01:22 - What is imposter syndrome?

00:02:28 - How is imposter syndrome different from normal self doubt?

00:04:20 - How many people suffer with imposter syndrome?

00:05:45 - Imposter syndrome isn't just a problem in the workplace

00:06:45 - Can you have imposter syndrome & not know?

00:08:05 - The link between imposter syndrome and perfectionism

00:10:55 - How perfected life is now

00:13:23 - The common types of imposter syndrome

00:20:00 - How can we start to overcome it?

00:25:00 - Keeping a running document of achievements

00:27:48 - Thoughts aren't facts

00:30:45 - The balance between humility & imposter syndrome

00:35:00 - Sharing these feelings

00:37:50 - The stories you share help you understand yourself

00:40:00 - Jessamy's experience of imposter syndrome

00:42:33 - The importance of remembering you're human

So many of us expect to become less happy as we age, BUT science says you couldn't be more wrong - you'll likely become happier as you get into old age, you'll be more content and more able to live in the present moment.

This phenomenon is called the happiness curve and it's a concept that award winning journalist Jonathon Rauch is incredibly passionate about.

Jonathan is a senior fellow at the Brookings Institution in Washington and the author of The Happiness Curve, Why Life Gets Better After 50.

So what does the research say, how can we avoid the midlife crisis we hear so much about & how might the happiness curve help us to reframe the way we approach aging? CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Jonathon on Twitter⁠ & via his website.

BOOKS The Happiness Curve, Why Life Gets Better After 50

Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - [email protected] TIMESTAMPS

00:00:00 - Intro

00:01:16 - How did Jonathon discover the happiness curve?

00:04:45 - How does the happiness curve play out in different countries?

00:07:24 - The forecasting error

00:13:13 - Why so many of us feel ashamed of the midlife slump

00:17:37 - Step don't leap

00:23:35 - How to overcome the time trap of the happiness curve

00:26:26 - The happiness curve is fuelled by false assumptions around age

00:31:21 - It isn't just teenagers who go through transitional times of life

00:33:31 - The power in giving yourself time to reset

00:35:51 - The things that truly bring life satisfaction

00:38:12 - The one thing to remember

Gratitude is one of those words that's everywhere - particularly if you're interested in self-improvement & your health. BUT what does the science actually say about introducing a little more gratitude into our lives & the best ways to do it?

Well, Professor Fuschia Sirois is a psychologist from the University of Durham who's been studying gratitude for much of her career.

Today we're going to get answers to those questions and take a look at how gratitude can bring us closer to our future selves.

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BOOKS Procrastination: What It Is, Why It's A Problem & What You Can Do About It

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TIMESTAMPS

00:00:00 - Intro

00:01:05 - What is gratitude?

00:03:29 - Why do some people have more gratitude than others?

00:06:27 - When did we start to study gratitude?

00:08:47 - Gratitude's influence on health

00:10:46 - Impact on gratitude for people with fibromyalgia

00:12:46 - Gratitude & future orientation

00:16:33 - The benefits of being future oriented

00:19:50 - Simple ways to incorporate more gratitude

00:25:06 - How to practice group gratitude

00:29:10 - How gratitude helps us find meaning

00:29:47 - What to focus your gratitude on

00:32:15 - Gratitude pitfalls

00:33:37 - Acknowledging joy in other ways

00:34:51 - Gratitude & society

00:37:45 - The one thing to remember

We know how fabulous getting out in the water can be for our mental health & overall well-being but there's a growing body of research showing that cold water can be absolutely transformative, whether it's from your shower, pool or the ocean.

So what is it ACTUALLY doing to our bodies & how can we start to reap the benefits in our own lives?

Dr Mark Harper is a consultant anesthetist at Sussex University hospitals in the UK and a leading expert in the prevention of hypothermia in surgical patients and in the therapeutic uses of cold-water adaptation and cold water swimming.

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BOOKS Chill, The Cold Water Swim Cure OTHER THINGS MENTIONED 100 Days of Vitamin SeaThat's Helpful - Drawn To Water? Blue Mind is Why

TIMESTAMPS

00:00:00 - Intro

00:01:26 - When is cold good for us & when is it bad?

00:02:14 - When did Mark become interested in this?

00:05:05 - Why are we only just discovering the benefits?

00:06:52 - The benefits of cold water exposure

00:10:00 - What's happening in our bodies when we're exposed?

00:11:38 - Cold water exposure keeps you in the moment

00:13:07 - The optimum conditions

00:15:00 - Why is 3 mins the ideal time?

00:19:06 - Getting comfortable with being uncomfortable

00:19:53 - How to utilise cold showers for health benefits

00:21:47 - Things to avoid

00:24:13 - The side-effects of cold water exposure

00:26:10 - Should you combine a sauna with cold water exposure?

00:28:47 - The main take-aways

00:30:00 - Cold water exposure for migraines

00:34:27 - Cold water exposure as prep for surgery