Ed Stott & The Big Life Questions

How many times have you referred to yourself as 'too old' or 'too young' for something? Have you blamed your forgetfulness on a 'senior moment' or your sore neck on 'being over 30'?

I'll be honest, before I found out about Ashton Applewhite's work, they were comments I made ALL the time. But, remarks like these as well as a whole host of other behaviors are acts of ageism - something Ashton calls the 'last socially sanctioned prejudice' & it's damaging to everyone because guess what? We're all aging!

So how can we push back against this discrimination and age positively in a society that's obsessed with youth? That's what we're going to tackle today.

Ashton, is a journalist, pro aging radical and the author of This Chair Rocks - A Manifesto Against Anti-Aging.

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BOOKS This Chair Rocks: A Manifesto Against Ageism

OTHER MENTIONS Old School: Anti-Ageism Clearing House Ed's programme for ABC RN including Holdsworth Homeshare

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TIMESTAMPS

00:00:00 - Intro

00:01:20 - Ashton's evolving relationship with aging

00:02:42 - The truth about aging

00:06:30 - The damage of generalisations

00:09:30 - Where does our fear of aging come from?

00:11:30 - The impact of social media on ageism

00:13:30 - The hidden harms of ageism

00:17:00 - How to push back against ageism

00:24:00 - Striving for a world where age is less important

00:26:30 - The importance of having friends of all ages

00:28:27 - Ageism is not a given

00:31:05 - True diversity 00:34:20 - Ageism is a part of many more conversations now

00:39:15 - The one thing to remember

If you've been listening to the podcast for a little while now, you'll know I am pregnant at the moment - in fact, very pregnant! So in this episode, I've invited my friend and fellow podcaster Kylie Lately to talk about all things pregnancy:

• navigating the transition into motherhood & learning about the term matrescence
• the tools I've learnt to mentally prepare for birth (spoiler alert: they're really helpful)
• the podcasts and books I've loved
• my own honest experience of pregnancy

It's a very relaxed conversation but I'm hoping you'll find it helpful and perhaps make you feel a little less alone if you're also expecting. If you're not, please share it with the pregnant people in your life.

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CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Kylie on Instagram⁠ & via ⁠her website. PODCASTS I Am with Kylie LatelyChild

BOOKSHypnobirthing: Positive Ways To Make Your Birth Better The Positive Birth Book The Birth MapIna May's Guide To Childbirth

This week Earth Day asks us to focus on climate change & the things we can do to make a difference, but it can often feel like an overwhelming problem with minimal solutions & maximum anxiety. So how can we take these paralysing emotions that leave us wanting to bury our head in the sand & turn them into something positive that's actually helpful?

Associate Professor Leslie Davenport is a Climate Psychology Consultant.

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BOOKS All The Feelings Under The Sun: How to Deal With Climate ChangeEmotional Resiliency in the Era of Climate Change

TIMESTAMPS 00:00:00 - Intro 00:00:52 - Why is this Leslie's focus? 00:02:00 - Why is it important that we talk about climate change? 00:04:24 - Why is uncertainty so hard for us to deal with as humans? 00:07:33 - Anxiety Vs. climate anxiety 00:10:50 - The window of tolerance 00:13:17 - Breath practices 00:15:55 - Noticing mental habits & internal stories 00:16:46 - Figuring out how you can help 00:21:15 - Noticing if you're outside of your window of tolerance 00:23:15 - Helping children work through their anxiety 00:27:05 - How to take the negative emotions & make them useful 00:27:51 - Will taking action ease our guilt?

You probably know Taryn Brumfitt from her fabulous, viral before & after photo on Facebook in 2013.

The two images of Taryn side by side - one in a bikini pos-ed on stage & the other relaxed & nude launched a global movement.

Since then Taryn has release two international films, published 3 best selling books, was named Australian of the Year 2023 & has even been invited to the White House.

She's now turning her attention to children with the release of her kids book - Chico The Schnauzer. Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - [email protected]

CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Taryn on Instagram⁠ & via ⁠her website.

BOOKS Chico The Schnauzer Embrace Your Body

DOCUMENTARIES Embrace The Documentary Embrace Kids OTHER MENTIONSIntuitive Eating 101

So often our focus here is on things that we can do as individuals to improve our lives and those of people around us, but there are some things that cannot be fixed by the individual.

Regardless, society tells us that we are responsible for massive global crises like climate change, marginalised people are responsible for their own oppression and people living in poverty just need to work harder.

Whilst many of us rationally know these things are not true, we struggle to let go of systemic shame.

Social psychologist Dr Devon Price is on a mission to help us with this very unhelpful feeling & he's the author of Unlearning Shame: How We Can Reject Self-Blame Culture and Reclaim Our Power. Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - [email protected]

CONNECT WITH US Connect with ⁠That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Devon on Instagram⁠ & via his Substack.

BOOKS Unlearning Shame: How We Can Reject Self-Blame Culture and Reclaim Our Power

TIMESTAMPS

00:00:00 - Intro

00:01:00 - Devon's own experience with shame

00:03:32 - Personal shame Vs. Systemic shame 00:06:00 - How systemic shame manifests

00:08:15 - Signs that we might be dealing with systemic shame

00:10:21 - The behaviours we display when we're dealing with this shame

00:13:11 - How did we get here?

00:16:15 - How guilt fuels this sense of shame

00:18:00 - Shame as a distraction

00:19:15 - Systemic shame is not an effective tool for change

00:23:48 - The alternative to systemic shame

00:26:58 - How to ease shame on a personal level

00:30:46 - Letting go of perfectionism

Before I fell pregnant, I honestly couldn't have taken less interest in pregnancy, birth or babies & for the first two thirds of my pregnancy my attitude remained the same. Until I read a book & that book sparked an obsession and sent me deep down the rabbit hole and I am now utterly obsessed with the science & magic of birth. The book I read was about hypnobirthing.

If you like me, before I read the book, think that means I'll have to invite a man with a pendulum and a shiny black cape to my birth. You couldn't be more wrong. Learning about hypnobirthing and reimagining the possibilities for birth has left me feeling empowered and dare I say it - excited for this huge life event.

So if you have a pregnant person in your life - please send them this conversation, they are going to be eternally grateful to you.

The woman responsible for my new obsession is Siobhan Miller, she's the Founder of the Positive Birth Company.

In this episode, we're going to give you an introduction to hypnobirthing & teach you some practical tools that will absolutely make your birth better.-

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CONNECT WITH US Connect with⁠⁠⁠ ⁠That's Helpful⁠⁠⁠⁠ on Instagram. Find Siobhan on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ & The Positive Birth Company. MORE INFORMATION The Positive Birth CompanyPositive Birth Company Online CoursesThe Freya App BOOKS Hypnobirthing: Practical Ways To Make Your Birth Better PODCASTS The Expectation Effect: Transform Your Mindset TIMESTAMPS

00:00:00 - Intro

00:01:19 - How Siobhan came across hypnobirthing

00:04:04 - Changing the way we think about birth

00:06:45 - What is hypnobirthing?

00:11:00 - The science & evidence behind hypnobirthing

00:17:15 - Why language around birth is so important

00:22:35 - Reframing your mindset around birth

00:23:15 - The hormones at play during birth

00:31:00 - Game-changing breathing techniques

00:40:38 - How to help your body to push

00:43:30 - The BRAIN decision making framework

00:50:20 - Kate's 2 top tips

The gap between our expectation of where we think we should be at 30 & where we actually are can lead us to a pretty dark place. Today - we're going to tear down those expectations and get you back on your path, not the one you think you should be on, regardless of which milestone birthday is filling you with dread.

My guest today is Kate Berski - she's on a crusade to tackle 30-phobia after feeling the same wobble in her late twenties but going on to find that her best years were ahead of her - fulfilling relationships, growing a successful business that she went onto sell for $150 million and finding true life satisfaction. This episode is brought to you by Youfoodz, for $200 of your first 5 boxes use the code HELPFUL or order via⁠⁠⁠ ⁠this link⁠⁠⁠⁠.

CONNECT WITH US Connect with⁠⁠⁠ ⁠That's Helpful⁠⁠⁠⁠ on Instagram. Find Kate on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ & TikTok.

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PODCASTSThe Science Behind Your Weirdest Thoughts

TIMESTAMPS

00:00:00 - Intro

00:02:08 - 30 is not the deadline, it's the start line

00:07:30 - Why is 30 often perceived to be the deadline?

00:11:00 - The truth about 30

00:13:00 - The changing nature of careers

00:14:28 - How to break free of 30-phobia

00:21:27 - How to back yourself in choosing what you truly want to do

00:23:50 - The expectation gap

00:27:51 - Being mindful of self talk

00:29:57 - The 'should' test

00:35:00 - The 'yes and', 'yes but' strategy

00:37:50 - Avoiding burnout

00:40:04 - Getting great at taking rejection

00:44:11 - The arrival fallacy

00:48:00 - The one thing to remember

So many of us are keen to reduce the amount we drink or even cut it out altogether. But, kicking the evening glass of wine or the knock off beers can be INCREDIBLY hard. So what if you could tweak your nutrition to make reducing your drinking easier & boost your health in the process? Dr Brooke Scheller is a clinical nutritionist, the founder of Functional Sobriety and the author of How to Eat to Change The Way You Drink.

This episode is brought to you by Youfoodz, for $200 of your first 5 boxes use the code HELPFUL or order via⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠this link⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

CONNECT WITH US Connect with⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠That's Helpful⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on Instagram. Find Dr Brooke on ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & via her website.⁠

BOOK How to Eat to Change The Way You Drink PODCASTS Breaking Nutritional Myths: Unveiling Food Industry Secrets with Dr Marion Nestle

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TIMESTAMPS00:00:00 - Intro

00:02:30 - Dr Brooke's journey with alcohol

00:07:52 - The effect of alcohol on our health

00:11:40 - The gut microbiome & alcohol

00:15:05 - How alcohol affects hormones

00:18:32 - Why a lot of our beliefs around alcohol consumption are false

00:21:57 - The 3 types of drinker

00:29:00 - Why protein is VITAL when it comes to easing drinking

00:33:22 - How to add more protein to your diet

00:37:30 - How not to replace alcohol with sugar

00:39:40 - Functional foods to add into your diet

00:42:44 - How long it should take before you feel the benefits

00:46:06 - Helpful supplements to add in

00:47:23 - Follow your intuition

How often do you get creative? For me, it's actually not very often & I'm sure that's true for most of us.

But Caitlin Marshall & Lizzie Rose say it absolutely should be a priority in all of our lives as an essential tool for supporting good mental health - they even argue its science backed powers make it something that should be prescribed just like medication.

They're the founders of Makeshift - an organisation that helps to deliver creative first aid to people who need it most. They've worked with disaster affected communities, juvenile justice centres, injured workers and employers across the country.

In this episode you'll learn the science behind why our brains love being creative & some of the creative prescriptions you can start to introduce into your life whether you have a minute, 10 or 30 to play with!

This episode is brought to you by Youfoodz, for $200 of your first 5 boxes use the code HELPFUL or order via⁠⁠⁠ ⁠this link⁠⁠⁠⁠.

CONNECT WITH US

Connect with⁠⁠⁠ ⁠That's Helpful⁠⁠⁠⁠ on Instagram.Find Makeshift on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ & via their website.

BOOK

Creative First Aid

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TIMESTAMPS

00:00:00 - Intro

00:02:51 - What is creative first aid?

00:05:17 - The neuroscience of creativity

00:07:41 - Anything sensory is meditative

00:09:00 - How creativity interacts with our nervous system

00:12:30 - What is the window of tolerance?

00:15:30 - Joy's two way relationship

00:16:45 - Glimmer Hunting

00:20:40 - The different kinds of creative prescriptions

00:22:15 - Quick relief prescriptions

00:24:00 - 15-30 minute prescriptions

00:25:30 - Longer prescriptions

What's the difference between those people who can connect with almost anyone & those of us who become sweaty, anxious & unsure when it comes to having a conversation with anyone who's not in our inner circle?

Pulitzer prize-winning reporter Charles Duhigg says these expert connectors are what's called super communicators.

He's researched their skills & how we can all become one for his latest book Super Communicators: How to Unlock the Secret Language of Connection.

Today, he'll teach you those skills.

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Connect with⁠⁠ ⁠That's Helpful⁠⁠⁠ on Instagram.

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BOOK

Super Communicators: How to Unlock the Secret Language of Connection

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TIMESTAMPS

00:00:00 Intro

00:02:15 What is a super communicator?

00:05:19 The importance of deep questions

00:06:47 Reciprocal vulnerability

00:06:47 The risks of deriving self worth from work

00:10:13 Learning conversations

00:11:42 How comparison culture adds to the problem

00:12:42 The importance of curiosity

00:15:10 Non-linguistic cues

00:17:55 The importance of authenticity

00:20:06 Not everything has to be a conversation

00:21:20 How to show people you're listening

00:26:10 Communicating with kids

00:28:18 Teaching your kids to be better communicators

00:32:30 Skills for online communication

00:35:34 Why communication is our super power

00:37:50 The main thing to remember…