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Recently, I watched The Psychology of Self-Motivation, by Scott Geller, which is a TEDx video. Usually, when I find a piece (article, video, qoute) that I like, I post it to my social media channels and then I move on. However, Scott’s points stuck with me.
I remember thinking to myself, “why am I continuing to think about this video so much?” It was a wonderful talk, but it didn’t strike me as a life changing video. As I pondered, I began to see how important his points are to relationships and couples.
Do we feel empowered in our relationships? Do we feel self-motivated to create the relationships we desire?
WHAT IS YOUR MOTIVATION LEVEL IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP?In Scott Geller’s talk, he poses three questions to help determine your level of motivation, which are based on research findings
3 QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF TO DETERMINE YOUR MOTIVATION LEVEL 1. CAN YOU DO IT? DO YOU BELIEVE YOU CAN DO IT?If you answered “yes” to these three questions, you feel more competent and more self-motivated.
CHOICE:When you believe you have a sense of choice of what you are doing you feel more self-motivated.
Geller stated, when he is working to get a positive consequence he feels good. Whereas, when he is working to avoid an aversive consequence, he feels controlled. He pointed out how often people are seeking to avoid pain rather than seeking pleasure. Here are a few examples:
The way you view your choices has a big impact of whether or not you will feel self-motivated. “It is how you communicate with others and how you communicate to yourself.” says Scott Geller.
“Be mindful of the choices you have and talk about being a success seeker rather than a failure avoider.” ~ Scott Geller
COMMUNITY:People who perceive a sense of relatedness, a sense of connection with others, feel more motivated and are happier.
How do we build a sense of community? How do we support each other and lift each other up? I want to hear from you. Please comment below.
“We can always learn from each other. We need to have the humility to accept feedback, and the courage to speak up. We need to help each other feel (competent and) self motivated.” By Scott Geller
MENTIONED:Click on this link to access the transcript for this episode: ERP 069: Have You Lost Motivation In Your Relationship?
If you have a topic you would like me to discuss or a situation you would like me to speak to, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.
Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.
Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.
Thank you!
If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Empowered Relationship Course or doing relationship coaching work with me.
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Recently, I watched The Psychology of Self-Motivation, by Scott Geller, which is a TEDx video. Usually, when I find a piece (article, video, qoute) that I like, I post it to my social media channels and then I move on. However, Scott’s points stuck with me.
I remember thinking to myself, “why am I continuing to think about this video so much?” It was a wonderful talk, but it didn’t strike me as a life changing video. As I pondered, I began to see how important his points are to relationships and couples.
Do we feel empowered in our relationships? Do we feel self-motivated to create the relationships we desire?
WHAT IS YOUR MOTIVATION LEVEL IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP?In Scott Geller’s talk, he poses three questions to help determine your level of motivation, which are based on research findings
3 QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF TO DETERMINE YOUR MOTIVATION LEVEL 1. CAN YOU DO IT? DO YOU BELIEVE YOU CAN DO IT?If you answered “yes” to these three questions, you feel more competent and more self-motivated.
CHOICE:When you believe you have a sense of choice of what you are doing you feel more self-motivated.
Geller stated, when he is working to get a positive consequence he feels good. Whereas, when he is working to avoid an aversive consequence, he feels controlled. He pointed out how often people are seeking to avoid pain rather than seeking pleasure. Here are a few examples:
The way you view your choices has a big impact of whether or not you will feel self-motivated. “It is how you communicate with others and how you communicate to yourself.” says Scott Geller.
“Be mindful of the choices you have and talk about being a success seeker rather than a failure avoider.” ~ Scott Geller
COMMUNITY:People who perceive a sense of relatedness, a sense of connection with others, feel more motivated and are happier.
How do we build a sense of community? How do we support each other and lift each other up? I want to hear from you. Please comment below.
“We can always learn from each other. We need to have the humility to accept feedback, and the courage to speak up. We need to help each other feel (competent and) self motivated.” By Scott Geller
MENTIONED:Click on this link to access the transcript for this episode: ERP 069: Have You Lost Motivation In Your Relationship?
If you have a topic you would like me to discuss or a situation you would like me to speak to, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.
Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.
Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.
Thank you!
If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Empowered Relationship Course or doing relationship coaching work with me.
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