Guest: Dr. Marty Klein

Dr. Marty Klein has been a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Certified Sex Therapist for over 30 years. He is the author 7 books, including Sexual Intelligence and the recent His Porn, Her Pain: Confronting America's PornPanic With Honest Talk About Sex.

Each year, Dr. Klein trains thousands of psychologists, physicians, clergy, and attorneys in sexuality. He has been an expert witness or consultant in many state, federal, and international trials involving sexuality, and has given two Congressional briefings on evidence-based sex education.

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Listen to the episode to learn about:

• Dr. Marty Klein"s book "His Porn, Her Pain?"
• What couples are arguing about when they argue about porn.
• The pain that couples experience as it relates to pornography (i.e. body shame, loss of sexual connection, feeling inadequate).

"Talking about porn typically does not uncover how people really feel (i.e. grief, loss of youth, not feeling desired."

• The role of sexual fantasy and masturbation in porn use.
• How to know if sexual fantasies are healthy.

"Pornography is essentially a library of human sexual fantasy. Fantasy does not predict desire."

• How to deal with secrecy and shame related to porn use.

"I'm in favor of clear thinking, and people talking about their lived experience together."

• Dr. Klein's questions:
• Tell me about what makes you feel good?
• What makes you feel connected to other people?
• How do you feel about sexuality?
• What makes you feel glad you are alive?
• What makes you grow?
• The role of dopamine in watching pornography.

MENTIONED:

• Dr. Marty Klein (Website)
• Discount code "10P"
• Ellyn Bader (Couples Institute Website)
• ERP 011: How Technology Impacts Our Relationships (Podcast)

TRANSCRIPT:

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