About this Episode

Are you stuck in the cycle of trying to control everything in your relationship, only to find yourself drifting further away from the connection and harmony you truly crave? Sometimes, the harder we try to make things "right," the more we lose sight of what makes love resilient, joyful, and honest. The truth is, love isn't about micromanaging or enforcing your idea of perfection—it's about learning to ride life's unpredictable waves with trust, acceptance, and a willingness to let go.

In this episode, listeners are invited to explore how letting go of control and embracing the natural flow of love can transform the way they relate to their partners. Through personal stories, reflective questions, and practical guidance, this conversation offers insight into why acceptance and trust are essential for deepening intimacy and resilience in your relationship. You'll discover tools to break free from the criticism-defensiveness loop, foster genuine communication, and understand how even small shifts in mindset can create lasting change in your love life.

Daniel A. Miller is a best-selling author who explores how acceptance, letting go of control, and trust can transform relationships and personal well-being. His newest book, The Way of the Wave: Nature's Model for Navigating Life's Currents, offers practical guidance for embracing life's unpredictability with greater ease, resilience, and inner peace. Daniel's work draws on decades of experience, blending personal stories, research, and wisdom to help others live more empowered, connected lives.

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights 

04:49 Lessons in listening and humility from Daniel's early controlling behaviors.

06:51 How nature and acceptance transformed Daniel's approach to relationships.

13:25 Letting go of control: The key to real intimacy and gratitude.

19:44 How Daniel learned quick repair to break cycles of withdrawal.

21:12 Attunement and emotional safety as the root of true intimacy.

26:08 Life's crises exposed control's dangers and the power of acceptance.

31:12 Trading fear for acceptance unlocked deeper possibilities for Daniel.

37:22 Humility and vulnerability as foundations for lasting

41:29 How acceptance and engagement create richer, more intimate relationships.

45:19 Letting go enables trust, imperfection, and true flow in life.

Mentioned

The Way of the Wave: Nature's Model for Navigating Life's Currents (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

The Gifts of Acceptance: Embracing People And Things as They Are (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Losing Control, Finding Serenity: How the Need to Control Hurts Us And How to Let It Go (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication

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