#260: For many of us folks raised as women with people-pleasing tendencies, receiving compliments can feel like danger in the body. Even when the person’s intention is good, it can still leave us feeling exposed and uncomfortable. To discuss why this happens and what we can do about it, I’m joined by my friend, Master-Certified Sex and Pleasure Coach Danielle Savory. 

Danielle and I discuss why receiving compliments, attention, and care can sometimes feel uncomfortable, and the power of asking for and giving consent in these conversations. Tune in to learn what is happening somatically when we are expected to receive, the connection between feeling safe and being seen, and why you can’t bypass the brain when bringing mindfulness to the body. 

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#259: The modern dating experience can be incredibly isolating, but you’re definitely not alone if you feel like you’re struggling. My guest today, Lily Womble, is an intersectional feminist dating coach who’s here to break down the seemingly endless list of dumb dating rules we're fed today so we can actually create the epic, healthy love life we all want.

Lily Womble is the founder and CEO of Date Brazen: a company that helps badass feminist humans build joyful dating lives that make their right relationship inevitable. Join us on this episode as we explore what it means to take back our agency in dating, the importance of practicing self-compassion, and Lily’s intersectional feminist approach to settle-proofing your love life.

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#258: How often do you catch yourself acting selflessly in an attempt to feel valued? You're not alone. Lots of us build our identity around the ways we're needed by others, sometimes without realizing it. Unfortunately, while feeling needed can temporarily satisfy a longing for connection or validation, this dependency creates a cycle of negativity that stands between us and true interdependence. 

So how can we define a new version of ourselves? Join me this week to discover the true cost of needing to be needed, how you might be using your selflessness story as a cloak against taking responsibility, and my favorite remedies for beginning to step away from this story.

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#257: Do you find yourself feeling confused or frustrated in situations that demand an emotional response? How did it come to be this way, and what can we do to reconnect with our feelings? 

Avoidance of emotions in adulthood tends to overlap with an upbringing in which a "sweep-it-under-the-rug" philosophy was modeled, and this emotional silence leaves a profound and long-lasting imprint on us. Join me this week to learn the biological and psychological implications of growing up in an environment of emotional suppression, and how we can begin the process of emotional repair. 

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#256: I’ve had the honor of being a regular contributor to the Honeydew Me Podcast, hosted by Emma Norman and Cass Anderson. I was recently on the show to dive deep into somatics, sex, and feeling our feelings, and it was such a great conversation that I’m sharing that episode with you here.

At Honeydew Me, Emma and Cass’s mission is to have conversations about mind-blowing orgasms, feeling confident in the bedroom, and busting through the shame of it all. Tune in as Emma, Cass and I explore why the work of somatics matters so much, and why we get somatically disconnected in the first place. 

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#255: Our values offer us a sense of authenticity, which is critical for overcoming our emotional outsourcing habits. But embracing our values isn't just personal. It’s also a radical act of transformation in the face of systemic challenges like patriarchy and coloniality. So if embracing our values is so important, why do we often struggle to do it?

Join me this week to learn why being guided by your values matters, what happens when you begin living by your values, and some of my favorite remedies for identifying and embracing them.

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#254: Many of us engage in the ritual of New Year’s resolutions without really questioning it. It’s just what we do, right? But this tradition may not be as supportive of your overall wellness as you think. This week, I’m inviting you to consider how you’re using New Year’s resolutions, and whether you want to continue with this ritual.

Join me as I tease apart the practice of New Year's resolutions and help you assess how it's impacting you. You’ll learn how we tend to use New Year’s resolutions to beat ourselves up, why they often don’t last, and the keys to setting and keeping them in 2024. 

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#253: Whether you’re with your family of origin, your partner’s family, or your chosen family this holiday season, there’s one thing families are known for: pushing our buttons. To help you navigate the holidays with more peace and ease this year, I’m sharing one of my favorite tools for dealing with your beloved button-pushers, and it’s called Of Course They Did!

If you often find yourself wishing the people in your life were different, even though they’re doing exactly what they’ve always historically done, this is the episode for you. Join me this week to learn what Of Course They Did entails, and how it gives you a moment of pause to ground yourself and remember how you want to think, feel, act, and be in this world. 

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#252: Lately on the podcast, we've been exploring the state of functional freeze – what it is, how it came to be, and how to shift out of it. If functional freeze has been your default for a while, you may notice some uncomfortable feelings crop up when you step out of it. That's why today I'll be helping you understand what happens internally once you emerge from functional freeze, and my top tips for adapting to your evolving self.

Join me this week to learn how moving out of functional freeze is a journey of rediscovering healing, why it’s often filled with challenges but also growth, and how to be kind to yourself as you find your way back to a deeper, more connected, grounded you.

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#251: Kara Loewentheil is the internationally-renowned host of the Unf*ck Your Brain podcast and author of the forthcoming book Take Back Your Brain. She helps women identify and disrupt the destructive narratives society has taught us to think about ourselves, and she’s here this week to dive into what it means to take back your brain.

Join us on this episode as we dive into the thought work tool and the practice of somatics, and how both of these lenses are pivotal in releasing what’s currently holding you back. We’re exploring the central tenets of intersectional feminism, why there’s no perfect system for changing your experience, and how to get closer to living a life that feels aligned with your being.

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