Figuring Sh!t Out

We become so busy "getting our lives together" that we forget that we've achieved some of our childhood dreams. 

Let this episode allow you to remember.

You are right on time. This episode is an ode to LIVING and restoring your inner vision. 

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CHAPTERS:

0:00-6:00: But, where is your joy?

6:00:-8:00: Forgetting we've achieved our childhood dreams

8:00-9:30: The Lower Self / Higher Self & Pendulum Swing of Shadow + Light

9:30-12:00: Raising Your Baseline, Sitting with the Self in 40 days of Silent Meditation

12:00-16:00: Transformation is a process that is not linear

16:00-19:00: Vision without Strategy is just a To-Do List

19:00-23:00: The Proverbial "mountain," Sometimes It's Easier When You're Farther Away

23:00-27:00: How Would You Act If It was All Working out?

27:00-30:00: When You're Ready to Change, YOU WILL

30:00-37:00: Costa Rica, Artist's Way Circle

37:00-43:00: Create What You Wish Existed

43:00-44:00: If I'm still here I have a 100% Survival Rate!!

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no one relates to art that has all the answers - 

your power comes from all of the things you do not know, but have the courage to try and understand.

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43 - Speak Your Truth & Protect your Peace: The Energy of Alignment of Alignment & Influence

CHAPTERS:

0:00-3:00: We're Always Figuring Sh!T Out

3:00-4:30: The GIFT of Imposter Syndrome & Uncertainty

4:30-6:00: You are Exactly Where You're Meant to Be

6:00-11:00: The Void & Gestation, The beauty of In Betweenness, Becoming

11:00-14:00: You Are Already Whole

14:00-18:00: What is Freedom?

18:00-21:00: Seeking, Lack, & How You Know It's Time to Take a Step Back

21:00-23:00: We are Not Meant to Walk this Path Alone

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6 months ago, I got off the hamster wheel, quit my corporate job, & traveled to Bali for Yoga Teacher Training.

I went through the highs and lows of choosing a yoga teacher training, learned the hard lessons of first-time solo transatlantic travel, and lived to tell the tale.

In this episode, I share about everything I gathered in my journey to Bali, how I chose a Yoga Teacher Training, what YTT was like, and what I learned from doing yoga in the jungle of Ubud for 3 weeks.

We cover the questions you should ask before choosing a YTT, the trade-offs of affordability and community, what it's actually like traveling to Bali, and what my experience was like at House of Om.

Touching on the transformation that happens within, the cultural complexities of Bali, and the spiritual truths that emerge when you step away from the familiar, this episode is a 101 guide for anyone thinking about buying that one-way ticket.

For more on the depth of my experience and to hear my journal entries and awakenings while there, watch my recent video on Youtube: Diaries of a Corporate Drop-Out.

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60 - How A Self-Discovery Journey Led me From Working In Tech to Doing YTT in Bali 

59 - Taking the Leap

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Resources:

Choosing a YTT

House of Om:

House of Om: Melati

Samten Kriya

Visitng Bali:

Indonesia Visa Regulations 

Official Link to Apply for a Visa (Website isn't Great)

Recommendations mentioned:

Sanur: Nice Beach / Calm / on West Coast

Ubud: YTT's & Spiritual Center of Bali

Uluwatu: Beach/Cliftown in the South - favorite part of Bali

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CHAPTERS:

0:00-3:00: Introduction

3:00-9:00 Why I decided on YTT & My Journey

9:00-11:30: Choosing a YTT: 3 Questions to Ask Yourself

11:30-13:15: Intentions

13:15-16:00: Class / Group Size

16:00-19:00: House of Om: Affordability & Experience

19:00-20:00: Be Prepared for Emotional Catharsis

22:00-24:00: Teachers & Kriya Yoga, Schedule & trade-Offs

24:00-25:00: Emotional Processing

25:00-27:00: Choosing a Training: Summary

27:00-30:00: All About Bali

30:00-34:00: Gentrification, Westernization: Paying Respect

34:00-40:00: Flights, Visas, Police, Female Solo Traveling

40:00-44:00: Finances & Cost, Justifying the Investment

44:00-48:00: What YTT Gave Me

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my reflections on the journey to the other side of the world seen through the eyes of my through journal entries.

watch the video, told in visuals and story here: https://youtu.be/9R2bAm2ds_4

for this week, here is my heart.

NEXT WEEK, there is an episode all about the actual logistics of YTT and I give you my comprehensive guide to navigating choosing a yoga teacher training and going to Bali.

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Walk with me through six truths to remember and come home to when life feels impossibly heavy.

From the murky edges of uncertainty to the quiet wisdom of who we choose to surround ourselves with, this episode is a gentle guide for the tender, relentless act of becoming.

In this episode, I speak to the ache of transitions and the courage of leaning into what’s alive: movement as medicine, community as a balm, the exquisite alchemy of falling apart and piecing ourselves back together, and deepening into the beautiful, magical, unknowing, unfurling process of Figuring Sh!t Out!! (something we will ALWAYS BE DOING in case u forgot.)

We are in this TOGETHER

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If you liked this episode, you'll like this one too! Episode 77: Stop Intellectualizing & Overanalyzing + Start Living

CHAPTERS:

0:00-9:00: Life Update / Moving in NYC / Figuring Sh!t Out in Real Time

9:00-13:00: Uncertainty is an OPPORTUNITY!! The Great Big Void.

13:00-19:00: MOVE that sh!t out

19:00-23:00: Let Love In

23:00-30:00: Let it Go

30:00-33:00: Life is a Mess! But it's YOUR beautiful Mess!

33:00-40:00: The One Resonant Truth

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Patience is a virtue for a reason: it allows the space to be curious. And in curiosity --

life is explored, paths are formed, and the beautiful glimmers that make life worth living are found.

In this episode: trust, timing, resistance, and the real work of staying in it. We talk about letting go of the timeline, releasing the force of outcomes (unfurling the clenched hand of control, if you will) and listening to what wants to emerge.

To be curious! Is to be alive!

To be alive! Is to Walk the path of the unknown and let it remind you not of where you're aiming to go but of WHO! YOU! ARE!

If you are struggling to know what is next, to sit in the in-between, or to simply allow life to unravel as it should and as it does --

May you breathe deep while listening to these words and find some solace in them.

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If you liked this episode, you'll like this one too! Episode 78. You are Right on Time

CHAPTERS:

0:00-3:00: What if it's already yours?

3:00-8:00: Pressure, Survival, the Myth of "How"

8:00-11:00: Patience is a Virtue

11:00-23:00: In the Pause, a Portal

23:00-31:56: The Gift of Curiosity!!! Showing up Online & The Journey of Being Seen

31:56-40:00: What would you rather believe? Are You Willing to wait for it?

40:00-43:00: In the In-Between?

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If it feels like it is all falling apart, maybe it is.

But maybe - it has to so that a new way can emerge.

In this short episode, I dive into a core pillar of Figuring Sh!t Out:

Feeling like you don't have Sh!t figured out

(followed by a subsequent, sometimes immediate, existential crisis and break-down that makes you feel a little chaotic.)

I talk to you about the power of letting yourself feel, fall apart, and the clarity that can emerge from surrendering to the crash-out.

Consider this episode your guide and your companion when you need a little help through to the other side. Because sometimes --

The only way out is through.

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If you liked this episode, you'll like this one too! 47. Stop Playing it Small & Start Flirting with Life

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CHAPTERS:

0:00-3:30: Why Rock Bottom is a Beautiful Place to Be

3:30-6:06: Expansion Happens When We Go Beyond Limit

6:06-8:00: Control is a False God: Admitting & Surrendering will Set you Free

8:00-14:00: The Beauty of Letting Yourself Fall Apart

14:00-16:00: What NOT to Do During a Break Down

16:00-18:00: Dopamine Detoxing

18:00-23:00: You are A Phoenix Rising from the Ashes

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Today, I sit down with one of the most inspiring and grounded women I've had the chance to speak to - the type of woman every coming-of-age gal needs in their life: soul-connected, supportive, and resilient in mind, body, and spirit.

Today, (in honor of Mother's Day), we welcome Stacey Garcia - Integrative Health Coach, podcast host, mom, and breast cancer survivor.

Stacey shares her powerful story of receiving a cancer diagnosis during what should’ve been her healthiest year, and how that moment cracked her open to a deeper way of living and listening.

We talk about what it means to truly heal — not just through treatment protocols, but through energy work, ritual, community, and self-trust.

On this episode, we talk about her journey to becoming a Reiki Master, the emotional toll of chronic stress, and the missing links in modern wellness culture.

This episode captures one of the most honest and soul-opening conversations I've had on this show - and I am SO excited to share it with you.

This is a conversation about intuition, courage, softness, asking better questions, and the radical act of self-advocacy in medical treatment - it's not just about health, but about who we are when everything else falls away.

Stacey’s story is a reminder that healing isn’t about doing more — it’s about remembering your power, and allowing your body to speak.

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If you liked this episode, you'll like this one: 41. The Mind-Body Connection, Emotional Regulation, Physical Well-Being, & Somatic Healing

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CHAPTERS:

0:00-4:00: Introduction 

4:00-7:30: Stacey's Background in Nutrition, Integrative Health, Body & Energy Work 

7:30-12:15: Surviving Cancer & Leaning into Holistic Wellness

12:15-16:00: The Medical System is designed to "Heal Sickness" not "Create Wellness"

16:30-21:30: Understanding Reiki, Energy Centers, Aura, & Energy Healing 

21:30-29:00: Exploring Subtle Energy, Grounding, & Balancing Energy Centers

29:00-32:00: Big Pharma & Exploring Alternative Healing 

32:00-36:00: Mindset in Healing; The Words of Life and Death are in the Tongue

36:00-40:00: The Role of your Village & Community in Healing

40:00-44:00: What advice do you have for us to proactively and preventatively improve our lifestyle & mindset?

44:00-47:00: What advice would you give to women who are struggling with body image?

47-50:00: "Letting Them"

50-55:00: LIVE YOUR LIFE! DO THE THING! YOU ONLY HAVE ONE!

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There is no greater force more powerful than the quiet, silent, nearly imperceptible whisper of your gut.

This knowing, this sensation, this whisper - it urges you subtly and softly with the faint voice of: "yes." "no." "this way" "that way" "do this thing" "don't do that thing," and the more adept we are at listening to it -

The easier our alignment is to find, the more at peace we feel, the more in our power we are, and the safer we are.

Before we know something with evidence, we are told with a delicate nudge -- because intuition whispers long before it screams.

Our intuition is our greatest source of inner truth, but we are de-conditioned out of listening to it and trusting it in many ways:

A world of noise and overstimulation, chattering voices that slip into our heads and take us away from our bodies and sovereignty, a conditioning to people-please and make everyone happy, and far too many "benefit-of-the-doubts" given where silent trust should've sat.

"I'm being crazy," we tell ourselves -- talking back to a voice that is beyond our time and space, that is an ancient and evolutionary skill that kept our ancestors alive long enough to lengthen our lineages.

We talk over this voice - a voice so strong, it has joined the family of our senses and been called the sixth.

If the world is far more than the physical matter we can see with spectrums of light, time, and space that are unavailable to us simply because we cannot perceive them with the naked eye, then this voice that does not speak words yet eludes a knowing from our bones should be consulted with and trusted far more often than it is.

This episode is meant to help you reconnect with it and deepen your intuition.

It is meant to guide you to that gut knowing, reunite you with your inner voice, and allow you the inner power to know -- that most of the time...

You already know. You already have your answers.

You just have to clear the space to hear to them.

In this episode, we discuss:

• what intuition is in relation to time, space, and other dimensions
• higher realms + consulting with / hearing the divine
• how felt sensation can be a guiding post for us
• how intuition is different than inner judgement, fear, and imagination + why and how we are conditioned out of it
• how outside influences & certain people can deter you from your intuition and the beauty of being connected to your own sovereignty
• how to get back in touch with your inner voice, with prescriptions from Julia Cameron's follow-up to The Artist's Way "Living the Artist's Way - an Intuitive Path to Greater Creativity,"

If this episode resonates with you, leave a comment & let me know & consider sharing it with a friend!

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CHAPTERS:

0:00-4:00: Introduction

4:00-8:16: Gratitude + ANNOUNCEMENT <3 

8:16-14:40: Intuition, Different Dimensions, & A Force Felt but not Seen

14:40-17:10: Your Gut is Always Right (& It usually proves itself right) 

17:10-22:09: Alignment: Intuition is not Personal

22:09-27:00: Intuition vs Inner Judgement & Ways we Talk ourselves Out of our Intuition

27:00-31:45: Sensing: Intuitive Movement & Writing

31:45-34:00: A Short Practice to Get the Answer You Need

34:00-38:00: How my Intuition Led me to Leave my Job at the Right Time

38:00-44:25: Intuition vs Imagination, Higher Realms & Forces, & The Artist's Way

44:25-49:39: Practices: Writing for Guidance, Intuition Walks

49:39-52:39: Hearing your Own Voice & Digital Detoxing

52:39-56:32: Individuality > Trends, Imitation, Following Others

56:32-1:00:00: Trust your Damn Gut

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Our bodies - they live for us. 

And they allow us to live. 

They give us the ability to sift through this life experience with the breath of both joy and fear, the expression of both laughter and pain.

In them, we celebrate. 

In them, we ache. 

And yet in them, we often do everything we can: 

To escape them. 

We meet ourselves in the mirror, avoid our eyes, and dart to the pieces of our beings that we hope to be different. 

We bombard ourselves with never-enoughness and create a shell of distance between us and these vessels that live to support us. 

We try to love our inner child, yet we perpetuate the same talk-tracks that reject their desire to live freely in their skin without the weight of judgement.

Our bodies — they want to be our friends. They always have.

And yet, in them - we wage a silent war.

For many of us, this is habit. 

I don't know a single female who hasn't dealt with some bout of shame, distortion, or insecurity from the pain of a toxic body image.

I am one of them. I have dealt with the ups and downs and everlong fluctuations of body image distress, disordered and restrictive habits, coming into a healed and accepting place time and time again only to find myself fall into old spirals of shame and self-rejection. 

I have had this podcast for two years and have never spoken about this topic — because though I have dealt so intimately with this, I didn't know how to speak about it. 

I didn't know what to say. 

I didn't feel — qualified.

How could I? When I was still figuring it out? 

And then, this week - I had a moment of reckoning with myself in a dressing room. 

There was a light cast onto the dark shadow of a tired talk-track I'd heard too many times — and I realized that this cycle does not stop by living in silence.

That too many of us carry around this silent shame and guilt with this subject matter. 

And it was time to break that cycle.

This episode is a soft but honest exploration of our relationship with our bodies, self-rejection, and the perfectionistic expectations we may carry in an age where image feels like currency. 

During this episode, I talk about: 

• how we perpetuate toxic cycles of conditional love with ourselves and how to stop this cycle of perfectionism 
• ways the inner critic shows up and steps to keep the inner critic in check
• strategies to become a friend to yourself and earn your own trust back 
• how to approach change from a place of love rather than FOR love
• how the body is an energetic extension of us, reflecting our inner dialogue 
• the projection of control and "the need to fix:" my story and reflections with this topic throughout my life

TW: Body Image, Disordered Eating.

Disclaimer: I am not a therapist, doctor, nor an expert on this topic — I am just sharing my own experience and the reflections of what I've learned. If you are in need of assistance or help, please seek an expert's guidance.

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If you liked this episode, you'll like this one: 73 - Intentional Practices for an Aligned Life: How I Remain Organized, Consistent, & Connected

CHAPTERS: 

0:00-6:00: Being a Friend To Ourselves while Living in an age of "Perfect"

6:00-14:00: My Moment of Reckoning & Background 

14:00-16:00: Happiness is not on the Other End of your Standard of Perfection

16:00-23:00: Criticism as a form of Control & Self-Protection

23:00-28:00: Perfectionism to Procrastination Pipeline 

28:00-32:00: Just as You Are: Building Practices

32:00-35:00: Changing from a place of Love > changing FOR love

35:00-39:00: Earning your own Trust Back, the Body as an Energetic Extension of Us 

39:00-43:00: You're Going to have Bad Days - Leaning into Love in those Moments 

43:00-49:00 ANNOUNCEMENT & Special Opportunity!!!!

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