Our esteemed guest is Beatriz Victoria Albina, nurse practitioner, somatic coach, speaker; creator of the term Emotional Outsourcing; host of Feminist Wellness; author of the forthcoming book Emotional Outsourcing (book page); more on Bea at beatrizalbina.com.

If you’ve ever felt your worth was tied to how useful you are, Bea offers a science-backed, somatic path out of people-pleasing, perfectionism, and codependency—so you can become your own guiding light.

Why this teacher matters: “Bea understands that when we stop outsourcing our worth, we finally come home to ourselves, because she has learned this in her own life and discipline. This conversation maps the route to a nervous-system first, slow and sustainable, deeply embodied life, and to truly exceptional teaching.

What we cover

• The core belief “my value is what I can do for others” and how it shapes identity, health – and your coaching practice
• Bea’s move from family nurse practitioner to somatic coach after seeing what prescriptions couldn’t fix
• What Emotional Outsourcing really means (and why the old labels didn’t land)
• The physiological toll of chronic self-abandonment (digestion, thyroid, energy, anxiety)
• Ventral vagal regulation: why safety is the precondition for lasting change
• Practical somatic tools: orienting, interoception, “kitten steps,” bodily needs before inbox needs
• The effect of our culture lens: patriarchy / capitalism / colonialism and how systems inform our values and our teaching
• Boundaries from the body vs. “performative” boundaries from the head
• Coaching: what level of regulation, authenticity, shadow work, and refusing the pedestal is necessary for true mastery

Listen for these gems

• “Catharsis is cute—slow changes lives.”
• “I am safe enough.” (Why the enough matters to your nervous system.)
• “If your boundary isn’t felt in the body, you’ll fold like an origami swan.”
• “My goal is for my clients not to need me.” – ULTIMATE coach statement!

Try this →Bea’s 2-minute practice for Presence

1. Look around the room and name 5 things you see.
2. Tell yourself: “I am safe enough to be present.”
3. Feel your feet. Inhale and drop your breath down to your feet.
4. Honor one body cue (pee, sip water, step outside for sunlight).
5. Repeat hourly—slow is smooth; smooth is fast.

One tiny script that changes everything

When you want to reflexively say yes: “I need to think about that.”

Create space. Check your body. Decide from self-respect, not approval-seeking.

Links & resources

• Bea’s website: beatrizalbina.com
• Bea’s podcast Feminist Wellness: beatrizalbina.com/podcast
• Bea’s book Emotional Outsourcing: beatrizalbina.com/book
• Sir Ken Robinson TED Talk: Do Schools Kill Creativity?

Timestamps

• 00:00 – Intro & why Bea’s work matters
• 03:01 – “My value is tied to usefulness”: origin story
• 04:14 – From medicine to somatics: what prescriptions missed
• 06:01 – The body keeps score: digestive issues & stress
• 15:07 – Ventral vagal explained; presence as practice
• 16:31 – The “carousel” and why change must be slow
• 17:59 – Orienting + “I am safe enough”
• 20:02 – Bodily needs first; inbox second
• 23:06 – Defining Emotional Outsourcing
• 27:43 – Systems lens: patriarchy, capitalism, colonialism
• 31:52 – Why somatics > habit hacks
• 35:45 – What makes a master coach
• 42:53 – One thing to do today & “kitten steps”

If this resonated, share the episode with a friend who’s healing from over-functioning. Then grab Bea’s book and start your “kitten steps” today.

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