COACHED with Coach Keren

This is the final episode of this series on the Midlife Awakening, recapping the lessons and the many principles we covered in the series. It's titled: "Your New Life Is Going to Cost You Your Old One" - which should already give you a glimpse of what to expect. You will see that though your reckoning with this life stage will (100%) involve real grief, that it will also be well worth it.

I hope that this series will help you to navigate your mid-life shift or any other challenges you might be facing. Let our team know how you loved the series by leaving us a 5 star review, subscribing, or commenting/ emailing us back.

This season was truly a labor of love, inspired by my new TEDx Talk: Pray for a Midlife Awakening, and my way of sharing with you the joy and wonder I have found in this phase.

LINKS:

Kereneldad.com.

Schedule a consultation with Coach Keren:

calendly.com/kereneldad

Are you feeling un-empowered because the dreams of your younger self have not been achieved? 

It’s not too late – YOU get to choose how you live the second half of your life. The world is still your oyster but this time around you have the wisdom that comes with age. When you pair your wisdom with your dreams – you will be unstoppable! 

In the eighth episode of the Coached Podcast’s new season, Coach Keren is joined by the impressive Jade Sheppard to answer YOUR questions on the midlife shift. Jade is the President, Owner of Gideon USA, Malibu Popoyo, Scarlet Society, and Fermenteria. Not only is she a serial entrepreneur, but Jade is also the mother of three and a bona-fide adrenaline junkie. 

Together, Keren and Jade dive into what a midlife shift means and looks like through the lens of awakening, excitement and eagerness for more - as they answer caller’s questions. You will not want to miss this one.

IN THIS EPISODE:

• [02:32] Keren defines the midlife crisis as the loss of our identity,  revealed often through a change in physical circumstances, and notes that at this halfway point in life, people tend to re-evaluate their lives.
• [05:25] Keren introduces a book by author James Hollis – The Midlife Passage from Misery to Meaning in Midlife. She quotes a powerful passage from the book: “if we realize that the assumptions by which the person has lived his or her life are collapsing, that the assembled strategies of the provisional personality are de-compensating, that a worldview is falling apart, then the thrashing about is understandable.
• [07:08] Keren introduces Jade Sheppard, who talks about her new business Scarlet Society, and their goal: to normalize women’s sexual health and wellness after 40. Jade created this company following her divorce when she felt unsupported and uninspired by what was out there in the market for women's sexuality in the second half of their lives
• [14:46] Jade discusses how she found her midlife crisis to be an awakening -  more of a blessing than something negative, setting the tone for the discussion with callers.
• [16:53] We hear from the first caller, Cindy, who feels sad because none of her dreams have been fulfilled. 
• [22:10] Keren and Jade answer Cindy’s question, and encourage Cindy to live her life for HER, giving suggestions on how to take one step at a time towards her goals which will yet be fulfilled.
• [25:43] Our second caller, Lila, explains that she has gone back to work and now that she is earning an income she has had a shift in her marriage dynamic. Her husband is not being supportive and has been treating her poorly, making her unhappy. She is wondering if this is a midlife shift.
• [28:58]Jade encourages Lila to take a deeper look, to dive deeper and see if the belittling and berating have been going on for longer than she has noticed. She asks Lila a powerful question – “if this was your child going through this situation, what would YOU tell her to do”
• [29:27] Keren asks Lila another powerful, thought-provoking question, “What would you do if you were not afraid?”. She explains that there is a certain level of fear that will keep us entrapped in a situation that may not be serving us, and that heeding that question may clarify for Lila what needs to be done. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

• It is common for people to re-evaluate their lives at midlife, and this reckoning may give way to make dramatic changes if one ends up placing the blame on their career or spouse, etc instead of going inward. 
• The reckoning may shift your relationship with yourself for the better, but otherwise, your age doesn’t define your life. As long as you are alive and healthy, there is still time to accomplish your goals and life aspirations.
• If you are feeling stuck or unhappy in a situation, but are afraid of change, it is essential to ask yourself “where is the fear coming from?” Once you identify it, ask yourself, “what would I do if fear wasn’t a factor?” That is the power of seeking clarity internally first. 

LINKS:

Ted Talk on Menopause

From Misery to Meaning by James Hollis

gideonusa.com

malibupopoyo.com 

scarletsociety.com

Instagram:

@malibupopoyo

@scarletsociety_official

Kereneldad.com

Schedule a consultation with Coach Keren: calendly.com/kereneldad

BIO:

Jade Sheppard is a serial entrepreneur, a mom of 3 incredible kids, and an adrenaline junkie. At the age of 26, she started Gideon USA, a construction company. Gideon does logistically complicated projects for the military including repairing fuel tanks on the Turkey/Syria border.  In addition to Gideon USA, Jade also owns a luxury boutique surf resort in Nicaragua, Malibu Popoyo (www.malibupopoyo.com), and is in permit to build a second resort in Nosara, Costa Rica.  Most recently, she started a new business called Scarlet Society (www.scarletsociety.com), which is comprised of editorial content and products focused on sexual health and wellness for women over 40.  

When she isn’t dreaming up new ideas or spending time with her children, Jade’s life revolves around surfing and being at the beach.  Jade travels the world to surf and also loves to dirt bike.  In addition to Los Angeles, Denver, Oahu, and Nicaragua are also places she calls home.

In the seventh episode of the Coached Podcast’s new season, Coach Keren is joined by guest host Greg Scheinman for the second time to answer YOUR questions on the midlife shift. Greg is a Performance Coach, Speaker, Author & Creator of The Midlife Male Podcast & Newsletter.

Today, Greg and Keren thoughtfully advise two callers who are wondering if they are too old to find love, or too old to find their life’s purpose. They give insightful answers and suggestions on how to love ourselves, how to turn inward, and how to create a life of fulfillment and meaning. When you start doing things that light you up daily you will be living a life of purpose – cumulatively. 

IN THIS EPISODE:

• [03:36] Keren discusses how the midlife shift can be compared to adolescence – and how you can turn stagnation and purposelessness into healing.
• [04:03] Keren welcomes Greg Sheinman back to the show – they recap the last episode and discuss the vulnerable and relatable questions from the previous callers
• [07:15] The first caller, Breanna, opens up about how first of all she loves herself, but second of all, she is feeling self-doubt because her boyfriend broke up with her for a younger woman. She wants to know how to feel empowered in this situation.
• [11:51] Keren empowers Breanna and validates her feelings by telling her, “ love yourself enough to understand that he is not for you because he is not appreciating all the magnificence of you. There are no deal breakers in real love.”
• [18:34] The second caller Mattius talks about the anxiety of finding his purpose at 46. Greg explains that the secret is to live positively. Not everyone has a “calling”, but doing things that we enjoy or things that make us feel good daily will add up cumulatively to create a life of fulfillment.
• [23:58] Keren discusses the word: “purpose.” Purpose is doing anything that creates fulfillment and meaning. Flow is anything that you are doing that makes you lose all sense of time.
• [25:50] Keren gives tips on how to find out what lights you up, what you are obsessed with, and what will help you to live a happy life full of purpose.

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

• The Midlife crisis can be compared to adolescence in that it can be a turbulent time with acting out, extreme behaviors, and rage against change – instead we should be turning inward, processing what is happening, and evolving.
• When you love yourself and live your life being honest and true to yourself – you will find a partner suited perfectly to you. There is no time frame for finding love, you can find who is perfect for you at 42 or 60.
• Your age doesn’t have to dictate who or how you are – you can be an old 40-year-old or a young 60 year old; it is all in the way you carry yourself. How you live, how you operate, and how you execute. Is there vibrance in your face, in your eyes, in your body? How you live is up to you.
• If day in and day out, you start choosing the things that light you up from inside that you're obsessed with, that you would do if nobody paid you, you will certainly be living a life of purpose.

LINKS:

• Greg's Website
• IG: @gregscheinman
• Get Greg’s book here
• Kereneldad.com

Schedule a consultation with Coach Keren

BIO:

Greg Scheinman is a performance coach and host of The Midlife Male podcast, and the creator of MidlifeMale.com—the premier digital media community for middle-aged men seeking to maximize their lives. In 2018, he launched the Midlife Male Movement to help men like him in their forties and fifties to strive to be their best selves by getting active, curious, naked— and real. Greg has played many roles in his life: a filmmaker, sports video producer, TV host, fitness studio owner, insurance broker, performance coach, executive athlete—and most importantly, a friend, father, husband, brother, and son.

Have you stopped trying to achieve your goals because you think you’ve missed the window? Spoiler alert - there is no window! It is never too late to be the best version of yourself!

In the sixth episode of the Coached Podcast’s new season, Coach Keren is joined by guest host Greg Scheinman to answer YOUR questions on the midlife shift. Greg is a Performance Coach, Speaker, Author & Creator of The Midlife Male Podcast & Newsletter.

Together, Greg and Keren use their life experiences to weigh in on the vulnerable questions asked by today’s callers. Today’s episode focuses on aging, but contrary to popular belief, aging doesn’t have to be something we dread – it can be something to look forward to if you embrace the changes with love and see each day as an opportunity.

IN THIS EPISODE:

• [00:00:26] Keren introduces the topic of change, and how it can be extremely hard for people to accept
• [00:05:24] Keren discusses a psychoanalyst’s description of the midlife crisis. The midlife crisis is a spiritual crisis, a profound inflection point in our life that has 5 stages of development: Accommodation, separation, liminality, reintegration, and individuation
• [00:07:45] Keren welcomes Greg to the show. Greg introduces us to his book that came out Nov 1, 2022, called: “The Midlife Male: A No-Bullshit Guide to Living Better, Longer, Happier, Healthier, and Wealthier and Having More Fun in Your 40s and 50s (Which Includes More Sex ... and What Guy Doesn't Want That?)
• [00:15:17] Keren and Greg hear from the first caller, Tim. Tim confides in the pair that he feels self-conscious about his physical changes since turning 40.
• [00:24:19] Greg discusses being consistent with small positive changes, and that over time those cumulative changes will add up to success.
• [00:30:41] Keren and Greg hear from Caroline; she courageously confides about wondering if there is more to life and, she feels like she is too far behind to ever catch up.
• [00:41:58] Keren gives Caroline advice on her issue, she urges her to listen to the whisper. She tells Caroline to go on an inner journey, to find out who she is and why she’s done what she’s done, and also why she wants what she wants.

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

• It is never too late to live the life of your dreams on your terms
• Middle age happens to everyone – it is involuntary but if you embrace the change it can be beautiful and empowering
• Make small changes every day (ex. walking every day for 30 minutes) all your small changes will add up like compound interest to make a big beneficial difference
• Even if it seems hard, you must keep moving forward because regret is poison, and it will not get you anywhere. Keep looking forward with enthusiasm!

LINKS:

• Website: http://www.themidlifemale.com/
• IG: @gregscheinman
• Get Greg’s book here: https://www.amazon.com/Midlife-Male-No-Bullshit-Healthier-Wealthier/dp/1637554176
• www.Kereneldad.com

Schedule a consultation with Coach Keren:

calendly.com/kereneldad

What if your life looks perfect on the outside, but on the inside you just want MORE?

On the fifth episode of the Coached Podcast’s new season, Coach Keren is joined once again by guest host and superstar coach Christopher Chandler to answer YOUR questions on the midlife shift - and within this context, about the question of all questions: what is my life’s purpose?

Together, Chris and Keren passionately advise a caller who is feeling resentful and suffocated with her life, even though her life looks perfect on the outside and relay the very steps each of them has taken to unleash their true passion and next passion in life - and what YOU can do, too, for the magic to unfold in your life. 

In the episode, above all the case is made that suppressing your desires will take a lot more energy than it would take to live honestly and authentically, honoring your desires and honoring your purpose. If this sounds like it might be just what you need today, we hope you’ll tune in.

IN THIS EPISODE:

• [00:02:50] Keren and Christopher revisit episode 4, and discuss the key takeaways from that last episode, touching on happiness and satisfaction. 
• [00:06:22] Personal agency: what is it - and how do we get it?
• [00:09:29] The hosts take the first call, from Danny, in California, who is struggling with a feeling of purposelessness. 
• [00:10:21] Chris and Keren discuss: Why is being honest with ourselves so hard? And how does NOT being honest with ourselves result in a feeling of purposelessness?
• [00:16:44] Keren and Chris demonstrate how to dig deeper so you can find out what is keeping you out of alignment with your purpose.
• [00:20:04] In closing, Keren posits that you are right to be scared of asking for more, because your new life may cost you your old one. But, though it may be scary, leaning into a life of meaning and into your calling is always worth it.  

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

• To change our lives into the life we are dreaming of we must first be completely honest with ourselves. This is much easier said than done. 
• It might be easier to leave well enough alone. But if you are not living your life honestly - living your life the way YOU want to live it -  it will a lot more effort to hold up the farce than it will be to live honestly and authentically
• In “going for it,” you will find that your new life may cost you your old one. 
• Still: be honest, be truthful, be real, and be genuine. And ask yourself, “What makes you happy? And “what gets you excited?”

LINKS:

Website: https://christopherjacobchandler.com/

Instagram: @christopherjacobchandler

Christopher's Soul Cycle

Kereneldad.com

Schedule a consultation with Coach Keren:

calendly.com/kereneldad

GUEST BIO:

Chris Chandler is a husband, friend, brother, uncle, nutrition and joy coach, Master SoulCycle instructor, and a Regional Vice President with Arbonne International. Chris is certified through the Institute for Integrative Nutrition. He offers 1:1 coaching where he helps clients feel nourished in all aspects of their life. He also does motivational and educational speeches at conferences and seminars.

What if you finally reach your biggest career or life goal, but don’t feel as excited as you thought you would?

On the fourth episode of the Coached Podcast’s new season, Coach Keren is joined by guest host Christopher Chandler to answer YOUR questions on the midlife shift, on change in general, and on the experiences surrounding personal grief. Chris is a superstar integrative nutrition health and wellness coach and instructor who experienced his own “Crisis to Awakening” moment on his life journey when at the age of 23,  he lost his father. 

Together, Chris joins Keren to give insight and guidance to two callers with dynamic but relatable questions surrounding lackluster feelings after reaching monumental life goals,  and honoring a desire to change our lives even when from the outside - our lives look pretty great to others. 

 

Sign up for the Enthusiasm Academy: https://kereneldad.com/enthusiasmacademy/

 

IN THIS EPISODE

 

• [04:46] Chris shares the grief experience that shifted the trajectory of his life’s path.
• [07:41] Keren introduces the first question from Dev, an author who just published her book.  Dev’s question is: why doesn’t she feel happy and satisfied now that she has reached an awesome goal?
• [08:46] Christopher defines trauma regarding life experiences: “trauma is simply an experience you had where you didn't have the coping skills to truly express how you're feeling”
• [17:03] Keren welcomes the second question from Kara who has called in asking for advice on how to make a big life change though it may come with the cost of upending her existing circumstances.

 

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

 

• Trauma doesn’t necessarily happen surrounding grief, it can be caused by everyday experiences if you don’t have the tools to cope with the situation.

• You have everything you need, and life is urgent. Don’t wait until tomorrow to live the life you want.
• Comfort zones are meant to be blown up, don’t stay within the comfort zone if it is not serving you.

 

GUEST BIO:

 

Chris Chandler is a husband, friend, brother, uncle, nutrition and joy coach, Master SoulCycle instructor, and a Regional Vice President with Arbonne International.  Chris is certified through the Institute for Integrative Nutrition. He offers 1:1 coaching where he helps clients feel nourished in all aspects of their life. He also does motivational and educational speeches at conferences and seminars.

 

LINKS:

 

Christophers Website

Christopher's Instagram Christopher's  Soul Cycle

Kereneldad.com

Schedule a Consultation: calendly.com/kereneldad

In this episode of our Midlife Awakening season of the Coached Podcast, the courageous Jody Lavoie joins Coach Keren Eldad to share her story of grief and growth. 

After an employee killed Jody’s husband at their place of business, in addition to waking up to the horror of the tragedy, she was forced to contend with a future that looked nothing like she had planned. Faced with the unthinkable, she decided, in an instant, not to choose defeat, but to step up. 

In one fell swoop, Jody went from being a stay-at-home mom to running a multi-million dollar business, solo parenting three daughters, and juggling new legal, financial, and household-related issues - succeeding above and beyond even her own expectations. Having taken this experience and merged it with a career as a certified professional coach, Jody talked to us about grief, about purpose and about reimagining your life.

https://kereneldad.com/enthusiasmacademy/

 

Highlights from this Episode:

• [02:50] Jody shares her remarkable story: from grief to transformation. 
• [05:02] Keren discusses the stages of the grief process. Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance
• [13:27] Jody shares how she built her second act and new business:  “Widows in the Workplace”. 
• [16:35] Jody shares how you can find inspiration in life after loss, seeing the other side even as an opportunity for rebirth, reawakening, and rediscovery of who you are.

 

Key Takeaways:

• Grief stands on its own, but does share a few key elements with the Midlife Crisis. A midlife crisis can feel like grief in the beginning stages, but like grief, there can be beauty on the other side.
• Grief, like the midlife crisis, can turn your weakest moments into your greatest success by sharing your experience with others in a similar situation.

 

Quotes: 

“I believe the grief process requires radical acceptance. Everyone should have a safe place to speak candidly without judgment or shame because it’s a messy path to move forward”. – Jody LaVoie

Links: 

Website: https://www.jodylavoiecoaching.com/jody-lavoie-widow-coaching

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodylavoie/

Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ca/widowsintheworkplace/

Instagram: @widowsintheworkplace

 

Bio:

Jody is a widow and two-time breast cancer survivor, who has taken her life experiences to guide other women who have found themselves in a similar situation to rediscover themselves with renewed clarity and joy for what is next in their lives. Jody is the former CEO of the non-profit Female Strong and the Young Entrepreneurs Academy Chicago. Female Strong offers hands-on programs, mentorship and experiences that build confidence in middle and high school girls that enables them to be future leaders of tomorrow.

Jody is an active member of the Young President’s Organization (YPO) and is on the board of the Sheila A Doyle Foundation to support others that have experienced homicide.

She holds a bachelor’s degree from the University of Chicago, is a mother to three amazing daughters, loves to hike and is always game for whatever will bring on more belly laughs.

Our guest for the second episode in this series is Ivy Slater, CEO of Slater Success; a boutique training, consulting and coaching company. Ivy joins Coach Keren to talk about her own midlife crisis to awakening story, that all started with a breakdown in a Starbucks line, and through her moment of reckoning at the realization that her dreams of becoming a dancer had somehow ended in a career in printing. From there, Ivy pivoted, and she shares how she navigated this monumental change and how she got to where she is today. 

This season will be entirely dedicated to the midlife crisis and turning it around into the best time of your life. Join as we answer your questions on how to navigate the big changes that occur or signal this stage transition. The ride itself might be rough, but Coach Keren is here to help you get to the other side. 

 

IN THIS EPISODE:

• [02:25] Ivy shares her story of crisis to awakening
• [10:00] If you’re faced, too, with career stagnation - here’s how to do a career change right
• [15:04] How to find your support team through the midlife crisis and leaning on them

 

KEY TAKEAWAYS: 

• Sometimes, we have to break down in order to build up new and better things
• Talk to everyone you know and do “Market Research” when you are thinking about change during a midlife crisis.  From changing careers to partners, you might be surprised at what you find if you take the time to sort through
• Midlife doesn’t have to be scary- it can be a huge catalyst for change
• Finding people around you who tell you the truth and support you is the greatest asset on this journey

 

RESOURCE LINKS

Slatersuccess.com

Her Success Story | Podcast on Spotify

Her Success Story | Apple Podcasts

Kereneldad.com

https://kereneldad.com/resetretreat/

 

BIO:  

Ivy Slater is the CEO of Slater Success, a boutique training, consulting and coaching company focused on growth strategies and leadership development for high-level, service-based businesses. Ivy is a professionally certified business coach, speaker, internationally bestselling author and podcast host. She's scaled her own two businesses to multiple 6 & 7 -figures and speaks nationwide on the topics of leadership, sustainable growth and the value of relationships. In 2020, she was a recipient of a Power Women of New York and of Long Island award, presented by Schneps Media.

 

QUOTES: 

“When we're full down, the greatest strength is in the pulling of ourselves back up.” -Ivy Slater

“We are very unwilling to burn it all to the ground and then essentially be left naked as we pivot into our next phase, but it has to be done in order to bridge that gap between where you are and where you are going next.” -Keren Eldad

Coach Keren Eldad is back with a brand new season of the Coached Podcast! This season will be entirely dedicated to one type of pivot: the midlife crisis. We are taking your questions on how to navigate the big changes that occur or signal this stage transition. 

The ride itself might be rough, but Coach Keren is here to help you get to the other side. And, in this first episode, Coach Keren is going to talk about why a midlife crisis might just end up becoming a midlife AWAKENING. 

IN THIS EPISODE:

 

• [03:25] What is the midlife crisis and why PRAY for one?

 

• [07:33] What you can look forward to learning in this mid-life crisis mini series
• [11:00] What habits, patterns, or beliefs are dragging you against this change rather than towards embracing this new stage of life - and what questions should you start asking yourself to turn it around?

KEY TAKEAWAYS: 

• Midlife doesn’t have to be the gloomiest part of life. Instead, it can be a time of self discovery and reinvention. 
• Like all challenging times and moments in our life - this too can serve as a catalyst for change. It isn’t always easy, but the midlife crisis can launch us into a new and better path: a second act!

 

RESOURCE LINKS

Kereneldad.com

https://kereneldad.com/resetretreat/

Schedule a consultation with Coach Keren:

BIO:  

Keren Eldad is the coach of choice for overachievers who are ready to scale their greatest heights yet - whether that's taking their solo business to 7 and 8 figures, or selling their company, or rocking the C-Suite position of their dreams.

Just as clients hire her to help them gain that support - a sherpa to your Everest-level climb, to expand their self-awareness, uncover their blindspots and get to their next level, the Coached podcast aims to do exactly the same. It is to take the inner journey work, which can be stuffy and heavy, and make it simple, actionable and enjoyable.

 

QUOTES: 

“We are afraid to talk about change - especially talking about a massive change like this one (the midlife crisis). In fact, we like it even less because it makes us extremely vulnerable.”

“We all have blind spots, friends. Everybody does. That's why coaching is so invaluable.”

“Going to the next level is primarily about identifying; where are the blind spots still looming?"

This episode of the Coached podcast is about the pain and glory involved in embracing change - for anyone who is currently going through a life transition, a company transition and even a major event, such as the loss of a loved one. Answering a caller who asks how to move through grief as we grow out of an old identity, Coach Keren explains why it’s so hard, what the four specific costs are to change that hold us “hostage,” and gives you actionable tips so that you can always surmount these challenges immediately.

KerenEldad.com

IN THIS EPISODE:

• [01:30] The pain of change is many times the pain of the shedding of an old identity.
• [03:30] Change is frightening, mainly because it means uncertainty - and uncertainty is the hardest pain for humans to endure. Here’s why.
• [05:40] Another challenge? Many times, the people around you will judge you for changing. 
• [09:50] There is actual hardship in going through something new - but it’s not what you think.
• [11:50] Though the loss of identity may have kept you from taking a big leap, you can overcome this limit into the broadest realms yet in your life. We will show you how.  

Available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts. 

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