Guest: Lyndsay Dowd, Speaker, Author of Top-Down Culture, Host of Heartbeat for Hire

In this powerful episode, Coach K sits down with the extraordinary Lyndsay Dowd, a former IBM executive turned cultural architect, to talk about what real leadership looks like in a post-corporate world.

After 23 years at IBM, Lyndsay was fired from what she thought was her “dream role.” Instead of collapsing, she asked herself three questions that changed everything:

1️⃣ What am I really good at?

2️⃣ What do I love to do?

3️⃣ How can I help people the most?

From those answers, she built an empire of service: founding her company, writing her bestselling book Top-Down Culture, and launching Heartbeat for Hire, a podcast championing authentic leadership and human-centered culture.

Together, Keren and Lyndsay go deep on:

• Why great leadership starts with humility and service
• The power of listening to your heart, even when your parents (and the world) don’t get it
• How to lead people through uncertainty with trust, empathy, and integrity
• The truth about speaking and podcasting as serious professional businesses
• Why the best question any leader can ask is: “How can I be the best leader for you?”
• How marriage, partnership, and safety at home expand your courage in business

Favorite Quote:

“You’ll never look bad lifting others up.” - Lyndsay Dowd

Connect with Lyndsay:

• Book: Top-Down Culture
• Podcast: Heartbeat for Hire
• Website: www.lyndsaydowd.com

Connect with Coach Keren:

• Book: GILDED: Break Free from the Cage of Ambition, Perfectionism, and the Relentless Pursuit of More
• Coaching + Speaking: www.KerenEldad.com
• Book a Clarity Call: calendly.com/kereneldad

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What if wealth started with your frequency—and the spreadsheets came second?

In this conversation, Coach Keren Eldad sits down with Elizabeth Ralph, founder of The Spiritual Investor and former energy trader who retired at 39, to explore a new money paradigm: unite the quantum with practical investing so abundance becomes both a feeling and a financial reality.

Elizabeth Ralph — founder of The Spiritual Investor, former energy trader and financial executive who retired at 39. She teaches entrepreneurs a new money paradigm that unites the quantum with practical investing. Host of The Spiritual Investor Podcast.

What we cover

• The “frequency” of money and why abundance vs. lack is an emotional starting point—not a spreadsheet.
• Elizabeth’s turning point (yes, the kangaroo + Cheetos story) and redefining freedom on your own terms.
• The five-part holistic money system: Investing, Money Management, Income (the conduit), Money Neutrality, and Breaking the Structure.
• Bridging the esoteric and the 3D: how to merge energy work with practical wealth-building.
• Surrendering expectations so money can arrive through more channels than your plan.
• Why teaching is an act of service—and how to follow the “green lights.”

Timestamps

• 00:00 Welcome & set-up: Real wealth consciousness, from Abraham Hicks to Wallace Wattles
• 01:17 Meet Elizabeth Ralph: energy trader → intuitive investor → teacher
• 02:14 On frequency, co-creation, and recognizing resonance
• 03:08 The kangaroo moment: redefining freedom (and your life)
• 08:33 Visual planning, “adding sticks to the fire,” and catching the real-estate wave
• 10:00 Defining freedom realistically (and personally)
• 11:34 From trading floor to horses & slowing the nervous system
• 16:41 First client: “We’re starting with a meditation.” The Spiritual Investor is born
• 22:03 Uniting the quantum & 3D—where people get stuck (and how to bridge)
• 30:02 The 5-part wealth system explained
• 33:15 Compounding, play accounts, and making money while you fly
• 36:00 Surrendering the how: income ≠ control
• 37:51 Money neutrality & breaking the structure (contrast on purpose)
• 39:14 Creation is circular (build → destroy → build)
• 41:20 The mission: put wealth in the hands of the conscious
• 43:18 Life updates: divorce, homecoming, Tennessee ranch, horses, and healing
• 47:16 What’s next: the book, the mastermind, and living in flow
• 49:23 Wrap: becoming a creator, not just a success story

Key ideas & quotables

• “Money is energetic currency. Invite it in rather than chase it.” — Elizabeth
• “The bridge between the 3D and the quantum is emotional.” — Coach K
• “Creation isn’t linear. It’s circular: build → destroy → build.” — Coach K
• “Money neutrality is the void that calls money in.” — Elizabeth
• “Surrender the how so you can receive the more.” — Coach K

Resources mentioned

• AbrahamHicks /Esther Hicks, Byron Katie, Eckhart Tolle
• The Science of Getting Rich, Wallace D. Wattles, 
• Florence Scovel Shinn - YouTube
• It’s Not Your Money,Tosha Silver
• Yuval Noah Harari (Sapiens) on money as an “intersubjective reality”
• Matthew McConaughey (Greenlights)
• Coach K’s book: GILDED - https://www.amazon.com/Gilded-Breaking-Ambition-Perfectionism-Relentless/dp/1684817579
• Get the GILDED Journal to deepen the work / Available on Amazon
• Elizabeth’s podcast: The Spiritual Investor - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-spiritual-investor/id1534639387
• Elizabeth’s Mastermind - https://www.thespiritualinvestor.com/

Connect

• Elizabeth Ralph: Website - https://www.thespiritualinvestor.com/
• Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-spiritual-investor/id1534639387
• Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/elizabethralph/?hl=en
• Coach Keren: www.KerenEldad.com
• Instagram  - https://www.instagram.com/coachkeren/?hl=en
• Work with Coach K / book a clarity call: https://calendly.com/kereneldad/consultation?back=1

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Personal finance icon Jean Chatzky -CEO & co-founder of HerMoney Media, host of the HerMoney podcast, and longtime TODAY Show financial editor- joins Coach Keren to demystify the biggest bugaboo of them all - money. As a great teacher on the subject, Jean shares her zigzag path from journalism to Wall Street and back, the mistakes that shaped her mission, and the five simple habits that put your money (and life) on track. We also unpack FinanceFixx, InvestingFixx, and practical ways to build confidence, community, and wealth, without overwhelm. 

Listen/Watch

• Apple Podcasts (HerMoney): Apple Podcasts
• YouTube playlist (HerMoney): YouTube
• HerMoney site (articles, tools): HerMoney

Timestamps

• (00:00) — Why mindset matters: “If you want to own your life, you have to own your money.”
• (02:12) — Midwest roots, early jobs, first money patterns
• (03:22) — The “high-paying wrong job” detour—and choosing alignment over optics
• (08:30) — Pivot to business journalism → equity research → Forbes: learning to read the numbers
• (13:29) — Core lesson: Numbers don’t lie. Know what’s coming in/out so you can choose your trajectory
• (15:55) — Why even pros need help: the case for a financial advisor as your “objective mirror”
• (17:35) — Why Jean built HerMoney and launched the podcast for women (learning environment > jargon) HerMoney
• (22:06) — Jean’s 5 money habits that compound results (earn, spend under income, invest, protect, give)
• (27:12) — From TV money makeovers to FinanceFixx + InvestingFixx: structure, coaching, community HerMoney+2HerMoney+2
• (29:53) — The power of “zigzags” and saying yes to the open door

Key Ideas & Takeaways

• Alignment first, then money follows. Ditch the binary of “meaning vs. money”—choose meaning, build skill, results accrue.
• Know your numbers. Cash flow awareness = agency.
• Automate investing early. Start with workplace plans or an IRA/Roth; make your money work, consistently.
• Protect the plan. Insurance + basic estate docs (will, POAs, living will) keep progress from unraveling.
• Community multiplies confidence. A welcoming space accelerates learning and action (see HerMoney programs). HerMoney

Resources Mentioned

• HerMoney (articles/tools/newsletter): https://hermoney.com/ HerMoney
• HerMoney Podcast with Jean Chatzky (Apple): https://apple.co/3… Apple Podcasts
• FinanceFixx (4-week money reset): https://hermoney.com/shop/product/financefixx-4-week/ (Use code mentioned on-air: FALL25) HerMoney
• InvestingFixx (women’s investing club w/ Karen Finerman): https://hermoney.com/fixx/ | Join page: https://join.investingfixx.com/ HerMoney+1
• Books by Jean:
• Pay It Down! (debt → wealth on $10/day) PenguinRandomhouse.com
• AgeProof (health + wealth link) Hachette Book Group
• The Difference (resilience, risk, and passion → prosperity) WebScott

About Jean Chatzky

CEO of HerMoney, host of the HerMoney podcast, bestselling author, and the TODAY Show’s financial editor for 25 years. She appears across major media and builds programs that make money simple—and doable. 

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Global leadership mentor Dov Baron joins Coach Keren for a candid conversation on what it really takes to lead with integrity, earn trust, and build cultures of true belonging—not performative “fitting in.” Dov unpacks his Emotional Source Code framework, the destructive side of “enlightenment,” and why leaders must move their teams from tolerated presence to trusted belonging. We also get into AI, guardrails, and why the future of work is profoundly human.

Listen/Watch

• Apple Podcasts: The Dov Baron Show Apple Podcasts
• Spotify: Leadership & Loyalty / The Dov Baron Show Spotify+1
• Dov’s site + blog: dovbaron.com Dov Baron

Timestamps

• (00:01) — Opening and why Dov’s work sits at the intersection of integrity, leadership, and belonging
• (02:27) — The fall: 120 feet, eleven reconstructive surgeries, and five near-death experiences; why “enlightenment is a destructive process”
• (07:21) — Choosing between comeback bravado, lifelong victimhood, or the harder third path: burn the identity and begin again
• (10:18) — From applause-seeking to service: “It’s not what I do. It’s where I’m doing it from.”
• (14:04) — Shadow work, truth-telling, and dropping the pedestal (including for our heroes—and ourselves)
• (21:28) — “You say you want X. What are you willing to give up?” The cost of real change
• (28:00) — How Dov’s polymath path (Kabbalah → Jungian psych → neuroscience → leadership) forged the Emotional Source Code
• (34:27) — The five layers: milieu, anatomy of meaning, identity, values/beliefs, behavior—and why most change fails
• (38:01) — Curiosity ≠ confirmation questions; how leaders rewrite the emotional contract with teams
• (41:18) — Organizational truth-telling vs. profit, and building purpose that creates fierce loyalty
• (44:53) — Rebuilding community at work (mandatory “come in/don’t work” days)
• (45:44 )— AI: why guardrails matter; the human edge will win
• (50:27) — What’s next for Dov: Creating Cultures of Belonging (book + course), weekly writing, ongoing podcast

Key Ideas & Takeaways

• Enlightenment burns before it builds. If you won’t let old identities burn, you won’t rise.
• The Emotional Source Code (ESC) explains why behavior won’t change if you skip meaning and identity work. Start at the source, not the symptom. Dov Baron+1
• Belonging beats fitting in. Fitting in is self-betrayal; belonging creates courage, innovation, and trust. Dov Baron
• Curiosity is rigorous. It seeks to disconfirm your bias and understand the other’s meaning.
• Future of work = more human. Tech will compress the “niche,” but connection, discernment, and community can’t be automated.
• Build community on purpose. Intentionally create non-work time on-site to deepen real bonds.
• Truth-telling scales culture. From “tolerated presence” to “trusted belonging” requires identity-level honesty, not slogans.

Resources Mentioned

• Dov’s website & writing: https://dovbaron.com/ Dov Baron
• Dov’s article hub on belonging: Waitlist + essays on belonging and culture Dov Baron+1
• Book (classic): Fiercely Loyal (Amazon) — retention and loyalty strategies Amazon
• Book (new): Creating Cultures of Belonging — waitlist / updates on dovbaron.com Dov Baron
• Podcast, AI episodes with Prof. De Kai: Part 1 / Part 2 Apple Podcasts+1
• Dov’s podcast pages: Show hub + Apple/Spotify/YouTube playlist YouTube+3Dov Baron+3Apple Podcasts+3

About Dov Baron

Dov is a world-renowned leadership mentor and host of The Dov Baron Show (formerly Leadership & Loyalty). His work blends spiritual traditions, Jungian psychology, neuroscience, and culture-building. He writes weekly on LinkedIn and at dovbaron.com; his books include Fiercely Loyal and the forthcoming Creating Cultures of Belonging. Dov Baron+2Amazon+2

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How do you combine integrity and ambition—and still close massive deals? Jennifer Justice’s career spans Wall Street law firms, the rise of hip-hop, 17 years repping Jay-Z, and building Roc Nation before launching The Justice Dept. to champion women, equity, and ethical dealmaking. In this conversation, JJ breaks down the system, the glass ceilings, and the practical playbook for asking (and getting) what you’re worth—without selling your soul.

What We Cover

• Origin story → Operator: From small-town Washington to Cornell Law to hip-hop’s deal tables.
• Roc Nation years: Structuring cross-industry deals (music, film/TV, branding, sports) and why artists needed true business partners—not just agents.
• Pay equity reality check: How identical roles routinely paid women far less—and how to fight (with counsel).
• Values as a filter: Why centering equity attracts the right clients and deals.
• The “ask” muscle: Why most women never actually ask for full value—and how to change that now.
• Founder advice: Stop doing everything. Know your role on the “team,” hire the rest, and scale.
• Holding integrity as you rise: Self-correction > self-flagellation; keep your North Star and course-correct fast.

Guest: Jennifer Justice (JJ) — CEO & Founder of The Justice Dept. (business strategy, corporate development & investment advisory) focused on helping female founders, execs, talent, and brands grow companies—and wealth. Former entertainment attorney for Jay-Z (17 years) and Beyoncé (1 year); ex-GC & EVP at Roc Nation; named to Billboard’s Women in Power list (3x). Host of Taking Care of Lady Business.

Connect with JJ:

• Website: https://www.thejusticedept.com
• Instagram (firm): https://www.instagram.com/thejustice.dpt/
• TikTok (show): https://www.tiktok.com/@takingcareofladybusiness
• Instagram (JJ): https://www.instagram.com/jenniferjusticel/

JJ’s Quick Frameworks & Prompts

• Know Your Non-Negotiables: Sit with what you truly want (be honest).
• Value Reality Check: Separate household wealth from your earned value. What would your lifestyle be on your income alone?
• Ask → Assess → Act: Ask for what you deserve. If the answer is no, you’re asking the wrong person—move to the next door.
• One Foot In, One Foot Out: If you must take the job, keep searching for the place that matches your value.

Links & Resources

• The Justice Dept. (advisory & law): https://www.thejusticedept.com
• Taking Care of Lady Business (podcast): search on your favorite app or via the site above
• JJ on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jenniferjusticel/
• Firm Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thejustice.dpt/
• TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@takingcareofladybusiness

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In this episode of the Coached Podcast (and the Coaching Masters series), Coach Keren Eldad sits down with reinvention expert, empowerment coach, and bestselling author Wendy Valentine, creator of The Midlife Makeover Show, the #1 podcast inspiring women worldwide to embrace midlife as a powerful new beginning. 

Wendy shares her own “from breakdown to breakthrough” journey: from heartbreak, debt, and chronic illness to driving a 25-foot RV into her future self,  and the radical tools that guided her, including:

• The Wheel of Midlife for evaluating where you are now
• Her FREEDOM Process – the exact 7 steps to reset your life, embody your new identity, and reclaim joy
• Speaking to why embodying your future self before you “arrive” can change everything
• Teaching us how small, deliberate steps (and even doing the “opposite,” as inspired by the greatest Sitcom character ever – George Costanza!) can open doors you never imagined

If you’ve ever wondered what it’s like to be a teacher of transformation or you’re standing at your own crossroads right now, this episode will light the way.

Key Takeaways:

• “We become great teachers by first becoming great students.”
• You can’t shortcut true reinvention, but you can make it practical.
• The “midlife crisis” can actually be a midlife awakening if you allow your old identity to die and commit to the new role.
• Kitten steps > analysis paralysis.
• Wendy’s podcast The Midlife Makeover Show: https://wendyvalentine.com/podcast
• Women Waking Up in Midlife (book): includes $500+ in bonuses: playbook, guided meditations, digital vision board & workshop.
• Kathy Heller’s BookDon’t Keep Your Day Job

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Guest: Ashley Stahl — former counter-terrorism pro, career coach, bestselling author of U-Turn, host of the U-Turn Podcast, founder of Wise Whisper Agency (TEDx + speaking career development)

Episode Summary

At 24, Ashley landed the “dream job” in national security—and immediately felt the misalignment. In this masterclass on identity, discernment, and career clarity, she unpacks the “turn signals” that told her to pivot, the 10 Core Skill Sets framework from U-Turn, and a clean distinction between instinct and intuition. We explore soul line vs. goal line, the dignity of process, and how to build a speaking career from values, not vanity. If you’re in transition—or ready to deepen into mastery—this is your episode.

Key Topics

• Turn Signals vs. Rationalization: How your body flags misalignment before your mind can justify it.
• Values + Skill Set: The “what” (skill set) and the “how” (values) must agree—or you’ll pay for it in energy.
• Identity Work: Why every evolution requires releasing an old identity (“no grief, no glory”).
• Soul Line vs. Goal Line: Achieve without bargaining against your soul.
• Three Lily Pads: Fine → Gift → Flow (and how to move between them).
• Instinct vs. Intuition: Animal alarm vs. wise whisper—and a micro-practice to hear the latter.
• Core Skill Sets: A preview of Ashley’s 10; how energy (introvert/extrovert) filters the right expression of your gift.
• Process Over Speed: Impatience is expensive; honor the experiment.
• AI & Intimacy: Use the tool—don’t outsource your humanity.

Memorable Quotes

• “You don’t need to convince yourself to do what’s aligned.”
• “Every new chapter asks for a new identity.”
• “Don’t do what you love. Do what you are.”
• “The worst time-sucks often arrive dressed as great opportunities.”
• “Never rob someone of the dignity of their process.”

Micro-Practice: Hearing Intuition

1. Slow down (one minute: eyes soft, breath steady).
2. Name the signal: “This feels like fear / this feels like a quiet yes/no.”
3. Act lightly: Take the smallest aligned next step; observe the energy it creates.

Timestamps

• 00:02 – Welcome + series frame: integrity in teaching
• 02:38 – Age 24: “dream job,” misalignment, values conflict
• 06:10 – Turn signals vs. over-rationalizing
• 10:46 – Money, meaning, and the 10th-birthday luggage story
• 13:55 – From Pentagon to coaching: burning through 2,000 alumni calls
• 17:47 – Identity, grief, and letting iterations go
• 24:28 – Deepak, desire, and becoming who you are
• 26:49 – Soul line vs. goal line (and the “LinkedIn line”)
• 29:52 – Three lily pads: Fine → Gift → Flow
• 34:01 – Instinct vs. intuition (wise whispers)
• 36:06 – Core Skill Sets—words, numbers, coordination, service…
• 39:59 – What Ashley may write next (great talks, TEDx)
• 40:54 – The dignity of process; impatience is expensive
• 43:23 – AI as tool, not intimacy; keep humanity at the center
• 45:01 – How to work with Ashley (Wise Whisper Agency)

Resources & Links

• Ashley’s book: U-Turn -
• Ashley’s TEDx: “How to Figure Out What You Really Want”
• Wise Whisper Agency

Books mentioned

• Deepak Chopra, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success 
• Gay Hendricks, The Big Leap 
• Dark Horse (Ogas & Rose) 

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This week on Coached: Coaching Masters, Keren Eldad sits down with Annie Lalla, love coach, philosopher, and teacher whose work helps people find and build relationships that maximize freedom, authenticity, and joy.

In this deep and revelatory conversation, Annie shares:

• Her origin story as a lifelong love philosopher
• The role of self-love in creating great relationships
• How her cancer diagnosis awakened her to true unconditional love
• Her framework for going from WTF to MLK in conflict
• Why love is the ultimate spiritual practice for aliveness

She reminds us that love is not just a feeling – it is a practice, and it is the ultimate path to maximal aliveness.

Connect with Annie Lalla:

Website: annielalla.com

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In this powerful Coaching Masters conversation, Coach Keren Eldad speaks with Kaitlyn Kaerhart, renowned numerologist, astrologer, and author of You Are Cosmic Code. Kaitlyn’s mission is to make esoteric wisdom practical and personal, helping thousands align with their life purpose.

In this episode, Kaitlyn shares:

• Her mystical calling and encounter with an Indian mystic
• How numerology reveals your life path and destiny codes
• Why numerology is like astrology – but based on math and frequency
• Common misconceptions about astrology and numerology
• How your personal year cycles guide your success and timing
• Why your cosmic code is your personal map for alignment

Kaitlyn’s story reminds us: purpose is revealed when we follow curiosity, not convention.

Listen now to discover how numerology and astrology can illuminate your life path – and how this niche in the coaching universe fits within the great scope of teaching. Enjoy Coaching Masters. 

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Instagram: @kaerhart 

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Our esteemed guest is Beatriz Victoria Albina, nurse practitioner, somatic coach, speaker; creator of the term Emotional Outsourcing; host of Feminist Wellness; author of the forthcoming book Emotional Outsourcing (book page); more on Bea at beatrizalbina.com.

If you’ve ever felt your worth was tied to how useful you are, Bea offers a science-backed, somatic path out of people-pleasing, perfectionism, and codependency—so you can become your own guiding light.

Why this teacher matters: “Bea understands that when we stop outsourcing our worth, we finally come home to ourselves, because she has learned this in her own life and discipline. This conversation maps the route to a nervous-system first, slow and sustainable, deeply embodied life, and to truly exceptional teaching.

What we cover

• The core belief “my value is what I can do for others” and how it shapes identity, health – and your coaching practice
• Bea’s move from family nurse practitioner to somatic coach after seeing what prescriptions couldn’t fix
• What Emotional Outsourcing really means (and why the old labels didn’t land)
• The physiological toll of chronic self-abandonment (digestion, thyroid, energy, anxiety)
• Ventral vagal regulation: why safety is the precondition for lasting change
• Practical somatic tools: orienting, interoception, “kitten steps,” bodily needs before inbox needs
• The effect of our culture lens: patriarchy / capitalism / colonialism and how systems inform our values and our teaching
• Boundaries from the body vs. “performative” boundaries from the head
• Coaching: what level of regulation, authenticity, shadow work, and refusing the pedestal is necessary for true mastery

Listen for these gems

• “Catharsis is cute—slow changes lives.”
• “I am safe enough.” (Why the enough matters to your nervous system.)
• “If your boundary isn’t felt in the body, you’ll fold like an origami swan.”
• “My goal is for my clients not to need me.” – ULTIMATE coach statement!

Try this →Bea’s 2-minute practice for Presence

1. Look around the room and name 5 things you see.
2. Tell yourself: “I am safe enough to be present.”
3. Feel your feet. Inhale and drop your breath down to your feet.
4. Honor one body cue (pee, sip water, step outside for sunlight).
5. Repeat hourly—slow is smooth; smooth is fast.

One tiny script that changes everything

When you want to reflexively say yes: “I need to think about that.”

Create space. Check your body. Decide from self-respect, not approval-seeking.

Links & resources

• Bea’s website: beatrizalbina.com
• Bea’s podcast Feminist Wellness: beatrizalbina.com/podcast
• Bea’s book Emotional Outsourcing: beatrizalbina.com/book
• Sir Ken Robinson TED Talk: Do Schools Kill Creativity?

Timestamps

• 00:00 – Intro & why Bea’s work matters
• 03:01 – “My value is tied to usefulness”: origin story
• 04:14 – From medicine to somatics: what prescriptions missed
• 06:01 – The body keeps score: digestive issues & stress
• 15:07 – Ventral vagal explained; presence as practice
• 16:31 – The “carousel” and why change must be slow
• 17:59 – Orienting + “I am safe enough”
• 20:02 – Bodily needs first; inbox second
• 23:06 – Defining Emotional Outsourcing
• 27:43 – Systems lens: patriarchy, capitalism, colonialism
• 31:52 – Why somatics > habit hacks
• 35:45 – What makes a master coach
• 42:53 – One thing to do today & “kitten steps”

If this resonated, share the episode with a friend who’s healing from over-functioning. Then grab Bea’s book and start your “kitten steps” today.

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