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“One of the biggest misconceptions is that people don’t want to help you,” says entrepreneur Chris Winfield. The cofounder of Super Connector Media, Winfield is known for getting good at—you guessed it—connecting and networking with people in a different, deeper way. His personal story includes a failed business, a rocky path to sobriety, and a challenge to himself: to meet with one new person every day. The rules? To be open, honest, and vulnerable with each person. And to ask what they need from him, rather than the other way around. Winfield’s intimate conversation with the goopfellas covers imposter syndrome, the ways addiction can fuel self-sabotaging behaviors, and the daily routines (that we love and hate) that set us up for success.

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“Relationships are chapters in a long story,” says James Sexton, author of How to Stay in Love. Today, Sexton teaches us what he’s learned from twenty years as a divorce lawyer and from his own divorce. To make a marriage last: “Never stop trying to close your spouse,” says Sexton. Take preventative measures. Have a plan for how you’re going to argue and be in conflict—before you’re in conflict. Mind your plate. Pay attention. It’s not about being right. It’s about being happy. And if you’re not happy, have the courage to close one chapter and open another with compassion—for your partner and yourself. 

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“We need to free ourselves from the tyranny of the to-do list,” says Nir Eyal, author of Indistractable. Eyal joins the guys to teach us a different—and more effective—method for optimizing our input and realizing that we don’t generally control output. We tend to allow distraction to prioritize the urgent at the expense of the important, says Eyal. Instead, he uses something called time-blocking to reframe how we view productivity. Instead of blaming technology, Eyal helps people to identify the roots of chronic distractedness. In the process, he dispels some myths on habits and reminds us that we don’t need to go pro in everything. And he offers his four strategies for beating distraction: mastering internal triggers, making time for traction (more on that in the episode), hacking back external triggers, and preventing distraction with pacts.

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“The degree to which the diet is difficult to follow will determine how long someone will continue to do it,” says nutritionist and trainer Harley Pasternak. Why we like his conversation with Seamus Mullen and Will Cole: Pasternak doesn’t believe in dieting. He doesn’t believe in extreme exercising. He’d rather we go for a walk and call a friend. He understands why we like sugar (he’s also the cofounder of a mint brand called Sweetkick). Today, Pasternak shares the food, movement, and stress management philosophies—along with a system for tracking personal wellness goals—that has helped his clients (including half of Hollywood’s action stars) to feel their best.

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“From the get-go, boys are raised in a more emotionally impoverished landscape than girls,” says Peggy Orenstein, author of Girls and Sex and her latest, Boys and Sex. Orenstein’s research on how girls, boys, women, and men view sex, love, porn, the hook-up culture, and modern masculinity is: fascinating. In this episode, she shares from the many conversations she’s had about sex and vulnerability that have changed her own perspective, and certainly ours. How and from where do we learn about intimacy? What might we need to re-learn? Orenstein’s work is impactful whether or not you have children, but if you do, hear out what she has to say about talking with your kids about sex.

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“Men are sometimes shocked to learn that they have estrogen,” says integrative medicine physician Taz Bhatia, MD. In this episode, Bhatia shares the primary health issues that she sees among her male patients—from low testosterone to other hormonal disruptions, imbalances in the gut, and nutritional deficiencies. She talks us through hormone replacement therapy—and why she thinks you need to be very careful—and which supplements she typically subscribes. She also talks about the warning signs that something is up—changes in energy, weight, libido—and why many men have a tendency to downplay what their body is telling them. For men and women, Bhatia believes that insulin resistance plays a huge role in many health conditions and that often the first step to healing or optimizing our health begins with dealing with insulin resistance and inflammation. 

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“You are the architect of your future brain,” says neurologist David Perlmutter, MD, coauthor of Brain Wash. Today, he joins the goopfellas with his son and coauthor, Austin Perlmutter, MD. The Perlmutters share what they’ve learned about our brain’s ability to make good—and bad—decisions. The amygdala is responsible for emotional reactions and impulsivity, explain the father-son doctors. Willpower (or rather “won’t power”) fails because our environments tend to be set up poorly for our health—and our future brains. But there are simple things we can do to change our environments and the way we respond to them. And there are levers that we can pull for brain health, overall well-being, and joy. For example, getting out in nature helps, say the Perlmutters, and so does keeping plants or photos of nature inside. They share tweaks to nighttime routines for better sleep, technology that can support positive habits, and other tips for fostering connection.

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Elissa Goodman is a holistic nutritionist and author of Cancer Hacks. Despite the controversy, she’s a big juicer. Her soup cleanses—which include forty-five different vegetables—are becoming famous in LA. Inside her supplement box, there are probiotics, digestive enzymes, vitamin D, magnesium, zinc, and B12. She likes adaptogens—and Tulsi tea—a lot. She’s into collagen, and in this episode, she goes back and forth with functional practitioner Will Cole about the best forms, while chef Seamus Mullen explains how he makes his favorite bone broth. They talk about what else is in Goodman’s tool kit for healing the gut and supporting the immune and digestive systems, why we should follow our own instincts, and what it means to be a flexitarian or to go 80-20. And: why, above everything, Goodman believes the inner journey is the most important one.

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Will Siu, Harvard-trained psychiatrist, shares what he’s learned about anxiety, depression, and mental health from experiencing and practicing psychedelic-assisted psychotherapy—along with other tools for understanding deeper parts of ourselves and our consciousness. Siu sees mental health as inextricably connected to physical health and he’s found that sometimes processing emotions or trauma involves a physical experience. In this personal conversation with Seamus Mullen and Will Cole, Siu focuses a lot on processing anger and why this is an emotion that men, in particular, default to. This was he lived for a long time, Siu says. “When we feel scared, when we feel ashamed, these are things that men are not allowed to fear—so we go to anger because it’s acceptable,” says Siu. “Anytime you’re feeling anger, look what’s under it.”

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“We have to make the issue of gender equality discussable,” says journalist Joanne Lipman. Which is what she’s done in her fascinating, well-researched, and even enjoyable book, That’s What She Said. Lipman joins Will Cole and Seamus Mullen to dissect the double standards men and women face at the office and throughout their careers and lives—many of these biases are unconscious and surprising. She shares insights from cultures and organizations that are making meaningful headway, along with actionable steps and strategies for becoming aware of our own biases, growing the courage to step up, and supporting men and women to close the gender gap.

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