Do you bristle when things do not go according to plan? In this episode, we explore how the habit of trying to control everything becomes one of the biggest time wasters and energy drains in your life. When you pour effort into things that are not fully under your control, you lose time, and you exhaust your mental, emotional, and physical resources.

Many of us do this without realizing it. Trying to manage other people's feelings, reactions, or interpretations drains our energy and leaves us feeling ineffective. I explore why the urge to overcontrol develops and what changes when you shift your attention to the small category of what is genuinely yours to manage, rather than the much larger category that is not.

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What if being undone, feeling big emotions, or even feeling overwhelmed is actually what healing looks like? Most of us have been taught that doing well means feeling calm, composed, and in control, but I want to make the case that falling apart might be a sign of your greatest emotional strength and a marker that you're at a meaningful growth edge.

In this episode, I explore why emotional capacity, strength, resilience, and progress sometimes look messy. You'll discover why feeling big feelings isn't failure; it's often a sign of recovery. You'll learn how a regulated nervous system isn't defined by calm, but by responsiveness. And you'll understand why emotional intensity may mean your system is no longer in survival mode, but is expanding its capacity to hold more of your lived experience.

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Do you ever find yourself reading too much into a situation and suddenly thinking everyone around you dislikes you? In this episode, I explore how the meanings we assign to everyday moments can shape our experience of life. These interpretations can either lift us up or weigh us down, often without us even realizing it.

You'll discover how to identify your default meaning-making patterns and learn how to choose interpretations that work for you, not against you. I'll share specific prompts to help you reframe moments of struggle with compassion and curiosity, without falling into the trap of toxic positivity. By the end, you'll have tools to catch yourself in unhelpful narratives and experiment with meanings that support your growth.

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Have you ever mapped out a perfect plan for change only to watch it fall apart within days? That cycle is not a discipline problem. It is a sign that the foundation beneath your habit change is missing the elements that make new patterns truly sustainable. Most people focus on the plan itself, not the internal and practical skills that allow a plan to hold up in real life.

In this episode, I break down the most common mistakes I see when people try to change their habits and why those approaches backfire. You will also learn the four keys that create real progress. When you focus on these foundations, you build habits that work in the midst of unpredictability rather than collapsing under it.

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Have you ever noticed how quickly you brush off something that was actually really hard? This instinct to minimize difficulty might seem harmless, but it shapes how connected you feel to yourself and how honestly you experience your life.

In this episode, I explore the habit of minimizing difficulties: why we dismiss or dilute how challenging something was after it's over and how this pattern disconnects us from ourselves. Whether it's downplaying a tough day or pretending a painful experience was "fine," this habit can quietly erode self-trust and emotional awareness. You'll learn how to recognize when you're glossing over your real experience and what changes when you start telling the truth about what was hard.

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Do you ever find yourself overwhelmed by an inner critic that constantly tells you you're not good enough, that you should be doing more, or that you'll never get it right? This inner narrative can be so persistent and familiar that it feels like it's just a part of who you are. But what if you could separate yourself from these critical thoughts and see them for what they really are: just thoughts?

In today's episode, I'm teaching you the powerful concept of unblending. Unblending is the process of separating yourself from negative, critical thoughts or emotional states so that you can observe them objectively, rather than being swept up by them. We'll explore a simple exercise that helps you shift from being fully immersed in your inner critic to observing it with distance and clarity.

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Why does inner work matter when so much of life's struggle seems to happen outside of you? It's easy to think the real problems are external—your workload, relationships, or circumstances—but neglecting your inner world limits your ability to handle those outer challenges effectively.

In this episode, I explore how doing inner work builds the foundation for meaningful external change. You'll learn three reasons why self-understanding, awareness, and emotional honesty are not indulgent but essential for agency and resilience. You'll see how focusing inward helps you respond with clarity instead of reactivity, and why cultivating inner awareness allows you to meet life's demands from a grounded, intentional place.

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Have you ever made a detailed plan to change everything at once, only to find yourself back where you started weeks later? Grand plans often look inspiring, but they rarely hold up in daily life. They demand more than what's realistic for the season you're in and leave no room for flexibility when life gets in the way.

In this episode, I explore three key reasons why ambitious plans often fail and why starting small is the true key to sustainable change. You'll learn how perfectionism, impatience, and the belief that small steps mean weakness keep you in cycles of all-or-nothing effort. I'll share a simple, practical approach to goal-setting that helps you stay consistent and build trust with yourself over time.

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Ever reach the end of the day and wonder where the hours went, only to realize you still haven't done what you set out to do? Maybe you got lost in emails, organizing, or helping others while your own priorities slipped away. This disconnect isn't about poor time management; it's a sign of two related challenges: time blindness and values blindness.

Time blindness, common in people with ADHD but experienced by many, happens when your brain loses track of the passage of time. In this episode, I break down how both time and values blindness shape your attention, energy, and sense of alignment. You'll learn practical strategies to regain control using tools from executive functioning, including external reminders, task chunking, and reflection exercises. By noticing where your time and values are going, you can create a life that feels steady, aligned, and purposeful.

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Do you sometimes feel like the person you show up as each day isn't the real you? Between work, family, and the constant pull of daily responsibilities, it's easy to drift into autopilot and lose touch with your inner self. In this episode, we explore how to come back home to yourself and cultivate a sense of internal belonging that grounds your thoughts, feelings, and actions in what truly matters.

Authenticity isn't just about being genuine with others. Through practical prompts and reflective practices, you'll learn to pay attention to your thoughts, feelings, impulses, and beliefs in a way that builds self-awareness. You'll discover how to notice when you're out of alignment, face uncomfortable truths with honesty, and make internal authenticity a daily practice rather than a vague concept.

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