Have you ever noticed a behavior or pattern that you know you should change, but you just can’t seem to? Whether it’s scrolling aimlessly on your phone or saying yes to commitments you don’t want, that moment of recognition is where change begins. But what if that moment of awareness, even without immediate change, is more powerful than you think?

 

In this episode, I revisit one of the foundational concepts in behavior change: awareness precedes change. While this idea was introduced in an early episode, my understanding has evolved significantly. You'll learn practical ways to expand your awareness beyond just cognitive observation, including a simple practice you can use anytime.

 

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When your emotions feel overwhelming, pushing them away seems like the only option. That familiar tightness in your chest, the urge to fix everything immediately, the exhaustion that comes from constantly suppressing what you feel - these experiences shape how you move through each day. 

 

Through this episode, you'll discover how to relate to your emotions as messengers carrying vital information rather than inconveniences to manage. You'll learn practical ways to shift from reflexively fixing or avoiding difficult feelings to approaching them with curiosity and compassion. By the end, you'll have concrete tools for turning toward your emotions instead of away from them, creating a richer understanding of yourself in the process.

 

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Have you ever had one of those days when things just take longer than you expected? Maybe a task that should have taken 30 minutes ends up consuming hours, and suddenly, you're behind on everything. It’s easy to start feeling overwhelmed, stressed, or frustrated when your plans go sideways.

 

In this episode, I share a simple framework to help you navigate these moments without getting caught in a spiral of self-blame or urgency. You’ll learn how to pause, check the context, and realign with what really matters, turning those pressure-filled moments into opportunities for clarity and creative problem-solving.

 

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What is nourishing you these days? In this light and reflective episode, I share a curated collection of simple pleasures and meaningful concepts that are currently bringing joy and stability to my life. From practical travel items to philosophical insights, these are the elements helping me navigate daily life with more groundedness and connection.

 

As summer approaches, I'm finding deep appreciation in both the tangible and intangible - everything from a cherished gift to the profound teachings of a grief expert. These items, ideas, and practices form a tapestry of support that keeps me feeling human and connected during challenging times.

 

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For natural-born fixers and problem solvers, the instinct to tackle every challenge head-on is deeply ingrained. Whether facing procrastination, overwhelm, or late-night scrolling habits, the immediate response is often to search for a solution.

 

In this episode, I explore why the concept of "fixing yourself" may be counterproductive when it comes to creating lasting change. Drawing from Internal Family Systems theory and real-world examples, I share how shifting from a fixing mindset to one of understanding can transform our approach to personal growth and habit change.

 

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Do you reflect on your experiences with self-criticism? In this episode, I revisit a powerful narrative technique called the "Once-Upon-a-Time" technique that helps you gain perspective on challenging situations and cultivate self-compassion. This two-part reflective practice transforms how you view your experiences by allowing you to step back and observe yourself through the lens of a neutral observer.

 

The technique involves writing about a meaningful experience twice - first from your personal perspective, and then rewriting it as if you're an anthropologist studying someone else's story. Through this process, you discover hidden thought patterns and create space for a more balanced, compassionate view of yourself and your actions.

 

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Why do I know exactly what to do but still don't do it? This frustrating disconnect between intellectual understanding and actual behavior isn't a sign of weakness or laziness. It's a common human experience that has logical explanations beneath the surface.

 

In this episode, I explore the knowing-doing gap – that puzzling space where we intellectually understand what would help us, but can't seem to follow through. I offer a simple three-part tool to help you bridge this gap with curiosity and compassion rather than judgment and frustration.

 

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Do you feel like your urges seem to have a mind of their own? Those compelling impulses to check your phone, eat something sweet, or pour another glass of wine often feel like unwelcome intruders in our carefully planned lives. However, urges aren't problems to fix—they're messengers trying to communicate something important.

 

I'll share a powerful metaphor that changed how I understand urges, along with practical prompts to help you decode what your urges are really trying to tell you. By approaching these impulses with curiosity instead of judgment, you can transform your relationship with them and access deeper self-knowledge. When you understand what drives your urges, you gain the freedom to choose how you respond to them.

 

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Do you try to fix or suppress your anger, and feel guilty if you can't? Many of us have been taught to see anger as shameful, unprofessional, or even dangerous. As a result, we bottle it up, push it down, and try to ignore it. The cost of burying anger is emotional exhaustion and disconnection from ourselves. 

 

In this episode, I share a different approach to anger – one that views it not as a liability but as a messenger. I offer three powerful prompts to help you relate to your anger differently, allowing you to rebuild inner trust and reconnect with your authentic self without fear of explosive expression.

 

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Do you ever feel like you've lost touch with who you really are? That somewhere along the way, between the endless to-do lists, caring for others, and just trying to survive each day, you've forgotten what makes you feel alive?

 

This episode offers a compassionate look at why we lose ourselves and practical steps to find our way back. I'll share why our disconnection makes perfect sense, how our adaptive strategies that once helped us survive can eventually obscure our true selves, and a simple yet powerful exercise to begin reconnecting with who you really are beneath all the layers of coping and survival.

 

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