Have you ever tried to “think your way” into feeling better, only to feel stuck in the same patterns? It’s easy to fall into the belief that changing our thoughts will automatically change our emotions and habits. But what if the solution isn’t about forcing yourself to think better thoughts? What if it’s about understanding emotions in a deeper, more compassionate way?

 

In this episode, I revisit the ideas I first shared on an early episode of the podcast about how to feel better. While I once believed that changing our thoughts was the key to lasting change, I now realize it’s only part of the equation. By shifting from trying to manage your feelings to understanding and relating to them, you can create the lasting changes you’ve been seeking.

 

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Have you ever tried to change by simply thinking a new thought, only to feel frustrated when the change doesn’t happen as easily as promised? The idea that if you just change your thoughts, you can change your life has been a cornerstone of personal development for years. But what if it's not the whole story?

 

In this episode, I’m revisiting a concept from an early episode, where I taught "thinking a new thought" as the key to change. While this cognitive behavioral approach helped many of my clients, I now realize how incomplete it is. Our experience is shaped by much more than our thoughts. It’s influenced by our nervous system, memories, trauma, and even cultural systems. I’ll explain why thought work is useful but not enough, and why real change involves understanding the deeper layers beneath our thoughts.

 

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Have you ever received a compliment or acknowledged a success, only to immediately deflect or downplay it? Or perhaps you’ve accomplished something meaningful but instead of feeling proud, you start to focus on what could have been better? This tendency to minimize our strengths and dismiss our progress can be so automatic that we don’t even realize we’re doing it.

 

In this episode, I explore why we minimize ourselves and how to relate to this habit differently. What I once saw as just a bad mental habit to fix, I now understand as a protective strategy—a part of us trying to keep us safe from vulnerability, judgment, or failure. Through the lens of Internal Family Systems, embodiment, and nervous system regulation, I’ll show you how this tendency serves a purpose and how we can start to shift it.

 

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Have you ever been so angry about something, voiced your concerns, advocated for a solution, maybe even cried over it, only to have nothing change? The situation remains the same, the person doesn’t budge, and your anger lingers, leaving you stuck. What now? In this episode, I explore the exhaustion that comes when we’re angry about something that won’t shift.

 

You’ll discover why anger becomes exhausting when there’s no external resolution, what emotions typically hide beneath it, and how to redefine resolution as an internal process rather than an external outcome. You’ll also learn practical ways to work with your anger so you can continue advocating for what matters without being undone by what you can’t control.

 

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Have you ever noticed a behavior or pattern that you know you should change, but you just can’t seem to? Whether it’s scrolling aimlessly on your phone or saying yes to commitments you don’t want, that moment of recognition is where change begins. But what if that moment of awareness, even without immediate change, is more powerful than you think?

 

In this episode, I revisit one of the foundational concepts in behavior change: awareness precedes change. While this idea was introduced in an early episode, my understanding has evolved significantly. You'll learn practical ways to expand your awareness beyond just cognitive observation, including a simple practice you can use anytime.

 

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When your emotions feel overwhelming, pushing them away seems like the only option. That familiar tightness in your chest, the urge to fix everything immediately, the exhaustion that comes from constantly suppressing what you feel - these experiences shape how you move through each day. 

 

Through this episode, you'll discover how to relate to your emotions as messengers carrying vital information rather than inconveniences to manage. You'll learn practical ways to shift from reflexively fixing or avoiding difficult feelings to approaching them with curiosity and compassion. By the end, you'll have concrete tools for turning toward your emotions instead of away from them, creating a richer understanding of yourself in the process.

 

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Have you ever had one of those days when things just take longer than you expected? Maybe a task that should have taken 30 minutes ends up consuming hours, and suddenly, you're behind on everything. It’s easy to start feeling overwhelmed, stressed, or frustrated when your plans go sideways.

 

In this episode, I share a simple framework to help you navigate these moments without getting caught in a spiral of self-blame or urgency. You’ll learn how to pause, check the context, and realign with what really matters, turning those pressure-filled moments into opportunities for clarity and creative problem-solving.

 

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What is nourishing you these days? In this light and reflective episode, I share a curated collection of simple pleasures and meaningful concepts that are currently bringing joy and stability to my life. From practical travel items to philosophical insights, these are the elements helping me navigate daily life with more groundedness and connection.

 

As summer approaches, I'm finding deep appreciation in both the tangible and intangible - everything from a cherished gift to the profound teachings of a grief expert. These items, ideas, and practices form a tapestry of support that keeps me feeling human and connected during challenging times.

 

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For natural-born fixers and problem solvers, the instinct to tackle every challenge head-on is deeply ingrained. Whether facing procrastination, overwhelm, or late-night scrolling habits, the immediate response is often to search for a solution.

 

In this episode, I explore why the concept of "fixing yourself" may be counterproductive when it comes to creating lasting change. Drawing from Internal Family Systems theory and real-world examples, I share how shifting from a fixing mindset to one of understanding can transform our approach to personal growth and habit change.

 

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Do you reflect on your experiences with self-criticism? In this episode, I revisit a powerful narrative technique called the "Once-Upon-a-Time" technique that helps you gain perspective on challenging situations and cultivate self-compassion. This two-part reflective practice transforms how you view your experiences by allowing you to step back and observe yourself through the lens of a neutral observer.

 

The technique involves writing about a meaningful experience twice - first from your personal perspective, and then rewriting it as if you're an anthropologist studying someone else's story. Through this process, you discover hidden thought patterns and create space for a more balanced, compassionate view of yourself and your actions.

 

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