Healing Our Relationships: From Codependency to Authenticity

This week on the Healing Our Relationships Podcast I have a very special guest. She is the author of 13 books, the Founder of Venus Rising Association for Transformation and creator of Shamanic Breathwork. She has been a shamanic visionary teacher and guide to thousands of people over the last four decades, dedicating her life to assisting soul seekers to transform and embrace their lives. Star Wolf's lifelong passion and sacred purpose is to support personal transformation. She shares openly and vulnerably of her addiction and codependency recovery and brings forward a theme we have not yet touched on in our podcast, Codependency as a crisis of the Spirit.

In this vulnerable and intimate conversation, we explore how the roots of codependency can stem from spiritual disconnection, the forgetting of who we truly are and the divine source that is all around us. Star Wolf speaks to how recovery, in its truest sense, is a process of remembrance and of coming home to the sacred within ourselves.

Together, we discuss how healing moves beyond human behavior and into the realm of the soul, where surrender becomes an opening rather than a loss, and where breath becomes the bridge between the human and the divine.

We also touch on the deeper spiritual roots of codependency and how it reflects the collective wounding of the Divine Feminine under patriarchal systems that have long valued doing over being, pleasing over truth, and control over trust. In reclaiming our connection, we begin to restore balance within ourselves and the world remembering that our worth, our power, and our love were never meant to be earned, only remembered.

This episode is an invitation to those on the path to explore if a connection to something greater could help them reclaim the power of love, and to remember that the journey of healing is ultimately a journey of returning to wholeness, to truth, and to the heart of who we are.

I invite you to have an open heart and open mind. Take what feels in alignment, leave what doesn't and be curous about that which may push you to your edges. Remember we are sharing our own personal expereince- not overarching truths.

Learn More About Star Wolf and Venus Rising at https://www.shamanicbreathwork.org/

You can buy her new book Aquarian Shaman Here

You can learn more about SHIP (Shamanic Healing Initiatory Process) Here

Buy Jacquelyn Small's Book Awakening In Time From Codependency to Co-Creation Here

If you are ready to stop circling the same patterns and start living differently book a Free Connection Call with me to see how a 12-week guided 1:1 journey can help you rebuild trust with yourself and step into the life of radial self-acceptance and embodied love.

Book your connection call here

📖 Want to Dive Deeper? Get The Workbook!

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Read the Back Cover👇

A Compassionate Guide To Understanding The Patterns That Once Protected You

Whether you know the C-word, "Codependency,"and feel ready for this book, or the word itself makes you recoil from it like a hot flame, I promise this journey will surprise you, and hopefully inspire you to pass it on to a friend. Codependency is often misunderstood. It is not just people-pleasing or insecurity, it lives on a spectrum that almost everyone dances on. It shows up in the one who over-gives and the one who withdraws, in the perfectionist, the caretaker, the person who stays guarded, and the one who has spent years abandoning themselves to keep the peace. If you have ever related to others from a place of fear rather than authenticity, this book was written for you. Inspired by the author's beloved Healing Our Relationships podcast, this workbook draws from eighteen years of lived spiritual exploration. The workbook does not ask you to see yourself as broken, or to become someone better, but simply to remember and return to the authentic truth of who you already are. Through a lens of compassionate curiosity you will explore five core areas of codependent patterns, patterns many of us adapted to survive when our needs, feelings, and truth felt unsafe to express. Each area is explored through a five-step inquiry process that reveals the pattern, honors its origin, acknowledges the cost, and re-orients you towards new possibilities. Then, it brings it all into the practice of daily life. This is where the mind stops running old patterns on autopilot, the nervous system begins to heal, and you reclaim the power of choice. You are not here to judge yourself or label yourself as being codependent. You are here to honor what once protected you and to reclaim the parts of yourself that got lost along the way. If you have spent years abandoning yourself, shape-shifting for others, staying walled off or emotionally unavailable, or repeating painful relationship patterns, this is your invitation back to the most important relationship of all- the one you have with yourself.

Head to https://www.healwithalchemy.com/presale use the Promo Code: PODCAST to pre-order the book at a special discount.

Follow our NEW instagram page @healingourrelationships

The book and our new website will be live June First @ www.healingourrelationships.com

Work with me 1:1 or set up a free connection call @ https://www.healwithalchemy.com/coaching

In order to be authentic we have to have the courage to be seen, judged and misunderstood.

So much of our fear of authenticity comes from making assumptions and projection — seeing others not as they are, but through the lens of our own unhealed stories. Whether we are the projectors or being projected upon, in this episode of Healing Our Relationships, we explore how projections keep us afraid to be fully ourselves, and understanding that people's personal experience with us, is rarely just about us. And how having the courage to live with this awareness transforms it into a pathway of freedom.

We explore the subtle and often painful ways projection keeps us trapped in fear — fear of being misunderstood, fear of being too much or not enough, fear of losing love if we show who we really are.

This is a conversation about learning to let others be themselves without trying to fix, manage, or interpret them through the lens of our own wounds. It's also about reclaiming your own freedom by allowing people to have their experience of you and learning how to hold judgement, criticism and someone else's fear.

Together, we'll explore what it means to stand rooted in authenticity, to hold the discomfort of being misunderstood, and to meet yourself with compassion when fears rise. Through reflection and embodied practice, you'll begin to notice the moments when projection takes over, and learn how to return to truth again and again.

Because when you stop trying to control how others see you, you make space for the one thing you've been searching for all along: the freedom to be yourself.

If you are ready to stop circling the same patterns and start living differently book a Free Connection Call with me to see how a 12-week guided 1:1 journey can help you rebuild trust with yourself and step into the life of radial self-acceptance and embodied love.

Book your connection call here

📖 Want to Dive Deeper? Get The Workbook!

PRESALE IS OPEN! USE THE PROMO CODE: PODCAST

Read the Back Cover👇

A Compassionate Guide To Understanding The Patterns That Once Protected You

Whether you know the C-word, "Codependency,"and feel ready for this book, or the word itself makes you recoil from it like a hot flame, I promise this journey will surprise you, and hopefully inspire you to pass it on to a friend. Codependency is often misunderstood. It is not just people-pleasing or insecurity, it lives on a spectrum that almost everyone dances on. It shows up in the one who over-gives and the one who withdraws, in the perfectionist, the caretaker, the person who stays guarded, and the one who has spent years abandoning themselves to keep the peace. If you have ever related to others from a place of fear rather than authenticity, this book was written for you. Inspired by the author's beloved Healing Our Relationships podcast, this workbook draws from eighteen years of lived spiritual exploration. The workbook does not ask you to see yourself as broken, or to become someone better, but simply to remember and return to the authentic truth of who you already are. Through a lens of compassionate curiosity you will explore five core areas of codependent patterns, patterns many of us adapted to survive when our needs, feelings, and truth felt unsafe to express. Each area is explored through a five-step inquiry process that reveals the pattern, honors its origin, acknowledges the cost, and re-orients you towards new possibilities. Then, it brings it all into the practice of daily life. This is where the mind stops running old patterns on autopilot, the nervous system begins to heal, and you reclaim the power of choice. You are not here to judge yourself or label yourself as being codependent. You are here to honor what once protected you and to reclaim the parts of yourself that got lost along the way. If you have spent years abandoning yourself, shape-shifting for others, staying walled off or emotionally unavailable, or repeating painful relationship patterns, this is your invitation back to the most important relationship of all- the one you have with yourself.

Head to https://www.healwithalchemy.com/presale use the Promo Code: PODCAST to pre-order the book at a special discount.

Follow our NEW instagram page @healingourrelationships

The book and our new website will be live June First @ www.healingourrelationships.com

Work with me 1:1 or set up a free connection call @ https://www.healwithalchemy.com/coaching

This month I am on an ancestral pilgrimage to Italy with my father so I am getting creative to bring you something every week. A couple weeks ago my offering for you was a free 7 Day Morning Practice at your own pace video course, last week I offered you a prayer for moments of relationship fear, obsession or disastermind. This week I offer you a guided meditation.

In this meditation you will embark on a profound journey to release feelings of insecurity, unreasonable expectations for yourself and "not enoughness," fear, and anxieties. Expand your consciousness, and transition from focusing on the micro to the macro. As you immerse yourself in the energy of your soul, you will rise above your current state, and transcend beyond the constraints of your rolls, expectations and surroundings. Find inner peace and transform your perspective in this empowering meditation experience.

Give yourself 10 mins to be held, inspired inside of your vision and connect to yourself. I have a reputation for being the best meditation teacher for people who don't like to meditate. I don't invite you into silence, but into vision, into a creation of an inner landscape where you can learn to trust yourself and remember who you are.

You can find more of my meditations on Insight Timer or my personal mediation App Healspace.

If you are ready to stop circling the same patterns and start living differently book a Free Connection Call with me to see how a 12-week guided 1:1 journey can help you rebuild trust with yourself and step into the life of radial self-acceptance and embodied love.

Book your connection call here

📖 Want to Dive Deeper? Get The Workbook!

PRESALE IS OPEN! USE THE PROMO CODE: PODCAST

Read the Back Cover👇

A Compassionate Guide To Understanding The Patterns That Once Protected You

Whether you know the C-word, "Codependency,"and feel ready for this book, or the word itself makes you recoil from it like a hot flame, I promise this journey will surprise you, and hopefully inspire you to pass it on to a friend. Codependency is often misunderstood. It is not just people-pleasing or insecurity, it lives on a spectrum that almost everyone dances on. It shows up in the one who over-gives and the one who withdraws, in the perfectionist, the caretaker, the person who stays guarded, and the one who has spent years abandoning themselves to keep the peace. If you have ever related to others from a place of fear rather than authenticity, this book was written for you. Inspired by the author's beloved Healing Our Relationships podcast, this workbook draws from eighteen years of lived spiritual exploration. The workbook does not ask you to see yourself as broken, or to become someone better, but simply to remember and return to the authentic truth of who you already are. Through a lens of compassionate curiosity you will explore five core areas of codependent patterns, patterns many of us adapted to survive when our needs, feelings, and truth felt unsafe to express. Each area is explored through a five-step inquiry process that reveals the pattern, honors its origin, acknowledges the cost, and re-orients you towards new possibilities. Then, it brings it all into the practice of daily life. This is where the mind stops running old patterns on autopilot, the nervous system begins to heal, and you reclaim the power of choice. You are not here to judge yourself or label yourself as being codependent. You are here to honor what once protected you and to reclaim the parts of yourself that got lost along the way. If you have spent years abandoning yourself, shape-shifting for others, staying walled off or emotionally unavailable, or repeating painful relationship patterns, this is your invitation back to the most important relationship of all- the one you have with yourself.

Head to https://www.healwithalchemy.com/presale use the Promo Code: PODCAST to pre-order the book at a special discount.

Follow our NEW instagram page @healingourrelationships

The book and our new website will be live June First @ www.healingourrelationships.com

Work with me 1:1 or set up a free connection call @ https://www.healwithalchemy.com/coaching

This month I am on an ancestral pilgrimage to Italy with my father so I am getting creative in order to bring you something every week. Last week my offering for you was a free 7 Day Morning Practice at your own pace video course. Give it a listen for the free promo code.

This week I am offering you a prayer for moments when you are experiencing obsession and fear inside of your relationships. Whether it be catastrophic thinking, disaster mind, or fight or flight in your body; Ask the Spirit, the univer, God, whoever you connect to- for relief and the courage to come back home to yourself. Make room for your feelings, honor your experience, and soothe the part of you that needs healing, love, and support.

This is a favorite for all of my Insight Timer listeners.

I hope you will find your breath, inner peace and trust.

If you are ready to stop circling the same patterns and start living differently book a Free Connection Call with me to see how a 12-week guided 1:1 journey can help you rebuild trust with yourself and step into the life of radial self-acceptance and embodied love.

Book your connection call here

📖 Want to Dive Deeper? Get The Workbook!

PRESALE IS OPEN! USE THE PROMO CODE: PODCAST

Read the Back Cover👇

A Compassionate Guide To Understanding The Patterns That Once Protected You

Whether you know the C-word, "Codependency,"and feel ready for this book, or the word itself makes you recoil from it like a hot flame, I promise this journey will surprise you, and hopefully inspire you to pass it on to a friend. Codependency is often misunderstood. It is not just people-pleasing or insecurity, it lives on a spectrum that almost everyone dances on. It shows up in the one who over-gives and the one who withdraws, in the perfectionist, the caretaker, the person who stays guarded, and the one who has spent years abandoning themselves to keep the peace. If you have ever related to others from a place of fear rather than authenticity, this book was written for you. Inspired by the author's beloved Healing Our Relationships podcast, this workbook draws from eighteen years of lived spiritual exploration. The workbook does not ask you to see yourself as broken, or to become someone better, but simply to remember and return to the authentic truth of who you already are. Through a lens of compassionate curiosity you will explore five core areas of codependent patterns, patterns many of us adapted to survive when our needs, feelings, and truth felt unsafe to express. Each area is explored through a five-step inquiry process that reveals the pattern, honors its origin, acknowledges the cost, and re-orients you towards new possibilities. Then, it brings it all into the practice of daily life. This is where the mind stops running old patterns on autopilot, the nervous system begins to heal, and you reclaim the power of choice. You are not here to judge yourself or label yourself as being codependent. You are here to honor what once protected you and to reclaim the parts of yourself that got lost along the way. If you have spent years abandoning yourself, shape-shifting for others, staying walled off or emotionally unavailable, or repeating painful relationship patterns, this is your invitation back to the most important relationship of all- the one you have with yourself.

Head to https://www.healwithalchemy.com/presale use the Promo Code: PODCAST to pre-order the book at a special discount.

Follow our NEW instagram page @healingourrelationships

The book and our new website will be live June First @ www.healingourrelationships.com

Work with me 1:1 or set up a free connection call @ https://www.healwithalchemy.com/coaching

This week I have something special for you.

We can only go so long on our healing journeys with concepts and conversation. We need rhythm. We need practice. We need to move from head to heart to truly begin to embody the work we are doing. We need tools that helps us feel connected to ourselves in a real and powerful ways.

In this bonus episode, I'm offering you just that. A way to root deeper into self-love and self-trust. A way to expereince compassionate awareness as a real living thing and not just a concept. A space for daily practice, without pressure or perfection.

As I am traveling this month and can not bring you a full in depth episode this week, I wanted to make sure you had something substantial from me. So give this short episode a listen, head back here, click the link below, and put in the 100% off code.

On the other side is a gift from me to you — one you can return to again and again.

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You are worth it. Come home to yourself.

If you are ready to stop circling the same patterns and start living differently book a Free Connection Call with me to see how a 12-week guided 1:1 journey can help you rebuild trust with yourself and step into the life of radial self-acceptance and embodied love.

Book your connection call here

📖 Want to Dive Deeper? Get The Workbook!

PRESALE IS OPEN! USE THE PROMO CODE: PODCAST

Read the Back Cover👇

A Compassionate Guide To Understanding The Patterns That Once Protected You

Whether you know the C-word, "Codependency,"and feel ready for this book, or the word itself makes you recoil from it like a hot flame, I promise this journey will surprise you, and hopefully inspire you to pass it on to a friend. Codependency is often misunderstood. It is not just people-pleasing or insecurity, it lives on a spectrum that almost everyone dances on. It shows up in the one who over-gives and the one who withdraws, in the perfectionist, the caretaker, the person who stays guarded, and the one who has spent years abandoning themselves to keep the peace. If you have ever related to others from a place of fear rather than authenticity, this book was written for you. Inspired by the author's beloved Healing Our Relationships podcast, this workbook draws from eighteen years of lived spiritual exploration. The workbook does not ask you to see yourself as broken, or to become someone better, but simply to remember and return to the authentic truth of who you already are. Through a lens of compassionate curiosity you will explore five core areas of codependent patterns, patterns many of us adapted to survive when our needs, feelings, and truth felt unsafe to express. Each area is explored through a five-step inquiry process that reveals the pattern, honors its origin, acknowledges the cost, and re-orients you towards new possibilities. Then, it brings it all into the practice of daily life. This is where the mind stops running old patterns on autopilot, the nervous system begins to heal, and you reclaim the power of choice. You are not here to judge yourself or label yourself as being codependent. You are here to honor what once protected you and to reclaim the parts of yourself that got lost along the way. If you have spent years abandoning yourself, shape-shifting for others, staying walled off or emotionally unavailable, or repeating painful relationship patterns, this is your invitation back to the most important relationship of all- the one you have with yourself.

Head to https://www.healwithalchemy.com/presale use the Promo Code: PODCAST to pre-order the book at a special discount.

Follow our NEW instagram page @healingourrelationships

The book and our new website will be live June First @ www.healingourrelationships.com

Work with me 1:1 or set up a free connection call @ https://www.healwithalchemy.com/coaching

Codependency can be so confusing. Where does true caring end and self-abandonment begin? How do we know when we've shifted from showing up with love into people-pleasing, controlling, or living for someone else's approval?

In this episode of Healing Our Relationships, I share one of the most direct tools that helped me begin to sort this out: the framework of "Codependency and Recovery — The Differences." Using clear examples, I walk you through these patterns — like in codependency, my good feelings come from you liking me; in recovery, my good feelings come from me liking me — and show how to apply them in real life.

This isn't theory; it's practical guidance you can start using today. As you begin to work with these distinctions, you'll find yourself stepping out of confusion and into greater authenticity, self-trust, and inner peace. Boundaries become clearer. Self-worth grows steadier. And slowly, you return to yourself.

You can find the PDF I am referring to in the episode here: Download PDF

And if you'd like to explore this work more deeply in community, join me for my Healing Our Relationships live circle on Zoom on the last Thursday of every month. You'll also find guided meditations, teachings, and resources in my HealSpace app — your sanctuary for coming home to yourself.

Learn more about me and my offerings at www.healwithalchemy.com

Email me your story submissions, questions or thoughts at [email protected]

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Join me in Sedona this November for Awakening Woman Retreat.

In this special conversation, I sit down with Don Miguel Ruiz Jr. — A Toltec Master, author, speaker, teacher, and the son of Don Miguel Ruiz, author of The Four Agreements. Together, we explore the Toltec path and how its wisdom can help us navigate the fears and patterns that shape our relationships.

Miguel shares powerful insights from his new book, The Poisoned Arrow: The Toltec Guide to Overcoming Fear, on how fear underlies so much of our human experience, and why the key to healthy, happy relationships is not control, shpeshifting, or perfection — but authenticity and unconditional love. We talk about the courage it takes to surrender, to honor both our yes and our no, and to meet others not through fear but through freedom and truth.

This episode is an invitation to pause, reflect, and remember that love rooted in authenticity transforms not only our relationships, but our relationship with ourselves.

By combining the wisdom of his family's traditions with the knowledge gained from his own personal journey, Miguel helps others realize their own path to personal freedom. Meet him on his website www.miguelruizjr.com

Check out his new book in bookstores and online: The Poisoned Arrow: The Toltec Guide to Overcoming Fear

If you are ready to stop circling the same patterns and start living differently book a Free Connection Call with me to see how a 12-week guided 1:1 journey can help you rebuild trust with yourself and step into the life of radial self-acceptance and embodied love.

Book your connection call here

📖 Want to Dive Deeper? Get The Workbook!

PRESALE IS OPEN! USE THE PROMO CODE: PODCAST

Read the Back Cover👇

A Compassionate Guide To Understanding The Patterns That Once Protected You

Whether you know the C-word, "Codependency,"and feel ready for this book, or the word itself makes you recoil from it like a hot flame, I promise this journey will surprise you, and hopefully inspire you to pass it on to a friend. Codependency is often misunderstood. It is not just people-pleasing or insecurity, it lives on a spectrum that almost everyone dances on. It shows up in the one who over-gives and the one who withdraws, in the perfectionist, the caretaker, the person who stays guarded, and the one who has spent years abandoning themselves to keep the peace. If you have ever related to others from a place of fear rather than authenticity, this book was written for you. Inspired by the author's beloved Healing Our Relationships podcast, this workbook draws from eighteen years of lived spiritual exploration. The workbook does not ask you to see yourself as broken, or to become someone better, but simply to remember and return to the authentic truth of who you already are. Through a lens of compassionate curiosity you will explore five core areas of codependent patterns, patterns many of us adapted to survive when our needs, feelings, and truth felt unsafe to express. Each area is explored through a five-step inquiry process that reveals the pattern, honors its origin, acknowledges the cost, and re-orients you towards new possibilities. Then, it brings it all into the practice of daily life. This is where the mind stops running old patterns on autopilot, the nervous system begins to heal, and you reclaim the power of choice. You are not here to judge yourself or label yourself as being codependent. You are here to honor what once protected you and to reclaim the parts of yourself that got lost along the way. If you have spent years abandoning yourself, shape-shifting for others, staying walled off or emotionally unavailable, or repeating painful relationship patterns, this is your invitation back to the most important relationship of all- the one you have with yourself.

Head to https://www.healwithalchemy.com/presale use the Promo Code: PODCAST to pre-order the book at a special discount.

Follow our NEW instagram page @healingourrelationships

The book and our new website will be live June First @ www.healingourrelationships.com

Work with me 1:1 or set up a free connection call @ https://www.healwithalchemy.com/coaching

Boundaries are one of the most misunderstood aspects of healing and recovery. For some of us, being "boundariless" looks like saying yes when we mean no, letting others decide for us, and living in fear of rejection or disapproval. For others, it looks like building walls, controlling outcomes, or cutting people off entirely as a way to feel safe. Both are forms of disconnection — from ourselves, and from authentic relationship.

Today, we'll explore why so many of us struggle to set boundaries and how this ties back to fear, perfectionism, and old survival strategies. More importantly, we'll talk about why boundaries are not only safe, but necessary. Setting a boundary is one of the most self-honoring acts we can take — it's how we reclaim our authenticity and create space for others to show up authentically too.

You'll discover:

• How being boundariless can look like over-giving or walling off

• Why guilt, shame, and uncertainty are normal when we start practicing boundaries.

• The difference between boundaries that keep us safe and walls that keep us stuck.

• Tools to practice boundaries as an act of truth and self-worth, rather than control.

• Why taking care of yourself first is not only safe, but sacred — and how doing so creates space for authentic, honest connection with others.

This conversation is a reminder that boundaries are not about shutting life out; they're about letting life in, in a way that feels safe, honoring, and true. When we learn to set them, we reclaim our energy, our relationships, and our place in the world as whole, worthy beings.

And, in order to give you a powerful guidepost for really transforming behaviors that are rooted in self-abandonment, you are getting two episodes this week so you don't have to wait to begin the powerful practice of coming. home to yourself.

If you are ready to stop circling the same patterns and start living differently book a Free Connection Call with me to see how a 12-week guided 1:1 journey can help you rebuild trust with yourself and step into the life of radial self-acceptance and embodied love.

Book your connection call here

📖 Want to Dive Deeper? Get The Workbook!

PRESALE IS OPEN! USE THE PROMO CODE: PODCAST

Read the Back Cover👇

A Compassionate Guide To Understanding The Patterns That Once Protected You

Whether you know the C-word, "Codependency,"and feel ready for this book, or the word itself makes you recoil from it like a hot flame, I promise this journey will surprise you, and hopefully inspire you to pass it on to a friend. Codependency is often misunderstood. It is not just people-pleasing or insecurity, it lives on a spectrum that almost everyone dances on. It shows up in the one who over-gives and the one who withdraws, in the perfectionist, the caretaker, the person who stays guarded, and the one who has spent years abandoning themselves to keep the peace. If you have ever related to others from a place of fear rather than authenticity, this book was written for you. Inspired by the author's beloved Healing Our Relationships podcast, this workbook draws from eighteen years of lived spiritual exploration. The workbook does not ask you to see yourself as broken, or to become someone better, but simply to remember and return to the authentic truth of who you already are. Through a lens of compassionate curiosity you will explore five core areas of codependent patterns, patterns many of us adapted to survive when our needs, feelings, and truth felt unsafe to express. Each area is explored through a five-step inquiry process that reveals the pattern, honors its origin, acknowledges the cost, and re-orients you towards new possibilities. Then, it brings it all into the practice of daily life. This is where the mind stops running old patterns on autopilot, the nervous system begins to heal, and you reclaim the power of choice. You are not here to judge yourself or label yourself as being codependent. You are here to honor what once protected you and to reclaim the parts of yourself that got lost along the way. If you have spent years abandoning yourself, shape-shifting for others, staying walled off or emotionally unavailable, or repeating painful relationship patterns, this is your invitation back to the most important relationship of all- the one you have with yourself.

Head to https://www.healwithalchemy.com/presale use the Promo Code: PODCAST to pre-order the book at a special discount.

Follow our NEW instagram page @healingourrelationships

The book and our new website will be live June First @ www.healingourrelationships.com

Work with me 1:1 or set up a free connection call @ https://www.healwithalchemy.com/coaching

You can't just flip a switch and love yourself after a lifetime of feeling disconnected. For many of us, self-worth was never modeled it was something we had to earn through approval, performance, or meeting someone else's expectations. Over time, our nervous systems adapted to live in survival mode, we lost sense of who we really are and

But this is not who you are. Beneath the roles you've played and the patterns you've carried is the unshakable truth of your worth.

In this episode of Healing Our Relationships, we'll explore why reclaiming self-worth isn't about pretending, bypassing, or forcing affirmations to land. Instead, it's about coming back into alignment in your mind, body, and spirit recovery and discovering your truth, accepting the truths that already exists. It is about creating space for compassion and care to grow.

In this episode you will learn three powerful practices you can start using today to move from head to heart and to shift your nervous system out of survival mode, ground into security, and reconnect with yourself in a way that's loving and lasting

This is your reminder: self-worth isn't the starting point. It's the result of choosing truth over fear, moment by moment.

The books mentioned in this podcast are:

Dr. David Hawkins - Letting Go The Pathway to Surrender

Don Miguel Ruiz- The Four Agreements

Learn more about me at www.healwithalchemy.com

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Join us on Zoom on the last Thursday of the month for Healing Our Relationships the Circle

Welcome back to Healing Our Relationships. I'm Marisa, Healer & Transformation Guide. Love avoidance often gets mistaken for independence, but in truth, it's another face of codependency — a strategy to control connection and protect ourselves from pain. In this episode, I'm unpacking three core beliefs that keep love-avoidant patterns alive: I can't trust anyone, If I don't get close, I can't get hurt, and I am not worthy of love.

We'll explore how these beliefs form — often from early abandonment, betrayal, or a deep mistrust of others — and how they quietly dictate the way we choose partners, keep people at arm's length, or test whether they'll chase us. I'll share why walling off isn't the safety net we think it is, but a self-imposed cage that limits intimacy, joy, and real connection.

This conversation is about awareness, compassion, and the courage to take contrary action: to open the gates, to allow closeness without giving up yourself, and to risk being loved for who you truly are. You'll leave with reflection questions and practices to help you step out from behind the walls and into relationships that feel safe because you are safe inside yourself.

If you are ready to stop circling the same patterns and start living differently book a Free Connection Call with me to see how a 12-week guided 1:1 journey can help you rebuild trust with yourself and step into the life of radial self-acceptance and embodied love.

Book your connection call here

📖 Want to Dive Deeper? Get The Workbook!

PRESALE IS OPEN! USE THE PROMO CODE: PODCAST

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A Compassionate Guide To Understanding The Patterns That Once Protected You

Whether you know the C-word, "Codependency,"and feel ready for this book, or the word itself makes you recoil from it like a hot flame, I promise this journey will surprise you, and hopefully inspire you to pass it on to a friend. Codependency is often misunderstood. It is not just people-pleasing or insecurity, it lives on a spectrum that almost everyone dances on. It shows up in the one who over-gives and the one who withdraws, in the perfectionist, the caretaker, the person who stays guarded, and the one who has spent years abandoning themselves to keep the peace. If you have ever related to others from a place of fear rather than authenticity, this book was written for you. Inspired by the author's beloved Healing Our Relationships podcast, this workbook draws from eighteen years of lived spiritual exploration. The workbook does not ask you to see yourself as broken, or to become someone better, but simply to remember and return to the authentic truth of who you already are. Through a lens of compassionate curiosity you will explore five core areas of codependent patterns, patterns many of us adapted to survive when our needs, feelings, and truth felt unsafe to express. Each area is explored through a five-step inquiry process that reveals the pattern, honors its origin, acknowledges the cost, and re-orients you towards new possibilities. Then, it brings it all into the practice of daily life. This is where the mind stops running old patterns on autopilot, the nervous system begins to heal, and you reclaim the power of choice. You are not here to judge yourself or label yourself as being codependent. You are here to honor what once protected you and to reclaim the parts of yourself that got lost along the way. If you have spent years abandoning yourself, shape-shifting for others, staying walled off or emotionally unavailable, or repeating painful relationship patterns, this is your invitation back to the most important relationship of all- the one you have with yourself.

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