If you're trapped in the exhausting cycle of all-or-nothing thinking around food and recovery, this episode will revolutionize your entire approach. Fresh back from vacation, Lindsey shares the powerful "Both/And Recovery" strategy that finally breaks you free from black-and-white extremes and helps you find the beautiful gray area where real healing happens.
You'll discover why perfectionist recovery keeps you stuck, learn specific Both/And reframes for common recovery struggles, and walk away with a tangible 3-step practice to implement this week. This isn't about being perfect at recovery—it's about being human while healing.
What You'll Learn
✨ Why all-or-nothing thinking keeps you trapped in recovery cycles
✨ The revolutionary Both/And approach that changes everything
✨ Specific reframes for "good vs. bad" food thinking
✨ How to hold space for fear AND commitment simultaneously
✨ Why the "gray area" is where your freedom actually lives
✨ A practical 3-step method to implement Both/And thinking this week
Key Takeaways
The All-or-Nothing Prison
Your brain categorizes everything as perfect or disaster, on-track or off-track, good foods or bad foods. This binary thinking keeps you swinging between extremes and never experiencing the freedom you crave. The space between extremes isn't the danger zone—it's where all the magic happens.
The Both/And Revolution
You can hold two seemingly opposite truths simultaneously, and this is where real healing occurs. Recovery isn't about choosing sides—it's about embracing complexity and being beautifully, imperfectly human.
Why This Changes Everything
The Both/And approach removes the pressure that keeps you stuck. When you stop trying to be perfect at recovery, you actually start recovering. Recovery isn't about eliminating difficult thoughts—it's about learning to hold space for all of it.
Powerful Both/And Recovery Examples
Fear & Courage
Instead of: "I have to be brave to start recovery"
Both/And: "I can be both scared of recovery AND committed to it"
Restriction & Nourishment
Instead of: "I either restrict or I'm out of control"
Both/And: "I can both want to restrict AND choose to nourish myself"
Body Image Struggles
Instead of: "I have to love my body all the time"
Both/And: "I can both love my body AND have days when I struggle with it"
Food Morality
Instead of: "Foods are either good or bad"
Both/And: "I can be both 'good' at eating AND have chaotic food days"
Recovery Process
Instead of: "I'm either perfect at recovery or failing"
Both/And: "I can be both in recovery AND not perfect at it"
Weight & Health
Instead of: "I'm either fat or skinny"
Both/And: "I can both be my natural weight AND not love every inch every day"
Structure & Flexibility
Instead of: "I need rigid routine or I'm lost"
Both/And: "I can both crave routine AND need flexibility"
Your Both/And Recovery Practice (This Week)
Step 1: Notice Your All-or-Nothing Thoughts
Catch yourself thinking in extremes about food, body, or recovery. Examples:
Step 2: Practice the Both/And Reframe
Transform extreme thoughts with "both/and" language:
Step 3: Choose Your Next Right Action
From this Both/And space, take one small step toward recovery:
Revolutionary Quotes to Remember
"The gray area you've been afraid of? That's not the danger zone—that's where your freedom lives."
"Recovery isn't about eliminating all the difficult thoughts and feelings. Recovery is about learning to hold space for all of it—the fear AND the courage, the struggle AND the strength."
"The moment you stop trying to be perfect at recovery is the moment you actually start recovering."
"You can both feel uncertain about this approach AND try it anyway. You can both be scared of letting go of control AND take one small step toward freedom."
"Your recovery doesn't have to be perfect to be powerful. Your healing doesn't have to be linear to be real."
Personal Story: Post-Vacation Recovery Evolution
Lindsey shares her transformation from post-vacation restriction panic to flexible re-entry into routine. Learn how the Both/And approach allows you to both crave structure AND ease back into real life without rigidity—a perfect metaphor for recovery itself.
The Science Behind Both/And Thinking
Why All-or-Nothing Thinking Develops
Eating disorders thrive on binary thinkingPerfectionism creates impossible standardsBlack-and-white thoughts feel "safer" but create more sufferingHow Both/And Thinking Heals
Reduces perfectionist pressureAllows for human complexityCreates space for growth and mistakesNormalizes the recovery processReady to Live the Both/And Approach?
If this episode resonated but you're unsure how to implement Both/And thinking in your daily recovery, you don't have to figure it out alone.
Take Your Recovery to the Next Level:
In Lindsey's one-on-one coaching, you'll dive deep into applying the Both/And approach to your specific struggles—trigger foods, difficult emotions, body image challenges, all of it. Because knowing about this approach and actually living it are two different things.
Next Steps: Fill out a client application at www.herbestself.co to work together on finding your gray area, your Both/And space, where your real life and real recovery can finally coexist.
Remember: You can both be exactly where you are right now AND be on your way to somewhere beautiful.
Connect With Lindsey
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📱 Instagram: @thelindseynichol
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👥 Private Community: www.herbestselfsociety.com
Share This Episode
If the Both/And approach shifted something for you:
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Remember: You really can move from perfection to purpose, from black-and-white to beautiful gray, from all-or-nothing to Both/And.
Your beautifully imperfect recovery journey starts now.
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* While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.
