It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People

Hidden in Plain Sight: Decoding the Doomsday Mom's High-Conflict Personality


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Inside the Lori Vallow Daybell Case: A Deep Dive into Criminal Psychology

Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter, co-founders of the High Conflict Institute, dive deep into one of the most disturbing true crime cases in recent history—the Lori Vallow Daybell murders. The hosts explore the psychological aspects behind what led to multiple murders, including those of Vallow's own children, and examine potential personality patterns that may help explain such extreme behavior.

The Complex Web of Personality and Crime

Bill and Megan discuss how individuals who commit horrific acts often display patterns of behavior long before their crimes. They explore how Vallow's case may demonstrate characteristics associated with antisocial personality traits—combined with possible narcissistic tendencies. The hosts emphasize that these patterns often have genetic components rather than being solely the result of upbringing or environment.

Understanding Family Impact

The episode provides valuable insights into how family members process and heal from such traumatic events. Through examining Vallow's surviving son Colby's experience, Bill and Megan highlight the importance of understanding that what seems typical in childhood may later be recognized as problematic—leading to crucial healing opportunities.

Questions we answer in this episode:

  • What personality patterns might explain seemingly inexplicable criminal behavior?
  • How do genetic factors influence personality development?
  • Can early intervention help prevent antisocial behavior patterns?
  • What role does narcissism play in high conflict cases?
  • How do family members begin healing after discovering disturbing truths?

Key Takeaways:

  • Antisocial personality traits often emerge before age 12
  • Early intervention is crucial for addressing concerning behaviors
  • Genetic factors play a significant role in personality development
  • Complex cases often involve multiple personality patterns
  • Healing requires understanding it wasn't family members' fault

This episode offers valuable insights for mental health professionals, law enforcement, and anyone seeking to understand complex criminal behavior. Through careful analysis of the Vallow case, listeners gain practical knowledge about personality patterns, family dynamics, and the importance of early intervention in preventing tragic outcomes.

Links & Other Notes

  • ARTICLE
    • Lori Vallow Daybell / Chad Daybell article
  • BOOKS
    • 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life: Identifying and Dealing with Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other High-Conflict Personalities
    • Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder (Second Edition)
  • ARTICLES
    • Violence and Mental Health
    • Sociopaths and their Deceptions
  • OUR WEBSITE: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/
  • Submit a Question for Bill and Megan
  • All of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.
  • You can also find these show notes at our site as well.

Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing general patterns of behavior. Nor are we providing legal or therapeutic advice. Please seek the assistance of your local professionals to seek help.

  • (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault
  • (01:34) - Lori Vallow/Chad Daybell Murder
  • (02:51) - Setting the Stage
  • (06:36) - Thoughts on First Case
  • (11:58) - Colby
  • (13:50) - Anti-Social Personality Behavior
  • (21:06) - Treating Younger Children
  • (23:18) - Warning Signs
  • (24:27) - Chad’s Story
  • (31:47) - Making Up ‘Truths’
  • (34:16) - Narcissism
  • (37:10) - Wrapping Up
  • (38:48) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: Shehrina Rooney and BPD

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