A listener asks how they can overcome their religious shame, move forward in their addiction, and develop a sense of healthy sexuality. No matter what the religion might be, if you’ve grown up in a very conserative background, it can be incredibly hard to normalize sexual behaviors. You put sex addiction on top of it, it can be a very confusing space to navigate in. Dr. Rob and Tami share their thoughts on some of the best ways to work through this shame while also respecting your sobriety in this week’s episode.

 

TAKEAWAYS:

[0:25] How do we rebuild trust when my addict was in recovery and still lying to me?

[1:30] Trust is built by honest and reliable actions over time.

[3:55] Need support? Reach out to Tami. She is here to help!

[7:35] We did a formal disclosure. I am in shock. Who is this person I married?

[12:50] Often times, we use sex as reassurance.

[13:45] I’m on my way to recovery, I have slipped up, but how do I improve my communication with my spouse? He doesn’t believe my addiction is real.

[17:40] How do I work with my religious shame?

[22:35] Spouses are often looking for reasons to not leave. This is why honesty, even when it hurts, is important. 

[23:25] He feels micromanaged and needs space. Is this normal?

[26:20] How involved should the betrayed partner be involved in the addict’s recovery?

[27:30] My betrayed spouse is pushing back on therapy. What can I do to help her?

 

RESOURCES:

Seekingintegrity.com

Email Tami: [email protected]

Sexandrelationshiphealing.com

Intherooms.com

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