If you have not yet watched American skier Eileen Gu’s interview following her silver medal at the recent Winter Olympics, click the link below, because it blew me away!

Her confidence and self-assuredness is an amazing example to lots of young people, especially young women and girls, and it got me thinking… are there common actions or traits of parents who raise successful, confident children?

We’re going to find out!

In this episode I am going to focus specifically on behaviours that boost academic success, confidence and friendships, and give you three practical tips for each.

So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

Mentioned in this episode:

Eileen Gu Interview - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CAhmzgTSBTI 

Highlights from this episode:

00:31 - Eileen Gu

05:17 - The Bobo Doll Experiment

10:28 - Modelling academic success

13:02 - Persistence over perfection

16:48 - Confidence is an inside job

19:19 - Model realistic confidence

24:17 - Friendship Jenga

27:16 - Model healthy friendships

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Children should be seen and not heard. Do you agree?

We’ve all heard that expression, and we were all probably told this by our own parents! But I have noticed more and more examples of adult only areas of public spaces - on trains or in shopping malls - so I wanted to tackle this head on.

For the record, I don’t agree with that saying, and in this episode I am going to share five reasons why it is better for us and our children when we encourage and support them to be included.

So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

Highlights from this episode:

01:26 - Seen but not heard

03:17 - Learning on the job

08:52 - Plan A, B, and C

14:16 - Focus on what you CAN control

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Outbursts, tantrums, meltdowns… whatever you call them, they’re not fun!

But your kids are not hardwired to deal with their emotions, it’s a skill they learn over time, and it’s your job as parent to support them and encourage them to develop those skills.

It’s not easy - I can attest to that, having raised two kids myself! And that’s why in this episode I help you understand what causes emotional outbursts, how these present themselves in different ages and stages, and what you can do to support them.

So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

Highlights from this episode:

00:59 - Fear of judgement

02:32 - Emotional regulation is learned

07:43 - Verbal and physical escalations

10:35 - The teen years

14:08 - The biggest causes of emotional outbursts

18:23 - How to handle outbursts

23:10 - Keep them safe

27:17 - What is the skills gap?

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Should I give my children pocket money?

How much is enough?

Should they have to earn it through chores?

Knowing how much, when, and what can feel like a tricky minefield when thinking about pocket money for our kids. Some of you might decide simply not to do it, and that’s ok too.

I can’t give you the right answer, because only you know what’s best for your family, but in this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to share five benefits of pocket money, from emotional regulation to financial skills, that might just help you find the answers you’re looking for.

So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

Highlights from this episode:

01:09 - Linking pocket money to chores

03:30 - Don’t eat the marshmallow!

05:29 - Opportunity cost

08:36 - Pocket money builds emotional regulation

11:04 - Finance and social conscience

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Did you know 1 in 3 children have little or no confidence?

Did you know girls are more likely to downplay their confidence?

And did you know that children from non-white and minority ethnic groups are likely to have less confidence than their white male friends?

Today I speak to Kathryn McColl, co-founder of Hark, the education agency that delivers programmes to over 90% of UK schools. Hark recently published their Listen Up report, which collected anonymous data from 1,400 children across the UK to better understand what they call the ‘confidence crisis.’

I drill down into some of their jaw-dropping insights, including the above, as we discuss why confidence appears to be on the decline among young people.

So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

Connect with Kathryn:

More about Hark - https://harklondon.com/ 

Get the Listen Up Report - https://harklondon.com/listen-up/ 

Connect on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/kathryn-mccoll-5a918329/ 

Highlights from this episode:

02:32 - What is Hark?

05:43 - Confidence means opportunity

11:08 - The impact of role models

15:11 - Transitioning from primary to secondary school

21:46 - Friction teaches confidence

27:09 - Post exam stress

29:37 - Girls hide their confidence

33:37 - The confidence ladder

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From gentle parenting to FAFO, social media bombards us with content about the latest trends, so how do you really know what works and what doesn’t?

In today’s bucket emptying episode, I talk you through some of the biggest parenting trends, and explain how they can be impacting you, and the ways in which you might then choose to parent your own kids.

Because parenting is all-consuming. It’s a 24/7/365 gig, and the trends of day, whether we subscribe to them or not, can feel like they define us as parents. I’m here to tell you they don’t!

So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

Highlights from this episode:

00:48 - FAFO Parenting

03:30 - Are we defined by the trends?

06:23 - Labels take away the overwhelm

09:56 - There’s no one size fits all approach

12:35 - Parental intuition

15:22 - Science vs media

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Mental health is not just a buzz word, and oftentimes it goes hand in hand with physical health. But because we can’t see mental health, as parents it can be so easy to procrastinate these important conversations that provide a safe, supportive space for our children to really get honest with us.

Whether you’re listening to this during Children’s Mental Health week or at any other time of the year, these practical tips will really help you to kickstart conversations about mental health with your family.

It might not be easy, and it might take some time, but I promise you if you persevere and remain patient, your kids will eventually feel comfortable enough to talk to you.

So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

Mentioned in this episode:

Children’s Mental Health Week: https://www.childrensmentalhealthweek.org.uk/ 

Highlights from this episode:

01:15 - Physical health IS mental health

03:41 - I’ve noticed that…

07:17 - How are you feeling?

10:30 - Use books

15:09 - Teachable moments

16:38 - Talk out loud

18:46 - 3 things to consider

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A sense of belonging is a basic human need. Without it can lead to loneliness, depression and many other mental and physical health issues.

So to celebrate Children’s Mental Health Week, the theme of which this year is ‘this is my place’, I am going to give you five tips to help your children build their sense of belonging, because the world is a better place with them in it, and it’s our job as parents to help them believe that.

So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

Mentioned in this episode:

Children’s Mental Health Week: https://www.childrensmentalhealthweek.org.uk/ 

Attachment Theory: https://drmaryhan.com/episode/attachment-theory/ 

Highlights from this episode:

00:28 - Children’s Mental Health Week

02:21 - Attachment theory

05:48 - Emotional availability

09:27 - Help them to explore

11:58 - Don’t diminish their interests

14:05 - Belonging starts at home

16:32 - You are important

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From the 8 Plus to A-Levels, exams can be a stressful experience… often as much for you, the parent, as the kids.

You want the best for them, and of course you want them to do well, but it’s important to make sure we create a supportive environment, and not inadvertently add to the pressure.

That’s why, in this important episode, I’m going to talk you through the dos and do nots of navigating exam season, and give you a bunch of super practical advice, which you can use right away.

So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

Highlights from this episode:

01:26 - It comes down to two things

03:17 - Stay in your own lane

07:29 - How to overcome self-sabotage

12:29 - Supercharge your revision

17:12 - Talk to your children

21:15 - A balanced routine includes time for fun

24:23 - Rest and restore

27:17 - Support ought to be directed by the child, not us

30:37 - What not to do

35:28 - Trust their process!

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In this bucket emptying episode, I look a bit closer at my conversation with Professor Sam Wass, who you may recognise from such TV shows as The Secret Life of 4 Year Olds. He is is currently Director of the Institute for the Science of Early Years at the University of East London.

In last week’s interview he spoke to us at length about his research, but in today’s episode I want to drill down just a little more into some of his comments on emotional coregulation, and I’m going to share my own thoughts and some useful tips which you can put into action right away.

So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

More about Sam and his work:

Website: https://www.profsamwass.com/ 

Useful research: https://www.profsamwass.com/tweet-threads/ 

Institute for the Science & Early Years of Youth: https://www.isey.org/ct-for-ey-and-schools 

Highlights from this episode:

01:25 - Sam Wass on emotional coregulation

07:00 - Stress contagion

11:17 - Matching our children’s state

14:24 - Meet them where they’re at

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