Do you know the difference between a tantrum and a meltdown?

Most parents think they’re the same, but they’re not!

That’s why in today’s bucket emptying episode, I’m going to talk you through the key differences between what they are and how to manage them, because mastering this might just be the difference between a quick win and a sleepless night!

So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

Mentioned in this Episode:

You Child’s Bucket - https://drmaryhan.com/episode/help-your-child-with-emotional-regulation/ 

Highlights from this episode:

01:07 - I want versus I can’t

03:04 - Dealing with no

05:33 - The different responses to a tantrum and a meltdown

09:06 - Tantrums are for everyone

11:32 - Not all buckets are created equal

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What’s the difference between a tantrum and a meltdown?

When should you start worrying about behaviour?

And how do you regulate your kids’ screen time?

In this episode, the tables are being turned as I am the one being interviewed. Daniel Weisberg, Managing Director of CAYP Psychology, asks me about emotional regulation, tantrums, neurodivergence, and lots more.

So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

Mentioned in this Episode:

CAYP - https://www.cayp-psychology.com/ 

Highlights from this episode:

01:46 - The last drop in the bucket

05:14 - Meet your child where they’re at

07:12 - Common meltdown triggers

09:57 - HALT

15:25 - When should you worry about behaviour?

17:02- The S word

22:12 - Why is it so hard to switch off?

25:20 - Neurodivergence and regulation

27:30 - Create tech free periods

33:18 - Next steps

38:20 - When is further intervention needed?

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Nobody is a perfect mum, and none of us know everything… not even the experts.

That’s why I found my recent chat with Justine Roberts, founder of Mumsnet, so fascinating. She shared her own insights as a founder, an influencer to millions of parents, and a mum, and it blew my mind.

We covered everything from how to regulate our kids’ use of technology, to why there’s so much shame around weight loss drugs. It’s a conversation not to be missed!

That’s why, in today’s bucket emptying episode, I’m sharing the top five takeaways from that interview, and if you’re also interested in hearing more from Justine, listen to the full episode now - it’s just below this one in the podcast feed.

So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

Mentioned in this Episode:

Listen to the full Justine Roberts interview: https://drmaryhan.com/episode/rage-against-the-screen-children-tech-social-media-with-mumsnet-founder-justine-roberts/ 

Mumsnet: https://www.mumsnet.com/ 

The Other phone: https://www.mumsnet.com/articles/the-other-phone 

Highlights from this episode:

00:52 - Worry is a universal part of motherhood

02:39 - Community is crucial

04:54 - Power in numbers

07:37 - Technology & kids is a scary combo

10:11 - Taking the opportunity

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Would you give your eight year old a smartphone?

Should children be banned from social media?

How much screen time is too much?

As parents in a digital world, we ask ourselves these questions all the time, and there never seems to be a right answer. But in today’s episode I am joined by Justine Roberts CBE, the founder of Mumsnet, to discuss these very issues.

Justine shares her insights on the relationship between children and tech, what Mumsnet are doing it about it, and she makes a very exciting announcement - you heard it here first, and you do not want to miss this!

So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

More About Justine & Mumsnet:

Mumsnet: https://www.mumsnet.com/ 

Rage Against the Screen: https://www.mumsnet.com/news/rage-against-the-screen 

The Other phone: https://www.mumsnet.com/articles/the-other-phone 

Highlights from this episode:

02:07 - Mums don’t get training

06:07 - The taboo of weight loss drugs

10:38 - Are parenting experts part of the problem?

14:18 - Rage Against the Screen

19:56 - AI’s impact on the brain

22:35 - The addictive algorithms of social media

26:21 - The Other phone

30:54 - More parents are taking their kids’ phone away

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Is your child friends with a bad influence?

Are they being bullied or treated poorly by someone they think is a friend?

Do they struggle to broaden their social circle?

If you relate to any of the above, then this episode is a must listen, because I am going to explain the how, the why, and the what you can do about those unhealthy friendships your children find themselves in.

It happens to everyone, even us parents! But knowing how to spot them and, importantly, knowing how to support your children to see it for themselves, is the real challenge. You might just learn a thing or two about your own relationships as well!

So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

Mentioned in this episode:

Friendships: The Whole Nine Yards: https://drmaryhan.com/episode/helping-children-with-friendships/ 

Highlights from this episode:

01:24 - Toxic is toxic

03:43 - The warning signs of an unhealthy friendship

05:33 - Focus on the behavior, not the child

09:31 - Listen without judgment

13:43 - Red friend green friend

19:30 - Encourage them to broaden their social network

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Diagnoses of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, or OCD, are rising sharply.

But how do you know if you or your child might have it?

And what can you do about it?

It can be hard to find the right info about symptoms, causes, and treatment. So In this episode I’m going to talk through what OCD is, but also what it isn’t, and what the common early signs are.

Plus, I’ll give you some super easy, practical things you can do right away to support your children in the best way possible.

So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

Mentioned in this episode:

Reports of OCD triple: https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cdr612zrl0no 

The life event scale: https://www.simplypsychology.org/srrs.html 

Highlights from this episode:

01:33 - Are we taking OCD seriously enough?

04:50 - Obsessions versus compulsions

07:54 - Why has there been an increase?

10:16 - Keep it in the family

11:39 - Life events and external triggers

14:51 - OCD early warning signs

18:33 - OCD or anxiety?

21:18 - How can we help our children?

24:42 - Challenge the intrusive thoughts

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Are you looking for fun and free or low cost family activities?

Have you considered reading?

Before you switch off, hear me out, because reading can be an incredibly relaxing and enjoyable activity, and I’m here to explain how you can encourage your children to want to read.

However, there’s been a huge decline in recent years of young people who enjoy reading, and it’s on us - the mums, the dads, the parents, the guardians and the teachers - to do something about this.

Reading a good book can be great for the soul, and help not just your kids, but also you, to empty your buckets. That’s why this topic is so important to me.

I will tell you the three main benefits of reading, and what you can do to make reading feel like less of a chore to your kids.

So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

Mentioned in this episode:

Get Britain Reading by The Times: https://www.thetimes.com/uk/get-britain-reading?msockid=2f94feb8d57068851bbdebd1d476690b 

Highlights from this episode:

00:41 - Get Britain reading again

04:55 - The numbers don’t lie

07:26 - The three benefits

10:52 - Paper beats screen

15:05 - Take the hard work out of reading

19:14 - Model reading for pleasure

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Are you getting in your child’s way?

Should you praise effort or results?

And are you strict enough with enforcing your own rules?

In today’s episode, I’m expanding on a recent episode (linked below), where we explored how your children build their sense of self, to answer the above questions and more.

I’m going to give you the five areas where I believe you can really help your children navigate their most critical stage of identity development. This usually happens around 7-8 years old, but every child is different, so no matter where you are in your parenting journey, this episode will definitely help you.

So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

Mentioned in this episode:

Becoming Me: How Your Children Develop Their Sense of Identity

Highlights from this episode:

01:28 - Ages 7 to 8 are critical

06:00 - The 8 stages of identity development

09:03 - Do what you say you will

13:28 - Are you getting in your child’s way?

19:17 - Manage your expectations

22:27 - The benefits of praising effort

28:35 - The world is NOT school

31:57 - Episode cheat sheet

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What went wrong?

Have I failed my children?

That’s the question many parents ask themselves when contemplating home schooling. But in reality, the school system simply isn’t the best choice for some children.

In the second part of our discussion, we look closer at the process of choosing a home schooling option, what a good education really looks like, and when or why you might transition your kids back into a school environment.

To have this discussion I am joined by two very special guests…

Ruth Morgan is a mum to two children, one of whom is ASD. She shares her daughter’s story with us, and it will really resonate with any of you experiencing similar difficulties.

She is also an ⁠integrative psychotherapist who specialises in neurodivergent adults , especially late diagnosis and co-presenting mental health difficulties, and she also offers coaching to parents whose children are going through diagnosis or related challenges for the family. You can contact Ruth at https://ruthmorgan.co.uk/

Kate Shand is the founder and CEO of Enjoy Education, which provides bespoke educational services tailored to the unique needs of families and students globally. She is also a founding member and vice president of The Tutors’ Association, committed to raising tutoring standards across the industry and around the world. You can find out more at http://www.enjoyeducation.co.uk/ 

So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

Highlights from this episode:

01:24 - What does good schooling look like?

08:49 - Neurodivergent burnout

12:31 - The journey back to school

18:50 - The growth option

21:38 - Breaking social moulds

23:55 - Give yourself the space to mess up

28:57 - Every parent has their own story

33:41 - Pushing over the cliff edge

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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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Has your child ever refused to go to school?

It’s a morning routine all parents dread, but for nearly one in five parents, this is a common occurrence.. But what do you do?

In the first of this special two part episode, I am going to explore the reasons why our kids might not want to go to school and the ways in which both parents and educators can identify and support this.

Because as absenteeism continues to rise, maybe it’s time to stop blaming our kids, and start considering that maybe school doesn’t work for them.

To have this discussion I am joined by two very special guests…

Ruth Morgan is a mum to two children, one of whom is ASD. She shares her daughter’s story with us, and it will really resonate with any of you experiencing similar difficulties.

She is also an ⁠integrative psychotherapist who specialises in neurodivergent adults , especially late diagnosis and co-presenting mental health difficulties, and she also offers coaching to parents whose children are going through diagnosis or related challenges for the family. You can contact Ruth at https://ruthmorgan.co.uk/

Kate Shand is the founder and CEO of Enjoy Education, which provides bespoke educational services tailored to the unique needs of families and students globally. She is also a founding member and vice president of The Tutors’ Association, committed to raising tutoring standards across the industry and around the world. You can find out more at http://www.enjoyeducation.co.uk/ 

So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…

Highlights from this episode:

01:20 - These stats might shock you

05:32 - School refusal

11:46 - How to manage school incapacity

15:23 - Home schooling doesn’t have to be plan z

18:55 - Why are the stats going up?

21:21 - Ruth’s story

29:00 - School support for neurodivergence

32:06 - Schools get a different version of your child

36:35 - A message to schools

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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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