If you're spiraling about dating after your breakup, convinced there's no one out there for you, replaying every fight you had, and quietly wondering if the things your ex disliked about you mean you're asking for too much, this episode is for you. We're unpacking why the exact issue you used to argue about in your last relationship might not be a flaw at all, but a signal of misalignment, and why that same trait could become the foundation of real connection in your next relationship. You'll learn how incompatibility gets mistaken for unworthiness, why your brain keeps turning past arguments into evidence against your future, and how to stop shrinking yourself to feel chosen. This episode will help you see your desires clearly again. Not as liabilities, but as clues and restore hope that the right relationship won't require you to change who you are, only to be more of it.

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Starting a new year after a breakup can feel paralyzing when the idea of a "clean slate" brings pressure instead of hope. In this episode, I walk you through a simple, structured process to help you move forward without forcing clarity you don't have yet. Using the Breakup Life Wheel (or Bigger & Better Life Wheel), you'll learn how to assess where you actually are, identify what needs attention now, and turn that insight into three clear intentions with concrete actions you can take in real life. We'll also land on a single word for 2026 that anchors your decisions and gives you direction when motivation wavers. If you're standing at the beginning of the year unsure how to rebuild after a heartbreak, but ready to start anyway, this episode will give you a grounded place to begin.

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If you're staring down 2026 wondering what your life is actually going to look like and whether anything is really going to change, this episode is for you. Dorothy pulls back the curtain on what determines whether the next year becomes a repeat of the last or a genuine turning point, and makes a direct case for why who you work with matters more than willpower, timing, or trying harder on your own. If you're done hoping 2026 will be different and want a clear path for how to make it different, this episode will show you exactly where to start.

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This week, I coached women who went from devastated to empowered in days, not months. Women who thought they needed all the answers before taking action. Women who discovered that external validation was always internal all along. This episode is a compilation of the most powerful coaching insights from just ONE week inside the Get Over Your Ex program—proof that when you have the right method and support, transformation happens fast. If you've been wondering what's actually possible when you stop doing this alone, listen to this.

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If the thought of running into your ex with their new partner makes your stomach drop, or you find yourself mentally rehearsing what you'll say, how you'll look, or how you'll fall apart, this episode is for you. Worrying about that moment keeps your nervous system on edge and your brain stuck in threat mode, even when nothing has actually happened yet. In this episode, Dorothy teaches a breakup protocol designed specifically for these high-stress encounters, so your brain can stop spiraling and start feeling prepared. You'll learn how to move from panic and comparison into calm, grounded confidence. If you're tired of obsessing over a scenario that hasn't even happened (or maybe it did and went very poorly) and want a plan you can actually use in the moment, this episode will change how you walk into those situations forever.

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If you're closing out 2025 in the middle of a breakup, this episode is your reset button. When everything feels like it's ending, your relationship, your plans, the version of you that existed with your ex, it's easy to panic and drag old patterns, fears, and expectations into the new year. But 2025 is a "completion year," and instead of fighting the ending, this episode shows you how to use it. I'm walking you through three journal prompts that will help you identify what's truly finished, what you're willing to make space for in the unknown, and who you're becoming as you step into 2026. If you want 2026 to feel nothing like the year you're leaving behind, start with these three questions. They will change how you end this chapter and how you begin the next one.

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If it feels like your ex walked out with your entire life and took everything with them, this episode is the reality check your brain desperately needs. We're breaking down what your ex actually took (and the list is a lot shorter than you think) and exposing the invisible gains you can't see yet because heartbreak has you zoomed in on the loss. You'll learn why the space they left behind isn't a void, it's raw, open territory that's now available for your next chapter. And I'll walk you through two questions and one action step that will show you, in real time, why you didn't lose everything… you gained room to build something better. If you're stuck in the narrative that they "took your life," this episode will give you back the power you thought you lost.

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If it feels like you "lost everything" when your ex left, this episode will change your life. Inside, Dorothy breaks down the difference between what you think was taken from you and what was never truly yours to begin with… and then shows you the invisible gains that heartbreak makes available the second someone walks out of your life. You'll learn the three concrete steps to make those gains visible THIS week, so you stop fixating on the life that ended and start building the one that just opened up. If you're done staring at the empty space they left behind and ready to see what's possible in front of you, you need this episode.

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If your breakup feels overwhelming, impossible, or like you keep getting stuck in the same emotional loop, this episode will change the way you think about your "breakup problems." Most breakup suffering comes from low-quality breakup problems. The kind that feels justified and absorbing, but leads nowhere: Why isn't he texting me? Did he ever really love me? What if he moves on first? They feel important, but they keep you spinning, proving your pain instead of solving it. Dorothy shows you how to spot when you're caught in low-quality breakup problems, how to redefine them into high-quality breakup problems that actually move your life forward, and how to approach your breakup problem-solving with the same mindset you bring to challenges you want to solve. This episode will help you upgrade the questions you're asking so you can create solutions you're actually excited about.

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The Breakup Clinic is happening December 8-11. Four days to go from white-knuckling no contact to genuinely not wanting contact. Get your diagnosis, your prescription, and your treatment plan, plus live coaching from Dorothy. Free to attend.

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