Dr. Rob and Tami answer a question from a man who is breaking his connection with his spouse. When he and she are in conflict, he can’t seem to find a way to make her feel better, show up for her in her pain, and understand. His lack of empathy is pushing their relationship further and further away and he’s afraid of losing her. Dr. Rob shares how you can build empathy with a betrayed partner, in this week’s episode.

 

TAKEAWAYS:

[:30] What’s the best way to find a sponsor?

[2:45] It’s okay to ask for help. Find someone similar to you who is a little bit ahead of you.

[4:55] Can EMDR help “cure” me?

[8:45] How can I hurt my wife less?

[13:25] How can I build my empathy a little bit more?

[16:00] My SA keeps bouncing back and forth in wanting to go to recovery. When is enough enough?

[19:55] Men also get betrayed. There are also women sex addicts. They exist!

[24:55] Can you do EMDR multiple times?

[27:00] Just because you’re hurt doesn’t mean you still don’t love them. Your pain doesn’t erase all your other emotions for that person.

[28:40 Does delusional thinking continue while in recovery?

 

RESOURCES:

Seekingintegrity.com

Email Tami: [email protected]

Sexandrelationshiphealing.com

Intherooms.com

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