Dr. Rob and Tami answer a question from someone in recovery who can’t stop himself from relapsing. He has been to outpatient help, and he’s in the process of losing his job and family, yet he can’t seem to stop. How can he really get the help he needs if he keeps reverting back to ‘default’? Dr. Rob and Tami share their tough love and also answer questions on how to stay in integrity and truthfulness, and how to set healthy boundaries with yourself. 

 

TAKEAWAYS:

[0:25] How do I be more honest? I’m so used to being anxious. 

[3:55] I just found out the disclosure was not complete. Where do I go from here?

[11:20] My SA says it’s too early to do a disclosure, and he still wants sex. What should I do? 

[18:50] If you’re not sure who your partner has been with, please please get an STD test. The both of you!

[20:25] Why do I keep relapsing? I keep playing the victim very well. 

[24:20] Despite messing up your life in several ways, there is a way out.

[26:45] I have a problem. Where do I go from here? 

 

RESOURCES:

Seekingintegrity.com

Email Tami: [email protected]

Sexandrelationshiphealing.com

Intherooms.com

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