Dr. Rob and Tami talk about how you can process your hurt and anger after you’ve found out about your spouse’s infidelity and addiction. When Tami began her recovery journey, she also had to process a lot of angry emotions and she discovered that it was triggering hidden abandonment wounds. Your initial emotions might not be what they seem, and Tami offers advice on how you can dive deeper within yourself to help process the pain.

 

TAKEAWAYS:

[:35] The cheating is now just gone to porn masturbation. Is this still cheating?

[1:40] Tami shares her thoughts on harm reduction.

[4:20] How does Dr. Rob define sex addiction?

[6:30] At the end of the day, what do you want? There’s a clear line on what sobriety is.

[6:50] As a betrayed spouse, I’m mad at so much. How can I process this?

[10:45] What is “brain spotting”?

[11:55] Whenever my SA husband touches me, I feel sick to my stomach. How do I fix this?

[16:30] Should I tell our respective family members about my addiction? They know my wife has been depressed.

[24:05] Is commitment phobia connected with sex addiction?

[28:20] How easy is it for someone to get over a 50-year addiction?

 

RESOURCES:

Seekingintegrity.com

Email Tami: [email protected]

Sexandrelationshiphealing.com

Intherooms.com

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