Life Uncut

Hey Lifers,

Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer all of your deep, dark and burning questions.
Laura has endured one of the most awkward experiences we could imagine. It involves a naked French man on a stage, a crowd and tears in the front row.

Vibes for the week:

Laura: Book the trip! Book any trip with your friends/family that you have been planning.
Britt: Podcast Kill List by Wondery
Keeshia: Cloud Nine Curl Wand

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MY PARTNER DOESN'T WANT TO WEAR CONDOMS BUT I DON'T WANT TO BE ON CONTRACEPTION
We unpack a situation from love is blind where the male partner expressed that he doesn't find 'condom sex' pleasurable. The female partner says that she does not want to go on a hormonal contraception. What do you do if you and your partner don't 'agree' to using condoms during sex?

HOW MANY DATES BEFORE I HAVE TO MAKE A CHOICE?
I am recently single and back on the market after nearly 4 years. I’ve come out of my past relationship with a lot of confidence and have been using the dating apps a bit and even got myself some friends with benefits. I have found myself in a situation where I like two guys that I have met but I’ve only been on 3 or so dates with each of them over the period of a month. So my question is, how long/how many dates can you go on with people before you need to make a choice. And when do I need to stop my friends with benefits? I don’t want to end up in a situation where they find out about each other and I end up with neither. I don’t know if I am being selfish/giving player vibes. I just put all my eggs in one basket like I did with my ex and ended up in a relationship 1.5years longer than I should have. Please send help

DO I INVITE MY DAD'S GIRLFRIEND WHO HE CHEATED ON MY MUM WITH?
I am getting married in 3 weeks. My parents have been separated for nearly 25 years. My dad had been in a relationship since they separated, but my mum has always stayed single. The problem is, my dad’s latest girlfriend, who he has been with for at least 6 years, is one of my mum's old friends, and someone he cheated with while still with my mum. My partner and I have been engaged for nearly 2 years, and I told my mum when we got engaged that my dad's girlfriend would be getting invited to the wedding. I was hoping that with nearly 2 years notice she would be able to come to terms with it and be somewhat civil about it. My mum has recently opened up and told me that she blames this woman for, in my mum's words, "ruining her life". I am not close with my dad’s family, so his girlfriend will be the only person he really knows at the wedding. My mum thinks that me inviting my dad's girlfriend to the wedding is me picking their side and that she doesn't know if she will be able to not say anything or start any drama at the wedding when she sees her, as she has been holding onto this hate for so long. I don't want drama, and I hate conflict, but I feel like I'm in a lose lose situation. Do I:
A. Uninvite her and risk my dad also not coming to the wedding and a potential fight with him
B. Say something to my dad and his girlfriend about my mum's feelings, and ask them to keep their distance at the wedding which could also just result in more drama.
C. Try to stay out of it and cross my fingers that everyone just behaves
I feel sick about it all and it's taking over anything else I can think about leading up to my wedding.

HE'S GOING TO PROPOSE ON HER BIRTHDAY
My best friend's bf is getting ready to propose, in PARIS! They’re going on a trip to Europe for her birthday (I’m also going on this trip) and he just told me he wants to do it the night of her actual birthday. I personally wouldn’t want to be proposed to on my birthday. However, I don’t know if she would love it or not and I can’t exactly ask her any questions without giving it away! What are your thoughts!?

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Today’s episode is all about migraines, a debilitating condition that affects millions of people worldwide, including our very own Britt. Britt has struggled with migraines her entire life. We’re joined by Dr. Kaitlyn Parratt, a neurologist who specialises in headache disorders and epilepsy.  

We speak about:

• Why women experience migraines more than men

• Periods of our lives when you might experience them more

• How hormones and other triggers affect migraines

• The genetic component of migraines

• The physical and psychological toll they take

• Treatment options, first and second line therapies

• The process of qualifying for migraine ‘botox’

• Chicken or the egg? Anxiety, OCD, depression and migraines

• Do orgasms help relieve migraine pain?

You can find information and neurologists at Sharp Neurology 

You can find Dr Kaitlyn on instagram and Sharp Neurology on instagram

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Hey Lifers,
Britt and Laura won a big, fancy radio award for best podcast hosts!! Laura is finishing off sailing the high seas on her first cruise so producer Keeshia is filling in for her today. 
Both her and Britt have unexpected and uncalled for hangovers from the awards night.
Britt's whole family think Keeshia is a huge creep!

Last week we spoke about Monica and Stephen on Love Is Blind and Stephen’s use of ‘therapy speak’ in the pods to make him seem more emotionally intelligent and in tune.
More episodes have been released and... it's not good for Monica and Stephen. But, something happened when they were 'breaking up' and it had us questioning whether you should or shouldn't ask an ex to pay you back for any money they may owe you.
Have you asked for someone to pay you after you've broken up? What was the amount?

Two shows are currently trending about the Menendez brothers on Netflix. One is a documentary that involved the brothers who are currently in prison serving consecutive life sentences for the murder of their parents. The other is a dramatised TV series based on 10 different perspectives and directed by Ryan Murphy.
Ryan Murphy is known for his controversial true crime dramas like Dahmer - Monster: The Jeffrey Dahmer Story, the People vs. O.J. Simpson, and The Assassination of Gianni Versace.`

We discuss:

• Whether it’s ethical to create a series that includes traumatic events without consulting with the people most affected by it, 
• Whether sensationalising true crime stories has gone too far, 
• How the public perception of victims of abuse has evolved, and
• The power of social media in turning attention to these stories.

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It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.

On the show: 

• Charlotte Crosby joins The PickUp
• Dua's viral drink
• The man who got fired for his digital footprint
• Laura's been paying Britt's gas bill
• Gen Zed vs Millenial 

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Hey Lifers!

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer all of your deep and burning questions!
Britt's sister Sheri has had her juice go missing from her fridge and the culprit is not a character that you'd suspect!!
Have you had a tradie do something that they weren't supposed to at your house?

Vibes for the week:
Laura: Laundry Apron with pouch
Britt: Netflix Nobody Wants This
Keeshia: Emily Henry Beach Read

Then we jump into your questions!

WHEN IS IT APPROPRIATE TO MEET UP WITH MALE COLLEAGUES?
I am a single, attractive (thanks genetics) female working in sports, which entails mostly male coworkers, travel and a lot of late nights. My question is, when is or isn’t it appropriate to meet up with male coworkers, particularly one-on-one, outside of work? I try to err on the side of daytime or group activities, however, I do feel like I have genuine friendships that sometimes are hurt because of my fear of an interaction appearing inappropriate to others because of the male/female thing, or for fear of a coworker I *thought* was harmless taking things in an inappropriate direction after a few drinks (it’s happened before). Am I over thinking this or are my guidelines for myself appropriately placed? Worth noting that 99% of these men are married.

DO I GIVE THE FAMILY SOME MONEY OR RESPECT MY GRANDMA'S WISHES?
My grandma passed away. She had been estranged from my parents and siblings and all other family members for over 15 years. During those 15 years I’ve had a close relationship with her. She made me her enduring power of attorney (her decision maker) and also the director of her will. My parents and siblings have had hate and bitterness towards her and completely wiped her, but I never experienced anything they did so my relationship with my grandma was never affected. My grandma has left me with everything including some money. Do I respect her wishes and not give any of the family money or belongings or do I divide it because they want it and said they deserve it?

CAN I GET A 4 YR OLD MAKEUP FOR CHRISTMAS?
I have a four year old daughter that is obsessed with makeup and clothes. We don’t mind the clothes, she loves dresses and tutus and wears one everyday, even to bed! But I’m a little worried that she loves makeup so much. She sees me put on makeup for work everyday and I explain that everyone is beautiful without make up, sometimes we wear it to look fancy. She now wants to look fancy for daycare everyday. All she wants from Santa is a big makeup kit. I suppose my questions are: Do you think it’s okay to get a four year old a big makeup kit for Xmas? And is her obsession with makeup at 4 years old worrying or okay considering she is very young and we are careful with our messaging around not needing makeup to look beautiful.

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There is a lot of discussion around women's empowerment in general, but women's leadership in particular is a topic that we are still defining and understanding. We’ve spoken before about gender pay gaps, glass ceilings, sticky floors, opportunity cost and the expectations on women to ‘do it all’ before. 

Megan Dalla-Camina is a three time best selling author and award winning women’s leadership and gender diversity expert. She is also the founder and CEO of the fastest growing women's ed-tech platform ‘Women rising’.

Today’s chat is about understanding the reasons behind why ⅘ women feel as though they are not thriving at work and the little voice in our head tells us we just aren’t doing a good enough job. Megan calls this the archetypes of the inner critic:

The perfectionist
The beauty queen
The sceptic
The imposter
The people pleaser
The outsider
The comparer
The good girl
The overachiever
The self doubter
The chameleon
The empath
The ideal mother

We also speak about:

• What mini burnout looks like and how you feel when the mini burnouts happen one after the other

• Motherhood paradox of the expectation to work like they don’t have children but raise kids as though they don’t have work responsibilities

• People pleasing, trying to be an agreeable, easy to work with person and how that leads to you not getting what you deserve at work

• How we can utilise this information to help us feel more comfortable in finding what is going to be ‘success’ to us and make us genuinely happy

• Feminine vs masculine ‘traits’ in leadership
  
  

You can find more from Megan at her website and Instagram
You can get Megan's book Women Rising 

You can take the https://megandallacamina.com/innercriticquiz-questions/

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Hey Lifers!

Britt looks like Dwayne 'The Rock' Johnson today, but the dress code for her wedding has caused an unintentional stir. The Europeans think she's a bit of a creep!
Last week Laura told us how much she loved the reptiles at the reptile park and in a relatively ironic turn of events, she might have 15 of her own coming to her new home!

A few days ago, Love Is Blind US (Netflix) released season 7 of the show. There was a particular moment where one of the contestants, Stephen admits to Monica that he has emotionally cheated in the past. He then went on to say “we went through therapy. We worked it out” and “I’m actively in therapy to talk about these things.”

We spoke about how speaking about therapy in the dating landscape can be great, but it can also be used as a tactic to manipulate their date into thinking they're more emotionally intelligent than they are! Many women now say they prefer to date men who’ve been to therapy. Do men now use therapy as a badge of emotional depth?

We also spoke about "therapy-speak" and the overuse of certain labels or phrases like triggering, trauma, narcissist, gaslighting and sociopath. Do you think the overuse of these terms dilutes the experiences of people who have endured genuine abuse or trauma? We also spoke about how we can spot when therapy-speak is being used manipulatively versus when it reflects genuine emotional growth. 

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It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.

On the show: 

• Lana Del Ray and her Alligator tour guide husband
• Shot gun weddings
• What got stuck in you
• Mitch's pitches 

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Hey lifers,
Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer all of your deep, dark and burning questions!
We're all a little scattered today driving past turn offs and forgetting entire road trips! 

PLEASE VOTE FOR US IN THE AUS PODCAST AWARDS

Vibes: 
Britt - Will & Harper on Netflix
Laura - Zoe Foster Blake book "Things Will Calm Down Soon"
Keeshia - How to find the listed For Sale range or price on any listing on Domain or Real Estate Davey Hamilton

Then we jump into your questions!

SHOULD 'FAMILY PLANNING' BE ASKED BY MY BOSS?
I’m a medical doctor going through my final years of subspecialty training. I had a missed miscarriage in April this year and had to ask for time off work to go through the miscarriage and I developed complications afterwards resulting in a hospital admission. This time off “had to be approved” by my head of department I was told. A few months later I interviewed for a Fellow job (a promotion) and was told I’m “not ready”. Then in my supervisor meeting a month or two later, my supervisor (who is the HOD) flatly asked me how my “family planning” is going?!? I feel very uncomfortable about this situation and feel like I’m being held back because I’m a mother hoping to have another child. I guess my question is:
- Am I wrong to feel I’m being discriminated against?
- Is there anything I should/could do about this?
- Should I just suck it up and put up with it?
Keep in mind these people have total control over my career progression in training and in the hospital

WORKPLACE GIFTS
When I first joined my workplace, within a short time there was the 40th birthday of one of the 9 staff members in our office. Despite there being no party that colleagues were invited to, there was a collection of money for a gift for this person. At the time I was in my early 20’s. Fast forward and I’ve recently had my 30th and had celebrations without my work colleagues invited (intimate small gatherings out of town). Now I didn’t receive a gift from my colleagues. No biggie I thought, whatever. But now another colleague is having his 60th and we’ve been invited by the family to lunch and there’s an office money collection for a present. TBH I’m like WTF! I don’t know if this gift is meant to be in lieu of maybe some free food at the party, but I’m not impressed. I kinda want to make a point and not put money in, but being in a small office, I know I will be talked about and so I’ll just cave to social pressure and put cash in… But have I missed some social cues here? Would love to know the girls thought

HOW DO I GET THIS GUY OUT OF MY DMs AND INTO A REAL DATE?
I’ve been messaging this Aussie ‘influencer’ since January. He’s mentioned multiple times that he ‘can’t wait to see me,’ but still hasn’t asked me out despite living just 25 minutes away. I get that he has a busy, travel-heavy life, but it’s frustrating that when he’s back in town, he doesn’t make the effort. I’ve even called him out, saying it feels like he’s just keeping me around to stroke his ego. He insists that’s not the case but always has some excuse. Our mutual friends have hinted that he can be sketchy, so now I’m wondering—do I keep him around for banter or just a ghost

DO I INVITE MY EX BEST FRIEND TO MY WEDDING?
My ex best friend and I were best friends for 10 years, she saw me through the best and worst of times and a few of those years were long-distance (international). We had a falling out two years ago - it was pretty rough and we tried to work through it, but it just wasn’t working so we stopped speaking. We never spoke about it to resolve things but since then we’ve messaged each other for each other’s birthdays, and any other big events (she texted me congrats on the engagement) and it’s always been pleasant. Her family and I have remained super close which includes her parents and her sister (who is like a little sister to me). I definitely want to invite her family to my wedding, does that mean I have to invite her? If so, how do I approach the situation? The wedding will be only with my closest family and friends (100 people max). She was always my other half, and I never imagined having my wedding without her. But is it weird to invite someone who you’re not that close with any more just because they used to mean a lot to you? I think about her every day and I wish that we could reconcile our friendship, but I fear that the distance is too hard as that was our falling out

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Michelle Bridges is a fitness icon, TV personality, and bestselling author of 17 books! Recently, she developed a new program specifically for women navigating menopause, combining her personal experience with her expertise in fitness to help women stay strong and healthy during this life stage.

We previously released an episode on perimenopause and menopause with Dr Louise Newson that you can listen to here
Dr Newson gives us a really important medical insight into the changes that can happen during this time, and we wanted to extend this conversation and speak with Michelle about her lived experience and some of the lifestyle factors that can impact this time of women’s lives.

In this episode we speak about:

• The lesser known symptoms that Michelle experienced during perimenopause

• The steps Michelle took to work out what was going on in her body

• The importance of finding a GP who specialises in women’s health

• Being offered antidepressants when Michelle didn’t identify with being depressed

• Feeling really empowered during this stage of life

• How exercise, nutrition and supplementation can impact menopause

You can find more from Michelle’s Menopause Method 

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