🔸 Worthlessness parts came up as result of last call. We talk about our work together, and concerns about public Discord conversations, then attempt to go to it, but "beating myself up" keeps coming in.

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🔸 "Everything being taken away" a 2 year old in a hurricane, whose wants haven't mattered. We discuss "agendas".

🔸 Possible ADHD diagnosis brings up "Not good enough" exile. "Blocking / fear of freaking out" and "Agenda" show up along the way. Strategies for solo parts work.

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🔸 A grownup protector-in-exile: "back to bed", sick-mentality. 

I had difficulty towards the end, wanting to suggest focusing on the superhero part. We had covered so much ground, though. Was I leading the witness too much asking about "Not gonna be enough", "Not worth it", etc? Interesting to hear such classic exile sentiments that may not be beliefs about itself.

*Afterward Aandraya reported: after our last session I felt really calm and peaceful and then again- the next day I had that lost feeling like things were out of sorts! This always happens to me in the days after! Anyway thanks again for doing this work, it does make a big difference, creates really powerful awareness!😊

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🔸 Salvation. The Devil. A sliver of light.

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🔸 "The truest essence"

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🔸 Somatic therapist & yoga teacher since 2000, Islena Faircrest is an IFS & trauma informed transformational coach, serving clients globally via zoom. She facilitates the healing power of learning secure attachment in relationships, and aids individuals & families in their healing journey towards empowered living.    

A mother of two young adults, and former doula and prenatal educator, she's therapeutically guided folks of all ages for 23 years, taught Yoga teacher trainings, and retreats across the globe, and written for health content media. As a somatic bodyworker & holistic educator she's utilized an intuitive blend of systems rebalancing, myofascial release, energy retrieval work, and Bowen Bodywork Therapy.  

 You can connect with her at www.onboardyoga.com

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🔸 Feeling threatened by her daughter. Hopelessness, judgement, the 13 year old, and the parts she protects.

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🔸 Shaming, anxiety and plenty of others have objections to Olivia's excitement about IFS.

 Some guesses why (and why it might not be too much): When first-time callers have anxious parts that won't step back, and express discomfort with silence, I have a choice: bring attention to those parts, or go along with them. Even if I have all the "right" responses, we risk overwhelming anxious parts if we keep directing focus there. Whereas "going along with it" is more like "you're uncomfortable with silence? Ok, I will be too", which, framed positively, could be called "meeting parts where they are".   

I shift from "help client work with parts" to "help client's parts feel alright with working with me again".  

When she suggested going to exile, I thought "we're not in the right space" but also "why not do some fact finding?", which is why I redirected to the protector's perception of exile.   

Olivia also knows her stuff, has done some parts-work and mapping, which can also pose a challenge for me. I'm trying to assimilate her preexisting language/map; I don't have the "home field advantage", opportunity to set the table / space, and be more directive.   

What do you think?

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🔸 Anxiety about the job that starts next week, but coming from a different part.

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