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- 181: Mio A. - first call
🔸 "I'm getting a new friend!" Mio has done a little parts work with a therapist, but never like this. Powerful.
She said later: "This session has gotten me to a new depth, it's actually so simple, and so essential. I have worked with and diaried about it, but I'vve never been able to unpack it."
🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):- To be loved without being abandoned
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:What do you think? Would we call that an exile or protector? We went from a part calling her selfish to a part wanting/justifying being selfish, without explicitly acknowledging that. Did I lose the thread? Was "calling selfish" the protector and "wanting to be selfish" an exile?-----🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form😀Come chat with us: Discord🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here:ItunesYouTubeHow to leave a review - iPhone👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionairre
1 hr 11 min - 180: Hanna A. revisits (J edit)
🔸 Two teams battle over an exile who doesn't want to be alive. We go for it.
🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):- The Director, action taker, and planning part
- The Resistance: "no action", "no planning", and "avoid, go outside"
- The exile: "Life is hard, there's no point", wants a new family
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:I was eager to address the resistance parts, but she said she already had. Also I was considering the planning, director, etc. to be protectors, but that might not match Hanna's experience or language. All could be reasons for us to delay the work of going to exile, I think I did a decent job of guiding that way without being pushy.-----🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form😀Come chat with us: Discord🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here:ItunesYouTubeHow to leave a review - iPhone👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionairre
55 min - 179: Daniel A. revisits
🔸 A new record?
🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):- 1. Afraid of overwhelm
- 2. Fear of being misunderstood
- Exiles: Worthlessness, ashamed of free and open play, "I shouldn't exist"
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:There were a couple times where I made assumptions or could have listened more closely, to be even more efficient!
Note: it may have sounded like I was merely encouraging fantasizing, but that was not my intention.
I don't believe it's necessarily therapeutic to indulge/fantasize every anti-social thought. I don't recall seeing any mention in IFS literature specifically supporting (or discouraging) catharsis as an effective tool.
My understanding and perspective is one of "all parts are welcome", meaning, if a part has something it wants to show us, then continually repressing/denying it is counter productive. We all have "bad" thoughts; I believe we would be better off in the big picture, culturally and personally, by finding ways to safely acknowledge, normalize, validate, and learn about them.
-----🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form😀Come chat with us: Discord🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here:ItunesYouTubeHow to leave a review - iPhone👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionairre
1 hr 15 min - 178: Rachel A. revisits
🔸 "Oh it's you, mommy"
🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):- The possessive part doesn't want to share (the attention)
- The 6-7 year old feels worthless
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:I felt like I was on the edge of being too insistent, especially once the blocking part came up, but we did it!-----🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form😀Come chat with us: Discord🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here:ItunesYouTubeHow to leave a review - iPhone👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionairre
1 hr 17 min - 177: Ian A. revisits
🔸 Abstract! A manager/critic that can't go along with contentedness.
🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):- Toothy gear.
- Throat
- Rather be sippin juice
- Age 8, knows Ian's real age
- Needs supervision
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:I enjoyed the convo. It was not typical, but I'm not sure what I would have done differently. Technical difficulties were distracting (internet went out at home)-----🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form😀Come chat with us: Discord🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here:ItunesYouTubeHow to leave a review - iPhone👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionairre
1 hr 2 min - 176: Aandraya A. revisits
🔸 Parts-work hangovers, and meeting the critic.
🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):- Critic, maybe overlapping with Anger
- Upper body
- Afraid of being misled, also of feeling diminished, confused
- Rather be relaxing
- Thinks she's 14
- Needs Aandraya to speak up
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:I didn't call it a "figuring out part" in this convo, maybe I should have been more direct about that. We had just 20 minutes available to shift into exile work, so I decided against it. That put me in ambiguous territory, not wanting to ask too much about how that exile felt. I wish I had done more contracting around bookmarking it. Instead I'll use a contract with myself to follow up.-----🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form😀Come chat with us: Discord🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here:ItunesYouTubeHow to leave a review - iPhone👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionairre
58 min - 175: Jo A. revisits
🔸 “How many parts are there? When are we going to be done?” A protector wants Jo to just get over it. We spend half our time with him and the other half with the related exile, a fearful 4-year-old.
🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):- Exile: 4 year old, don’t let anybody in, even you.
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:I think Ive been studying IFS too much recently. Sometimes 8 potential responses form in my mind, I'm overwhelmed with options. I did try a couple new ones around the exile redo.-----🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form😀Come chat with us: Discord🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here:ItunesYouTubeHow to leave a review - iPhone👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionairre
57 min - 174: Daniel A. revisits
🔸 Romance, Demons, invisible walls and black magic. Laughter, tears, revenge. Fear of rejection, worthlessness, overwhelm. Distrust of self. And a toddler.
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:I'm celebrating! I vowed to figure out whatever was causing a chronic ailment of mine, which had a major impact on my ability to access Self, and I think I succeeded. Today is day one. It would have persisted another 10 years if not for IFS. (Touched on with Pro Kerpelman.) I finalized the negotiations with my system to devote more resources to it. Not just through IFS, but also for IFS; I need to be well! Thank you, listener, for helping me see how much it matters.-----🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form😀Come chat with us: Discord🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here:ItunesYouTubeHow to leave a review - iPhone👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionairre
"1 hr 18 min - 173: Rachel A. revisits
🔸 Rachel is happy! Is that a part? Is anyone getting left behind?
-----🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form😀Come chat with us: Discord🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here:ItunesYouTubeHow to leave a review - iPhone👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionairre
1 hr 3 min - 172: Frauke A. - first call
🔸 Frauke is about to receive an award, but a part doesn't want it.
🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):- In chest, hot
- Concerned about not being understood. Deeper concerns point to teenage part, pain of not belonging, not being enough.
- Rather relax
- Needs to be able to witness from a distance, and to find some authentic feedback.
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:I was surprised by the young part showing up, and with that level of emotion. Had this not been our first call, I would have been more willing to dive in.-----🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form😀Come chat with us: Discord🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here:ItunesYouTubeHow to leave a review - iPhone👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionairre
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