Living and Loving Your Life with Chantel Allen

With so much going on in the world- our brains are not liking the amount of uncertainty, unknown and things out of our control.

But what if in these times, we are being blinded by the amount of things we can control.

In today's episode, I share several exercises and practices to use during uncertainty to give you control and options. Listen in for some relief.

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During this time of social distancing- we are zoomed in so much with our lives.

We don't have the usual breaks, and resets that were built into our day before.

So when we are feeling anxious, overwhelmed, frustrated, use that as a red flag to mentally distance.

Learn how in todays show

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Happiness- what is it? How do we get more of it?

We think it comes from obtaining something, having kids behave etc. But this quest will result in always chasing the elusive happiness.

So today, we discuss what it looks like to obtain happiness TODAY without needing anything else to change.

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Loneliness seems to be hanging out a lot right now as we go through social distancing. There's many of us experiencing a lot anxiety with loneliness because it feels scary, and unknown.

But loneliness is not a state of being. It's a feeling that we create from our thoughts.

Learn today how to overcome loneliness by working on your relationship with you

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There are times where we just don't feel ok.

Instead of resisting it- talking ourselves out of it- let yourself just not feel ok.

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When we've done something for a period of time- I think we expect ourselves to become experts.

But with an expert mind- we shut ourselves down to possibility.

We don't allow ourselves to see options.

So in this podcast, we are going to discuss why being in a beginners mind is a benefit and how to cultivate that.

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Living in the unknown is sometimes scary

We don't like not knowing what could happen or what things mean for us.

But we're going to talk today about how that fear impacts us and what to do in these times of uncertainty and chaos.

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Our goal is to be aware of our thoughts so we have choices and opportunities to change them.

This information is often used against ourselves.

We add a layer of judgement to our judgement thoughts or negative thoughts.

When we do this- we lose all ability to change.

Today we dive into what this looks like and what to do about it.

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What is your past? How would you describe it?

Learning the story we are telling ourselves and understanding we have a choice to change that story- is SO powerful.

The past no longer exists except in your mind.

So what do you want to say about your past now?

Learn how to go about rewriting that story in a way that leaves you in control and empowered.

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So many of us find ourselves saying yes to requests, because we don't want to hurt feelings.

This is people pleasing.

People pleasing has no upside to it.

In fact, we aren't controlling someone else's feelings about us no matter how decide to do things.

Learning to stop people pleasing is a huge relationship builder.

Learn how today.

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