Living and Loving Your Life with Chantel Allen

So many of us think we need motivation, or inspiration FIRST before taking action.

This is why so many of get stuck, and feel unfulfilled and continue to procrastinate on our day to day lives.

We're supposed to have 50/50 with our emotions, but when we feel the 50% negative, we resist it and do everything we can to fix it.

This my friends, is what we discuss today.

On the podcast you'll learn how to feel the negative- allow it- AND take action. Yes, you can do both.

We don't need to wait- we can take action when we're anxious, frustrated or bored.

So many times we go through our life thinking things are impossible.

It's impossible to stop yelling at the kids

It's impossible to love my life as it is

It's impossible for you to ever change

Impossibility seems final

But as we discuss in todays podcast- impossibility is temporary.

We need to learn to stop using the past as evidence we can't do something- and start living in possibility.

Listen as you learn how to do that.

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What is something you fear?

Fear of speaking in public?

Fear of failing?

Fear of never changing?

We all fear things in our lives, but I would ask you to consider the cost of not really evaluating that fear.

I used to fear flying. It stopped me from really living in the moment. Stopped me from dreaming. And now, I can truly say, I don't fear flying. This has taken a lot of insight on my part, but it's totally doable and I'm so grateful for this growth.

Where are you letting fear stop you? Where are you not able to move forward and progress because of fear?

Listen as we decide how to stop fearing and start living

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Just like instruction manuals for how things work, we have manuals for everyone in our lives.

These manuals go unknown and we rarely ever tell anyone about the manuals we have which can cause relationship strains.

Learning what our manuals are and what they look like and how to drop them, is a huge key to creating the relationships we want in life.

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We can experience growing pains physically. It comes when we're growing super fast.

Just like physical growing pains, we can experience mental growing pains. This is us going through the river of misery. It really helps to know this is normal. It helps as we go through uncomfortable situations.

Learn how to cope with the growing pains and how to embrace the discomfort to get the results you want in life.

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Do you worry?

Worry if everything will be ok?

Worry if others will like you?

Worry only pretends to be useful and understanding that can help recognize it for what it is.

Worry will just keep us stuck. So what do we do to stop worrying?

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We're on to the next part of the CTFAR Model- Actions.

Do you know why you yell?

Why didn't you go to the gym?

What made you send that text?

So many times, we think we do things without being aware. But the answer isn't being aware of our actions, it's being aware of the thoughts and feelings that drove those actions.

Listen today as we discuss what it takes to be aware and why we do the things we do.

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Today, I'm excited to go deeper into the CTFAR model and explore its second part—feelings.

Join me as we uncover how emotions differ from our thoughts and how to process our emotions instead of resisting them.

Show Notes

This week, we begin our deep-dive into the CTFAR model and discuss how it affects everything we do. Learning about this model was the key for me when it came to understanding why I was struggling as much as I was as a mom and why I wasn't getting anywhere on my own.

Today we begin with discussing our thoughts. I explain what your thoughts really are, why you are not your thoughts, and why that separation is so crucial to changing your thinking.

Tune in to discover this episode's important tips and strategies that will help give you a new perspective, increase your awareness, and get you unstuck on your journey to creating the life you want.

I think the reason we as moms feel so frustrated and exhausted is because we have a belief that "They should just do what I say." If we are a good mom, we've taught them who to listen. When they don't- we may feel it's a reflection of us as not being good enough.

Today we will discuss how this is actually the cause of our pain- our own thinking- and not what our children do or don't do.

We'll also go into how we can give consequences from a place of love rather than anger.

It's a good one you guys.

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