Love Over Addiction

When you love someone suffering from addiction, you may question why you stay. And let's be honest, with everything going on right now, all the shelter-in-place and stay-at-home orders, we've got a lot on our minds.

It's a lot to process and work through. My heart goes out to you, sister. I was once where you are today, and you've got a whole other layer to navigate being at home with these uncertain times.

Today is all about why you are staying in your relationship right now - or maybe why you stayed as long as you did. I share why I stayed as long as I did, and why that whatever you choose, it's fine.

It's your choice, and frankly, like me 10 years ago, you may just not be ready to leave yet.

You can find hope, sister. Regardless of where you are today, let's drop the judgment and focus on our own healing.

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**Listen to this episode for a special update from me during this time**

A lot of times in the recovery world we, the loved ones, are labeled as codependent people. They basically use that label to explain why we might have gotten into this relationship in the first place.

Labels set aside, we all got into our relationships for different reasons. And of course, we're each choosing to stay or leave for our own reasons.

Here's what I think: being labeled as "codependent" can have its benefits. I believe there are ways to use these codependent tendencies for good.

Today you'll hear about three benefits of codependency. What do you think? Do you have these benefits like I do?

We're empathetic loving women that take care of everyone else. Right? Can you relate? Raise your hand if you always care for someone else before putting your own needs first.

I was once that way. And I still have to remind myself to take care of myself instead of focusing on everyone else.

So today I'm here with a tip about how to love yourself when you love an alcoholic or addict.

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When we love someone suffering from addiction we can become so bogged down with their choices and addiction.

It's nice to hear tips, new ideas, and things to try that can actually make a difference in your day-to-day life. And here's the other great thing: It lets you focus on yourself and what you're doing and less and less on them and what they're doing.

We hope you enjoy these 12 quick tips that you can start implementing today!

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When we love someone suffering from addiction, we can take on the role of fixer, solver, and just plain 'figure-everything-out-and-make-everything-better-er'. Am I right?

We take on their addiction and with that, we take on lies and mistruths that lead our beliefs. The truth of it is that taking those on is harmful. It's not beneficial to our healing.

When we can remove the goggles of their addiction and see the situation truly for what it is, we can let go of these lies and move forward in our own healing.

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When we love someone suffering from addiction, we think that if they can just get sober, all the problems would melt away. We'd somehow have a "normal" life after that, right?

I know when I was married to a good man that suffered from addiction, that's what I thought.

Today we have an interview from our community who shares her story and how they got here. Her husband hasn't had a drink in over five years, and she continues to practice her healing every single day. We talk about big issues, like a near death experience for her husband, why she was excited about that, and what her line in the sand is.

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When we love someone suffering from addiction it's so easy to feel completely isolated and alone. It can start to feel like we're living a lie because we tend to cover up their issues for them. We take on the role of fixing and solving. We hide, we may even lie. There's no judgment here. I get it. I did it for years.

So today we're here with some encouraging words. We're here to lift you up. We're here to tell you that not only are you doing an amazing job, but we'll tell you why that's the case too.

You deserve this.

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Today's episode is raw and real. We all have our own personal reasons for staying or leaving when we're in a relationship with a good person that is suffering from addiction.

In everyone's journey there comes a point that we get real about our reasons for staying (or leaving).

That point comes at all different times and for all different reasons, but it will happen.

When I got real about why I was staying I found some pretty uncomfortable reasons that were hard to admit. Now, this is my personal story. These are my personal experiences, and of course, I realize everyone is different.

There's no judgment necessary towards me (thank you) or towards yourself. We're all doing our best, and each of our situations are unique and similar all at the same time.

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When we love someone suffering from addiction we so often feel alone and isolated. We can feel left in the dark, like no one really knows what's going on. And that's true. It feels that way because more often than not, that's what's actually going on.

That's one of the reasons why we love sharing these interviews with women from our community. It reminds us that we're not alone. There are lots of women out there that actually understand what we're going through. Hearing their stories can help us find our own power, hear new insights, and of course, help us not feel so alone.

We highlight codependency, boundaries, finding professionals, and trusting yourself through her story.

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If we're getting real with each other, we've probably all had a conversation about pornography in our relationships.

Pornography is completely normalized, accepted, and expected as something that men (and women) do to cope, relieve stress, or otherwise find a release.

But here's the thing: how do we know when it's an addiction vs. just watching pornography for other reasons?

That's a great question, and something we explore on today's interview with our very own Laurie. Let's make space for her as she shares her story and connects with me about her husband's pornography addiction.

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