Love Over Addiction

When you love someone suffering from addiction to alcohol, drugs, sex, pornography, gambling, or whatever else they may choose, we get angry. Their addiction starts to overtake their lives and relationships, right? Of course we get angry. So this week we're talking specifically about how to let it go.

Here's the thing: if we don't find ways to let that anger go, it can build and become toxic to us.

It can start to cause resentment and bitterness. It can start to seep into other parts of our lives that just don't deserve to have anger there. Has that ever happened to you? I know it did for me. And there's no judgment.

It's just part of our lives because we love someone suffering from addiction.

So today I'm here with one quick tip on how to let go of some of this anger. A little strategy and technique that you can use throughout your day.

Start with the small situations, and work your way up as you get more and more comfortable with this little tip.

You ready? I know you can do it! We're here for you, we're in your corner, and this is your time, sister.

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Does your child suffer from addiction? Have you found them drinking, using drugs, huffing, or taking pills? If their parent suffers from addiction, that means they have a genetic predisposition.

Today we hear from a brave women in our community who caught her son smoking pot, and started a ten year battle with addiction that's still going on to this day.

Her boundaries, staying in her lane, and not enabling saved her son. And they're closer than ever in their relationship.

Let's make space for Natalie and her story. She's truly an inspiration as a mother, as a wife, and as a powerful, strong woman.

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When we love someone suffering from addiction, it can be hard to let go of the blame. This becomes especially true if you're a parent with a child who's suffering from addiction.

And it's not your fault. Nothing you did, didn't do, said, or didn't say has caused their addiction. Sometimes it can be really hard to actually believe that.

And let's be honest: your loved one may even tell you it's your fault. And that's hard to get over.

So today we're exploring more reasons it's not your fault. There's proof it's not your fault, and this can be helpful for some to actually believe it's truly not their fault.

If you're struggling with taking the blame, and thinking it's all your fault, listen to this episode, and last week's too.

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It's not your fault: https://loveoveraddiction.com/not-your-fault/

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Are you a mother or father with a child suffering from addiction? If so, do you take on the blame of their addiction? Do you think it's your fault? Do you think that you did (or didn't do) something right, and that's why they're suffering?

I'm here to tell you it's not your fault. And when you listen to today's episode, you'll hear why it's not your fault + another loving truth.

We have a free masterclass just for parents who have a child suffering from addiction. You can learn more and sign up here: https://loveoveraddiction.com/parents/

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Thriving. It's more than surviving. It's joy, excitement, opportunity, fun.

And let's be honest, when we love someone suffering from addiction, it can be very challenging to get to that space within ourselves.

I know it took me a long time, but I did get there. And I know you can too.

Today we hear from our community. Which you know, I've said a thousand times, I love our community. These women are full of power and wisdom. And listen, they're thriving. They've done a lot of work to get here, and now they're in a space where they're learning about their own selves.

For some of them it's coming back around to who they once were, and for others, it's discovering a whole new self.

Isn't that fantastic?

Please listen to (or read) their ways of thriving with open hearts and minds, and as always, without judgment.

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Today we find gratitude. Which let's be honest: in our situations, that can be really hard to do sometimes.

We had to share this episode again today because we wanted you to hear these brave women from our community, and how they find gratitude, all the while loving someone suffering from addiction.

It is certainly a practice, and we want to lovingly encourage you to find one way to be grateful for addiction today.

Let's make space for our sisters' gratitude, and we'll make space for yours too.

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You're part of this community, and let's be honest, most people don't actually understand what you're going through.

Your baseline for chaos and lack of control are more than the average woman ever has to deal with.

We asked our community to share some of their holiday tips. It's so nice to hear from other women who actually get it. They are living it right now too, or have lived it in the past.

Our community is such a source of power and wisdom.

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For years I played the role of the fixer and mender. I held it all together. I was the glue. Without me, my ex-husband and his addiction would fall apart.

I thought if I could just run around and excuse his behavior, clean up the messes, hide the evidence, fib to his boss, it would all be okay eventually.

Can you relate?

Well, I was wrong.

Once I learned what I should actually be doing, I dropped that exhausting role of trying to be the glue.

Instead, I let it all go. I let it all fall apart. Everything. I stopped fixing. I stopped lying for him. I stopped covering. I stopped downplaying.

And here's the thing: it actually helped. I know, that may sound crazy, especially if you're in the thick of playing this fixer role.

Listen to find out how letting it all fall apart can be the most helpful thing you could do for your partner (and yourself).

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Today we get to hear a real life story from a brave woman in our community. Her story is absolutely amazing, and we talk on big topics like letting go of codependent behaviors, supporting children through the chaos, and how to handle it when one child is extremely loyal to their father. Truly, she's found peace and happiness whether he's taking pills (and drinking) or not.

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When we love someone suffering from addiction, our relationships aren't 'normal' by any stretch of the word.

We can take on strange roles that we never imagined before, like taking care of our partners like they're our children.

Can you relate? Do you find yourself reminding them of appointments? Picking up their laundry? Cleaning up their messes? Driving them places? Making all their food?

There's no shame here. We're a judgment-free community. And I found myself in this exact position when I loved a good man that suffered from addiction.

I thought I was helping, but I was actually hurting.

Find out how to let go of acting like their mother, and where to put that energy and effort instead.

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