Talking points: inner child, fatherhood, abandonment, the shadow

Fair warning, there's a lot of F-bombs in this one. We've kept them in because I want people to get a sense of how deep a father wound can go. My guest has struggled with a kind of dualistic life. One day, he's crushing it and confident. The next, he feels uncertain and lost.

This is a heavy one, team, but absolutely worth checking out.

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Talking points: fatherhood, psychology, mindset

A while back, I put up an episode on the mother wound, aka healing your mommy issues. But there's always more to the story. There's also the "father wound", and it can have massive impact on everything from self-worth to relationships to skill at work. Listen in for a serious look at what it is, what creates it, and what to work on.

(00:00:00) - Intro and defining the “father wound”

(00:04:47) - The kinds of fathers/childhoods that create this

(00:13:53) - Symptoms of father wounding, and why they’re important to know

(00:23:52) - Common “archetypes” of fathers that create a father wound

(00:26:40) - So what do you do? 

(00:32:09) - On fathering yourself

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Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 

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Talking points: genetics, culture, psychology, parenting

I'm the kid who's always running to see what's over the next hill, so I'm both grateful and excited to have Alex on the show. His latest book is incredible, and gets to the science of how we're actually happier with a little less predictability in so many parts of our lives. If you're someone whose life feels kind of listless right now, this is YOUR episode.

(00:00:00) - The “explorer gene”, dopamine, and the impact of modern tech on our ability to explore

(00:15:20) - Our relationship with the unknown, and how it messes us up sometimes

(00:25:04) - How the unknown can challenge relationships, and how to navigate that

(00:29:40) - The difference between exploration and exploitation

(00:35:54) - The “free energy principle” and the “effort paradox”

(00:52:52) - Tactical insights on amping up your exploration mindset

Alex Hutchinson is the New York Times bestselling author of Endure, a longtime columnist for Outside covering the science of endurance, and a National Magazine Award–winning journalist who has contributed to the New York Times, The New Yorker, and other publications. A former long-distance runner for the Canadian national team, he holds a master’s in journalism from Columbia and a Ph.D. in physics from Cambridge, and he did his post-doctoral research with the National Security Agency. He lives in Toronto with his family.

Connect with Alex:

-Website: https://www.alexhutchinson.net/

-New book: The Explorer's Gene: https://bit.ly/43JicFr

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sweat_science/

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sweatscience

Talking points: culture, psychology, masculinity

I've covered the data behind this multiple times. A lot of men—not just in North America but globally—are struggling. Today I want to spark some dialogue by bringing some attention to what I think are just a few of the underlying reasons.

And I want your thoughts, too. Comment if you're on Spotify, DM me on Instagram. This is worth talking about beyond the usual blame games or "it's always been like this" deflection.

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Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 

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Talking points: sex, relationships, culture

Editor's Note: FYI team, had some audio snafus that we did our best to remedy. Thanks for your understanding! Grateful that Jamie and I sat down to talk all things intimate relationships. From how culture keeps shaping what men and women respond to, desire, and miss out on, to helping both yourself and her feel not just comfortable but welcome. This is a great ep to listen to with a partner, my friends.

(00:00:00) - What most men need to know about women’s desire

(00:05:41) - Helping a woman feel like all of her is welcome

(00:13:58) - Helping a partner who isn’t fully comfortable with themselves

(00:30:18) - For couples that find themselves stuck in monotony or dead bedroom

(00:37:58) - Common challenges women face in the “tragic phase”, and how men can move to support them

(00:44:04) - Become a gardener, not a consumer

Jamie Elizabeth Thompson has developed a holistic body of work to support women, men, and couples with letting go of limiting patterns around sex so they can have a fulfilling intimate life and taste their most exquisite erotic expression. She is a radical contributor to the field of Sex Education and is a pioneer in creating original and lasting solutions for challenges in sex & intimacy. She speaks about sexual transmutation, the spark of erotic life force in all things, sex magic and how creative life force can be channeled into manifesting your truest desires.

Connect with Jamie:

-FREE 'Reset Ritual' before your ‘Sexy Date’ (for women): https://awakenedwoman.life/datenight/

-Website: https://jamieelizabeththompson.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_awakened_woman

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/missjamieelizabeth

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Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 

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Talking points: attachment, relationships, psychology

If you're the more anxious type and you're dating someone more avoidant (or vice versa), it can create a whole realm of intensity that many people find hard to fathom. It's the best and worst of the old saying "opposites attract". Here's how to lower the temperature and move towards something more secure.

(00:00:00) - Intro and what contributes to this dynamic

(00:05:36) - The signs and signals that you’re in the cycle

(00:07:20) - How you break it, step one: figure out how you’re contributing

(00:10:13) - Two: full transparency of where you’re at

(00:12:46) - Three: learn how to lean into yourself OR the relationship

(00:16:24) - The phrase every avoidant needs to know

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Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 

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Talking points: masculinity, mental health, friendship

Short but important one, team. I'm sure you've seen the memes that go something like "Is the cure for male loneliness pickleball?" Maybe you've rolled your eyes at them more than once. I have.

Nevertheless, the data is clear, and a lot of men out there are starved of quality friend time. Here's how to change that.

(00:00:00) - Intro and why friendships are so important

(00:02:11) - The challenges, and tips to overcome them

(00:05:05) - The value of reciprocity and shared interests

(00:10:00) - Conflict is a part of it

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Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 

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Talking points: relationships

Yes, that's a provocative title. Yes, listen to the whole thing. No, this isn't men being mad at women. This is what I've seen time and again, plus what I've been told by multiple women and couples I've worked with, and it's something both parties are responsible for.

(00:00:00) - The factor good men are missing

(00:04:24) - Defining “emotional containment”

(00:08:30) - The big caveat, and an example

So like I said, listen to the whole thing.

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Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 

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Talking points: psychology, attachment theory

We've had a LOT of newcomers recently, and I'm getting some great questions around what attachment theory means for men specifically. To that end, I've made you all a compilation; an episode chock-full of info on the two most common styles! One that cuts through the jargon and gives you some things you can work on literally right now.

(00:00:00) - The core of anxious attachment

(00:06:33) - What causes anxious attachment, and how it shows up in a relationship

(00:16:59) - What to do with anxiety, starting with the breath

(00:22:02) - Reclaiming your ability to ground yourself, and exposure therapy 

(00:27:13) - The first, most important things to know re: avoidant attachment 

(00:31:46) - How avoidant attachment shows up, and where it can come from in childhood

(00:43:54) - How it can show up in a relationship

(00:47:25) - Healing avoidant attachment: six simple tactics

For EVEN MORE info, dig into the Ultimate Guide To Attachment HERE: https://training.mantalks.com/attachment-guide

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 

Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify

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Talking points: psychology, masculinity

If you've ever found yourself in strange push-pull dynamics, self-sabotaged relationships, or just feel like you never get it "right" with women, this may be your podcast. I see a lot of men battle their mommy (and daddy) issues instead of healing them. Let's change that.

(00:00:00) - Intro, what a “mother wound” is, and the most common variations

(00:14:22) - How a mother wound shows up, from hypervigilance to underachievement to zero boundaries

(00:21:19) - How do you work through this? Step one: how to build awareness of it

(00:23:56) - Step two: learn how to regulate. Seriously.

(00:25:33) - “Reparenting” the child in you

(00:27:52) - Stop outsourcing your self worth, and learn how to end your projections

A Man's Guide To Self-Worth: https://lnk.to/sRB9v6

How To Lead In Relationship: https://lnk.to/8xv131

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Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worth

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 

Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify

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