Men, Sex, and Pleasure with Cam Fraser

Quicky #34 comes Season 3, Episode 6: #36 Hypnosis for Sexual Dysfunction (with Alexandra Holovitz)

On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Alexandra Holovitz. Alexandra is a tantric sex coach & hypnotherapist. She is known for her honest, passionate and authentic coaching style. She works with career-minded men helping them to heal, express and empower thought tantra and self-compassion. She believes awakening sexual energy can support you to have deeper connection, understanding and self-acceptance to liberate and come back to your home (your body), REMEMBER your truth as a divine man! Her mission is to heal the world, one orgasm at a time. We spoke about her use of hypnosis for managing sexual dysfunction with her clients, such as erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. We also discussed the practicalities of establishing professional practitioner-client boundaries.

On this special episode of #mensexpleasure, I welcome with my brother, Callum, and we do something a little different. I regale him with a story about British physiologist, Giles Brindley. This is our foray into the history/comedy genre of podcasting. As such, we have a few drinks and a bit of fun.

Key points:

- Welcome Callum

- Who is Giles Brindley?

- Visual prostheses and eye experiments

- Spinal prostheses and side effects

- The hour lecture that changed sexual medicine

- Brindley's legacy

Sources:

Chase, V. D. (2006). Shattered Nerves: How Science Is Solving Modern Medicine's Most Perplexing Problem. Johns Hopkins University Press

Kan, J., Aziz, T. Z., Green, A. L., & Pereira, E. A. C. (2014) Biographical sketch: Giles Brindley, FRS. British Journal of Neurosurgery, 28(6), 704-706. doi: 10.3109/02688697.2014.925085

Goldstein, I. (2012). The hour lecture that changed sexual medicine - The Giles Brindley injection story. The Journal of Sexual Medicine, 9(2), 337-342. doi: 10.1111/j.1743-6109.2011.02635.x.

Quicky #32 is an excerpt from Season 3, Episode 5: #35 Taking Responsibility for Your Own Pleasure (with Parish Blair)

On today’s episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Sex Goddess and Master Manifestor, Parish Blair. Parish has studied psychoneuroimmunology and practices a variety of healing modalities for over 25 years, with dramatic results of synergy between the mind, body and spirit. As well as offering unique one-on-one sessions, such as Sensual Synergy and Orgasmic Gratitude Meditation, Parish also delivers international presentations, such as ‘Look At What My Pussy Can Do’ and ‘How To Give A BJ With A Heart Full Of Gratitude’. She is also the executive producer of Sexy Spirit TV and the creator of the Parish Blair Love Affair Tour Documentary, which features open lifestyle, swingers and polyamorous couples from 20+ cities in 20+ international destinations with the intention to release judgement and preconceived ideas about our human family.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Pomma. Pomma does various forms of sex work and is a huge advocate for decriminalizing and destigmatizing sex work. They make educational content about sex workers’ rights in hopes to humanize sex workers and their needs to people and systems who commonly overlook sex workers. It’s very important to Pomma that sex workers’ voices are at the forefront of legislation and conversations that affect their lived realities since they’re often excluded. Pomma likes to keep their feminism and politics intersectional, because, at the end of the day, what affects them affects you, and affects all of us. When they’re not raising awareness about censorship or decriminalization, Pomma is crafting cosplays and traveling for conventions.

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Check out Pomma’s educational work and socials at their Carrd: Pomma.Carrd.Co

Quicky #32 is an excerpt from Season 3, Episode 4: #34 Go With The Flow: Libido And The Menstrual Cycle (with Kristin Murray Alexi)

Today on the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Kristin Murray Alexi. Kristin has a bachelor’s degree in international studies with a focus on women in history, culture and religion, and a post graduate diploma in sexology. She is a certified Yoni Massage practitioner and trainer, and certified Sex Coach and trainer. She also works in the realm of priestessing as well as initiating other womben into this work. Kristin is known for her gentle yet informative and inclusive approach to pleasure-centered sex education. She offers certified trainings, group and 1:1 coaching sessions, online courses, and a fun and educative podcast with Tanishka Tantrika called Love Blood Sex Death. Kristin has been passionate about womben's wisdom teachings and female sexuality from a very young age. She held girls circles at 12 years old and created supportive materials for her teen female peers while going through puberty together. Her main passions are empowering womben in their sexuality through a better understanding of their bodies and female sexual arousal, as well as helping womben to communicate their individual needs to their partners. Kristin and I discuss how the different phases of the menstrual cycle can affect sex drive and how men can better understand their partner’s cycles so as to connect more intimately together.

On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast I welcome back a really lovely colleague and friend of mine. Her name is Sarah Martin. You might recall her from episode number 135, where we talked about her research regarding pick up artists. In this episode, we do something a little bit different and discuss a project we've been collaborating on, known as a sexual attitude reassessment (SAR). We talk about the three major assumptions that we see practitioners often make, whether they be sex coaches or therapists or men's work facilitators. So if you're interested in having some beliefs or stereotypes or values about men challenge, this is the episode for you.

Key Points:

- Sarah reintroduces herself

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Quicky 31 is an excerpt from Season 3, Episode 3: #33 Performing Masculinity: What Does A Man Look Like? (with Nic Warner)

On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I talk with Nic Warner. Nic is a men’s work, plant medicine and breathwork facilitator, and a sacred intimacy mentor. Using the tools that helped him rise out of the ashes, Nic coaches both individuals and couples. Supporting them on their healing journey, to integrate and deepen their relationship with themselves, and each other. Nic and I talk about his experience giving away his power, spiraling into substance abuse, and overcoming his troubles, ultimately transforming his life. We also discuss what it means to look like a man and the fear that many men have about not looking masculine enough.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Dr. Brendan Kwiatkowski. Brendan is a researcher and educator focused on the social-emotional wellbeing of adolescents and understanding the role that gender plays in that equation—particularly masculinity. His PhD research from the University of Edinburgh investigated teenage boys’ experiences and beliefs about being male and compared their experiences based on their levels of emotional expression. He is a mixed-methods researcher and believes very strongly in positive-focused and person-centred research that humanizes and empowers participants, as well in research that is transformative and practically useful for people in the real-world. He is from and lives in Vancouver, BC, has three kids and prior to his PhD was a high school teacher.

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Brendan’s website: https://remasculine.com/ 

Brendan’s Instagram: @re.msculine 

Brendan’s TikTok: remasculine

Quicky 30 is from Season 3, Episode 2: #32 Sex Hacking: Confidence and Calibration (with Kenneth Play)

Kenneth Play is an international sex expert and sex educator. From a deeply insecure Asian immigrant to over ⁠8 million views on PornHub⁠ and being named ⁠the World’s Greatest Sex Hacker by GQ⁠, Kenneth develops sex techniques to help couples learn new ways to connect and overcome challenges in the bedroom. His newest course features over 70+ videos and 12 hours of content, and was described by AskMen as having ⁠"at least one nugget of sexual learning you’ve almost certainly never encountered before, if not several."⁠ His teaching has been described as a mashup of Bruce Lee’s mixed martial arts approach and Tim Ferriss’s 80/20 rule. He worked with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova to conduct the ⁠world's largest survey on squirting⁠; with Pamela Madsen at the Back to the Body Sensual Retreats for Women; and has been a featured presenter at New York University and San Jose State University. He has devoted his life to empowering couples to close the orgasm gap and experience the best sex of their lives.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Ahmad Jooma. Ahmad is the creator of SHOOK MAN®, a character who represents our fears, anxieties and is an engaging way for young men to talk about their mental health. Ahmad understands men who feel powerless in life - He used to be that guy! For 10+ years Ahmad studied the best courses on human nature. He has coached 100+ people around the world and produced podcasts, events and courses.

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Ahmad’s Instagram: @ahmad.jooma

Ahmad’s website: https://www.shookman.com/