Men, Sex, and Pleasure with Cam Fraser

Quicky #39 is an excerpt from Season 3, Episode 11: #41 The Mother Archetype: Holding Space for Men (with Karis Topkin)

Today on the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Karis Topkin. Karis is a mother, a lover, and a healer, helping people to reclaim their pleasure and heal their traumas, allowing them to follow their own heart-led path and create a life that feels deliciously good, connected, and rooted in pleasure and wholeness. Karis and I talk about her work with men in South Africa and the hands-off sexual healing modalities that she uses in her conservative community. We also discuss strategies for holding space for men, allowing them to open up and release emotions by embodying the Mother Archetype. We close with a brief discussion about sexual energy and pleasure across the lifespan.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Andrew Daniel. Andrew is an award-winning and international bestselling author and director at the Center for Cinesomatic Development. His Cinesomatics® workshops are held internationally from New York to London, Tuscany to Switzerland—helping professionals see the elusive patterns that hold them back. This methodology leads the world in cinematic movement diagnostics and advanced intuition development integrating approaches from embodiment, shadow work, therapy, and spirituality. His book, Awaken to Your True Self, is a gold Nautilus Book Awards recipient and #1 Amazon bestseller in the US & UK. In his early career, Andrew coded a particle and physics engine by the age of 18⁠, used by top Fortune 100 companies over the 7 years of his software business. His first teaching work, Holistic Sex (Mindvalley, 2014), provided the world with a new paradigm that bridged the divide between sexuality, spirituality, and the sexes. Andrew is also an advisor for the Alan Watts Organization.

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Andrew’s website: https://andrewdaniel.org/

Andrew’s Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@andrewdaniel 

Quicky 38 is an excerpt from Season 3, Episode 10: #40 Squirting, Pegging and Sexual Pressure (with Lola Jean)

On episode 40 of the #mensexpleasure podcast I chat with Lola Jean. Lola is a Sex Educator, Mental Health Professional, Wrestler, Domme and World Record Holder for Volume Squirting (solo.) providing the No Frills Sex Education we both need and deserve. Lola brings a refreshing understanding to sex, sexuality and kink to push individuals past what they think they are capable of. Lola offers a variety of classes and talks to help people have better sex with themselves and each other like Pegging, Squirting, and Libido Awakening. A variety of paid and free options of classes and talks, plus a podcast with The Reluctant Sexpert: ‘⁠Is Our Love ___?⁠’, there are a variety of options to indulge. Lola and I talked about squirting, pegging, rimming, and broadening your definition of sex. We also spoke about the pressure both men and women feel to perform sex a certain way.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Anisa Varasteh. Anisa is a Clinical Sexologist, the Director of Relate Sexology, and the President of the Society of Australian Sexologists (SA/NT branch). Anisa provides therapy to individuals and partners as well as consultancy and training on mental health and sexuality related topics to clinicians and organizations. She is passionate about her work as a sexologist as she has the privilege to be part of people's journey to discover and re-discover what is fulfilling, meaningful, and pleasurable for them. She has worked with couples, individuals and people in multi-partnered relationships to support them with their relationships, sense of identity, sex life, and explore how they can connect with their authentic self. When she is not at work she is probably writing, hiking, watching lengthy art-house films or discovering new and exciting places around the world.

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Instagram: @relatesexology

Podcast: Sexplicit

Website: www.relatesexology.com

Course: https://www.relatesexology.com/healing-through-kink

Quikcy #37 is an excerpt from Season 3 Episode 9: #39 Debunking Myths About Men and Sex (with Sarah Hunter Murray, Ph.D.)

On today’s episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I have a great discussion with Sarah Hunter Murray about the most common myths surrounding masculinity, sexuality and men. Sarah holds a Ph.D. in Human Sexuality from the University of Guelph and is a Registered Marriage & Family Therapist in private practice in Winnipeg, Manitoba. She is the author of the book "Not Always in the Mood: The new science of men, sex, & relationships." I loved Sarah’s book and the research she presents in it. We talk about that research as well as her observations about men in relationships. We also explore some practical advice for men and their partners to help overcome the myths and stereotypes that may be hindering them in their relationships.

Tim Hammond is a grassroots human rights activist who has been involved in numerous social change movements. As a teenager conscientiously opposed to fighting in Vietnam, he wrote copious letters to Congress urging an immediate end to the war. Tim has been committed to Congressional passage of the U.S. Peace Tax Fund Bill, which would re-direct the military portion of one's taxes (currently 50% of every dollar spent by the U.S. government) toward life-sustaining human services. He was active in raising public consciousness about women's rights and the need for the Equal Rights Amendment (ERA). In 1987 Tim was among hundreds of men and women arrested on the steps of the U.S. Supreme Court to protest its decision to uphold states' rights to legislate private sexual behavior among consenting adults in their own home (a decision the Court ultimately reversed in 2003). He was a member of the Children's Rights Network of Amnesty International/USA and a member of the National Organization on Male Sexual Victimization (now MaleSurvivor.org). 

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Tim’s survey of foreskin restorers: https://www.nature.com/articles/s41443-023-00686-5

Quicky #36 is an excerpt from Season 3, Episode 8: #38 Parenthood and Modelling Healthy Sexuality (with Tamica Wilder)

On today’s episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Tamica Wilder, a somatic sex coach and muti qualified complimentary therapist with over a decade of group work, facilitation and coaching experience. Tamica leads with passion, embodied wisdom and playful curiosity in all that she does. She believes that our social and cultural narraitives aound sex and embodiment need a damn good shake it! - Never one to shy away from a challenge, she's committed to leading the charge. Tamica is a hand holder, a permission giver and a safe place to land for those serious about re-awakening their sexual spark and living a life lead by pleasure. We talk about Tamica’s work with men as well as the importance of creating safety for men to open up about their sexual concerns. We also discuss parenthood and modelling healthy sexuality for children.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Ruby Ryder of PeggingParadise.com and TheArtofPegging.com. Ruby is a podcaster, blogger, sex worker, sex educator and a published writer of erotic fiction. She has been educating people about pegging for the last 13 years. She moderated panels at CatalystCon East and West, and presented at DomCon LA. Ruby’s erotica is in Violet Blue’s ‘Best Women’s Erotica 2014.’ She also appeared in an episode of Comedy Central’s ‘Not Safe with Nikki Glaser’. Ruby’s mission is to help interested people add one more thing to their sexual treasure chest of choices by teaching them all about pegging, and to do everything she can to encourage more sex-positivity with less sexual shame. She resides in Southern California near the beach, and loves watching the surfers change out of their wetsuits.

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Ruby’s websites: https://peggingparadise.com/ and https://www.theartofpegging.com/

Ruby’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@peggingparadise

Quicky #35 is an excerpt from Season 3, Episode 7: #37 The Stigma of Bisexuality & Polyamory (with Zachary Zane)

On today’s episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast I chat with Zachary Zane, a Brooklyn-based columnist, speaker, activist, and sex expert whose work focuses on sexuality, lifestyle, and culture. He has a weekly sex advice column at Men’s Health titled “Sexplain It,” where he answers a diverse range of questions pertaining to masculinity, ethical non-monogamy, sexual insecurities, and the LGBTQ community. He answers questions with actionable advice. As a leading bisexual activist, Zachary has spoken across the country at universities and panels alike, discussing issues pertaining to the bisexual community, sex-positivity, and ethical non-monogamy. He previously had a biweekly column at Bisexual.org that ran for 18 months and also attended the "Bisexual White House Briefing" at the White House (under Obama). Zachary and I talk about the stigma bisexual men face and why mental health issues are greater among bisexual people. We also discussed the stigma surrounding nontraditional relationships, such as open relating and polyamory.