Men, Sex, and Pleasure with Cam Fraser

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Jasper Brown. Jasper is a men’s coach whose work has guided hundreds of men to embody a conscious approach towards masculinity. For almost a decade, he has dedicated himself to facilitating the evolution of men through embodied masculinity, finding a higher purpose, and healing their relationships.

Key Points:

- Jasper introduces himself

- Jasper’s journey overcoming premature ejaculation

- Jasper’s most important insights

- Practices for overcoming premature ejaculation

- The power of a supportive partner

- Advice for couples

Relevant links:

Jasper’s Instagram: @awakened_eros

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Dr. Holly Richmond. Dr. Richmond is a Somatic Psychotherapist, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT), Certified Sex Therapist (CST) and Certified Sex Therapy Supervisor. She sits on the Clinical Board of Directors for Dame Products, and is the Associate Director of Modern Sex Therapy Institutes. This unique combination of credentials enables her to focus on clients’ cognitive processes as well as mind-body health. Her book Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex-Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life is an innovative look at both somatic and psychological factors in survivors’ erotic recovery.

Key points:

- Dr. Richmond introduces herself

- Sexual health and pleasure

- Trauma and gender differences

- Practices for reclaiming pleasure

- Supporting a partner after trauma

- Advice for couples

Relevant links:

Dr. Richmond’s website: www.drhollyrichmond.com

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Maxi Xie. Maxi is a relationship counsellor and sex therapist. They’re here to infuse you and your partner’s journey with deeper love, heightened passion, and profound understanding. Maxi is bilingual and fluent in both Mandarin and English. They’re proudly kink and fetish-friendly, as well as poly-friendly, and aim to create a judgment-free space for you and/or your partner to explore desires, pleasure and much more. Maxi is also a strong advocate for the multicultural LGBTQIA+ community. Maxi’s genuine passion lies in guiding and uplifting those in multicultural relationships, helping them navigate the beautiful tapestry of love.

Key points:

- Maxi introduces himself

- Asian cultural considerations

- Asian men and masculinity

- Anatomy and aggression

- Restrictive gender norms

- Cultural competency

Relevant links:

Maxi’s profile: https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/counselling/maxi-xie-collingwood-vic/923851

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Shana James. For 15 years Shana has coached more than a thousand leaders, CEOs, authors, speakers and people with big visions who step into more powerful leadership, start and grow businesses, create more effective teams, increase their impact, get promoted, find love, rekindle spark, create a legacy, and become more personally inspired and fulfilled. Referred to as a secret weapon, Shana cuts through distraction and provides direct access to your confidence, power and clarity. She is also a translator between women and men, providing effective tools to transform conversations and dynamics that have gone awry into connection and collaboration.

Key points:

- Shana introduces herself

- Creating safety for men

- Conversations about sex

- The importance of curiosity

- Prioritising pleasure

- Practical advice for couples

Relevant links:

Shana’s website: https://shanajamescoaching.com/

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Tyson Adams. Tyson is a trauma-informed IFS men’s coach, somatic bodyworker, and psychedelic facilitator. After spending 20 years addicted to pornography, he outgrew it seven years ago and has found his passion and purpose in helping other men master their lifeforce energy. He also co-facilitates men’s work leadership intensives and works with couples experiencing intimacy challenges. When he’s not working, you’ll catch him on a rock wall or riding a slackline in sunny San Diego.

Key points:

- Tyson introduces himself

- The relationship between porn and shame

- Being introduced to spiritual sexual practices

- What Tyson sees as the problem of VR porn

- Masturbation behaviours and porn escalation

- Semen retention and conscious ejaculation

- The importance of self-pleasure

Relevant links:

Tyson’s Instagram: @tysonadams__

Tyson’s website: https://linktr.ee/tysonadams

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Eve Milford, The Sober Sex & Relationship Coach. Eve is also a certified Somatic Attachment Therapist, Women's Pelvic Health Specialist, and Reiki Master. In 2015, her journey of recovery from addiction paved the way for her incredible transformation. Eve's path to sobriety unveiled a profound link between her own trauma and her experiences in sex, love, and relationships. This revelation ignited her passion to guide others through these intricate aspects of human connection. With her extensive expertise and trauma-informed coaching, Eve specialises in working 1:1 with individuals impacted by toxic relationships and offers 1:1 and group coaching for those in sobriety facing challenges with sexuality and intimacy. She is also the host of the "Relationships in Recovery" podcast.

Key Points:

- Eve introduces herself

- Eve's journey from addiction to self-worth

- Alcohol's impact on intimacy and well-being

- Challenges and insights from sobriety transition

- Addiction, substance use, and harm minimization

- Reconnecting with sensuality, safety in sobriety

- Consent complexities in intoxication, altered states

- Importance of bodily connection for consent

Relevant links:

Instagram: @e.v.erhealing

Website: https://www.everhealing.com.au/

Podcast: Relationships in Recovery

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Esther and William Diplock. Esther and William are senior trainers and facilitators for Gender Equity and Reconciliation International (GERI), as well as program coordinators for the GERI work in Australia. They are two of the co-authors of the book ‘Gender Equity and Reconciliation: Thirty Years of Healing the Most Ancient Wound in the Human Family’. Alongside this, Esther and William are Individual & Couple Therapists, Educators and Supervisors, in their company ResonanceTogether. And have been practicing therapists for over 50 years combined.

Key points:

- Esther and William introduce themselves

- What does equity and reconciliation mean?

- The importance of multi-gender spaces

- Mitigating conflict and competition

- Religion and patriarchy

- Advice for moving forward

Relevant links:

GERI website: https://www.genderreconciliationinternational.org/

Esther and William’s website: https://www.resonancetogether.com.au/

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Ella Hall. Ella is an intuitive coach and leader in her field who supports high-performance professionals and entrepreneurial men and women quantum leap their current results in life, love and business by stepping into Masculine and Feminine Alignment (the integration of their heart, mind and sexual energy) – so they can take back their authentic power, break through the glass ceiling, live a life of meaning, leave a legacy and dramatically increase their impact and their revenue.

Key points:

- Ella Introduces herself

- Archetypal male clients

- Embodying sexual energy

- Leaky vs Creepy vs Needy

- Having integrity with sexual energy

- Communicating and expressing

Relevant links:

Ella’s Instagram: @Ellahallcoach

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Toya Ricci, BSocSc(Psych), PgDipCEAT, MSexol. Toya is a sex therapist and sexuality educator who passionately believes in embracing, nurturing, and creatively expressing sexuality as a fundamental component of overall health and wellbeing. Drawing on a solid background in counselling, psychology, and creative & experiential arts therapy, Toya brings a diverse range of experience and skills to her practice. She adopts an inclusive and eclectic approach, incorporating therapeutic frameworks such as existentialism, cognitive-behavioural therapy, compassion-focused therapy, and solution-focused therapy. This allows her to provide compassionate support to individuals and couples as they navigate the challenges of modern sexuality, sexual performance, intimacy, connection, dating, relationships, and sexual expression throughout their lives.

Key points:

- Toya introduces herself

- Perceptions about pleasure

- Pleasure practices throughout history

- The importance of historical context

- What does it mean to decolonise pleasure?

- Learning and unlearning

Relevant links:

Toya’s Instagram: @toya.ricci

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with anti-racism educator and American historian Kokayi Nosakhere. Since relocating to Southern Oregon in 2018, lifelong activist, Kokayi, has chosen to go on his healing journey, addressing the “on-going trauma of being Black in America.” A paradigm-shift on the American landscape is happening. It is happening while you and I are alive. You and I can choose to participate in helping the American populace walk towards greater humanity by committing yourself to modelling what a healed person looks like. This is the work at hand.

Key Points:

- Kokayi introduces himself

- The origin of Woke

- Racial and existential stress

- What is Critical Race Theory?

- 'Elite Capture': re-codifing language

- Anti-capitalism and decolonialism

- Advice for beginning your anti-racism journey

Relevant links:

Kokayi's email: [email protected]