Men, Sex, and Pleasure with Cam Fraser

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Lachie Samuel. Lachie is the Managing Director of the FIFO Mental Health Group, co-founder of The Association for Mental Health in Mining Australia, and host of the Open Up podcast. On this episode, Lachie opens up about being sexually abused as a child by another boy and how this impacted both his masculinity and sexuality as an adult. We also discuss the feelings of shame and fear associated with this as well as men’s body image issues and negative self-perception.

Key points:

- Lachie introduces himself

- The importance of sexual exploration

- The impact of childhood sexual abuse

- Lachie's struggle with shame and self-perception

- Addressing fears around cock size

- Vulnerability, strength, and disclosure

- Lachie emphasizes the challenges of FIFO work

Relevant links:

Lachie’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lachiesamuel/

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Sarah Jeavons. Sarah is a Dating Coach for Men. She is dedicated to helping men build confidence & land their dream relationships. The two of us talk about her history with Real Social Dynamics and why she decided to pursue a career as a dating coach. We discuss the general state of the industry and how Sarah’s approach to dating coaching is unique, as it involves mock dates and opportunities to practice your flirting skills in real time. She also shares her thoughts on handling rejection and how to navigate sexual tension.

Key Points:

-      Sarah introduces herself

-      Why Sarah left Real Social Dynamics

-      Pick up artists vs dating coaches

-      Mock dates and flirting

-      How to handle rejection

-      Navigating sexual tension

Relevant links:

Sarah’s Instagram: @datingwithsarahofficial

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Celeste Moore. Celeste is an Image Consultant and a Dating Coach who helps midlife men who have been married to their careers or recently divorced and forgot how to date by providing discreet dating and image consulting to improve their appearance, relationships, and confidence. She helps them learn to navigate this crazy modern dating world we live in. She's also the host of The Down and Dirty Podcast, the show gets down and dirty every week as she talks about dating, love, sex, and pop culture. 

Key Points:

Celeste introduces herself

Confidence through appearance

Colour psychology and trustworthiness attire

Importance of grooming, dressing, and personal style

Evolving dating trends

Mock dates and first date manners

First date recommendations, meeting places, online dating

Relevant Links:

Celeste’s Instagram: @celestemooreimage

Celeste’s website: https://celestemoore.com/

On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Ruwan Meepagala. Ruwan hosts the Ruwando Podcast: Psychology For Men with Brains and Balls, and History of Man: How Men Came to Be. He lives in Mexico with his wife and child. We speak about a whole range of things, from his experience with OneTaste to becoming a father to relationship dynamics to evolution and masculinity. Ruwan and I have different viewpoints about some of these topics but we found some middle ground.

Key points:

- Ruwan introduces himself

- Navigating fatherhood

- Structure vs Creativity

- Monogamy and novelty

- Ruwan’s experience with OneTaste

- Relationship dynamics

- Reproduction vs Pleasure

- Evolution, culture, and masculinity

Relevant links:

Ruwan’s Instagram: @ruwando

Ruwan’s website: https://www.ruwando.com/

This Quicky is a throwback to episode 44 with sextech entrepreneur Jeff Bennett. You can listen to the full episode here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0VqkWJeGJXEjxOVPF7wfZl?si=5RDp4yYaTrGuwqVkWSfYfA

On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Dr. Caroline Heldman. Dr. Heldman is a professor of Critical Theory & Social Justice at Occidental College in Los Angeles. She is also Executive Director of The Representation Project and a political commentator for Spectrum and CNN International. Dr. Heldman has published six books on gender justice and politics, and her work has been featured in numerous documentaries, including Miss Representation and The Mask You Live In. She co-founded the New Orleans Women’s Shelter, the Lower Ninth Ward Living Museum, End Rape on Campus (EROC), Faculty Against Rape (FAR), and led the End Rape Statute of Limitations (ERSOL) that successfully abolished the time limit on prosecuting rape in California. She is the Board President of the TEP Center, the first Civil Rights museum in New Orleans, and the Chair of the Board of Alturas Institute, a non-profit fighting for stronger democracy.

Key points:

- Dr. Heldman introduces herself

- Levels of social justice advocacy

- The impact of pornography on sex

- Why we need to educate about porn

- Sexual objectification

- Selling body dissatisfaction to men

- Body image issues and fatphobia

Relevant links

Caroline’s Instagram: @carolineheldman

Caroline’s website: https://drcarolineheldman.com/

This quicky is a throwback to episode 43 with Kristopher Lovestone. Listen to that episode here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3UIOto5GmrCxlhYJA6thbD?si=otEL3dgZQHy698pTFFX0RQ&nd=1

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Luna Matatas. Luna is a Sex and Pleasure Educator with over 15 years of experience teaching sex and empowerment workshops. She celebrates body confidence, self-adoration and building shame-free pleasure in and out of the bedroom. She teaches 30+ sexy skills topics; including threesomes, BDSM and sexual confidence. She created Peg the Patriarchy® and Meditate Medicate Masturbate® brands as part of her sex-positive and feminist merchandise.

Key points:

- Luna introduces herself

- “Peg the Patriarchy”

- Men’s desire to dominate

- What do we mean by dominance?

- How to explore power play

- Tips for concerned men

- Tips for interested couples

Relevant links:

Luna’s website: https://lunamatatas.com/

Luna’s Instagram: @lunamatatas

This is a throwback to episode 42 with Jeff Abraham from Promescent. Listen to the full episode here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0RQobYuSFabSEtMsgwA3b5?si=UD2jRjWISP2aV4hltf6J3g

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Dr. Lauren Fogel

Key points:

- Lauren introduces herself and her book about desire and libido in relationships

- The importance of inclusivity when discussing libido differences

- Why couples seek help for varying levels of desire

- Libido discrepancies over time

- Emotional challenges and feelings of disconnection

- Misalignment and societal expectations

Relevant links:

Lauren’s Instagram: @drlaurenfogelmersy

Lauren’s website: https://drlaurenfogel.com/