Men, Sex, and Pleasure with Cam Fraser

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Dabaco Sunset (he/him). Dabaco is an embodiment counsellor helping you connect deeper with your body, sexuality and sensuality.

He combines somatic psychology, pillars of awareness and yogic principles in his practice. Dabaco also draws on meditation techniques, intuitive movement and creative mediums to empower participants to explore untapped areas of themselves. Dabaco is the co-founder of personal development project (and app) Time To Decompress, he holds a Diploma of Counselling and is currently undertaking post-grad studies in Gestalt Therapy. He also facilitates workshops and retreats for NAKEDMAN and is a trained Yin Yoga teacher. Alchemizing the world of creativity and somatic therapy, Dabaco is facilitating himself and countless queer and curious folk into a new paradigm of embodied artistic liberation. The two us talk about queerness and the sexual spectrum, particular how men who are sexually fluid experience challenges like performance anxiety. We also discuss sexual identity, the queering of heterosexuality, the necessity of labels, and the importance of celebrating the sexual pioneers and provocateurs who came before us.

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Dabaco’s Instagram: @dabacosunset

Dabaco’s Website: http://dabacosunset.com/

Cam’s Patreon: http://patreon.com/thecamfraser

Quicky #4 is from Season 1, Episode 5: The Healing Power of Naked Men's Yoga (with Will Blunderfield)

On this episode of the Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast, I chat with Will Blunderfield. He has been teaching yoga throughout Canada, the US and Asia for the last 11 years. He has a degree in Musical Theater from the American Musical & Dramatic Academy of New York (AMDA) as well as a degree in psychology from UBC with a minor in Food, Nutrition & Health. He recently completed a year long kundalini yoga teacher training program in Vancouver and India, Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction Facilitator training (program from University of Massachusetts Medical School), and was grateful to study in 2020 with Sexual Kung Fu Taoist Grandmaster himself, Mantak Chia. He performs original Kirtan/Sacred Song in his classes, retreats and workshops and his music is released through Nettwerk Records/Sony. His original music has reached number one on the iTunes world music charts multiple times. This was a great chat about how using sound, yoga, and nudity can heal men's sexual insecurities.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with M’kali-Hashiki. M’kali-Hashiki is a Somatic Sacred Storyteller & Erotic Ritualist. She holds certifications in Sexological Bodywork; Sound, Voice, & Music Healing; and Tantric Sacred Intimacy. As a Somatic Sacred Storyteller, she helps you uncover the stories your body is holding onto, jettisoning the ones poisoning you, and helping you to reframe & retell the ones left. As an Erotic Ritualist she designs journeys for you to commune with The Divine using your physical pleasure as the conduit of communication. Her Divine Purpose is helping folx heal their erotic wounds so they can have the joyous & juicy life that is their Divine Birthright and move further along in their path to individual & collective liberation. Her site FiercePassions is a Somatic Cyber Temple offering community journeys, rituals, individual coaching, instructional videos, private sessions for couples/triads, and guided visualizations to help us survive & thrive during these chaotic times. In her nomadic travels across North & Central America, she teaches at colleges & universities, conferences, and the occasional adult toy store or educational center. She offers sexuality training & employee wellness/team building skills to organizations & companies. She is also a skilled Sensitivity Reader hired to read manuscripts to make sure they avoid explicit & implicit systemic bias. Her lived experiences as a fat, Black, queer, femme, trauma-survivor inform every aspect of her work. The two of us talk about the sacredness of the anus and the healing and pleasure that can be explored by incorporating anal play, particular anal massage, into our life. We also discuss breathwork and how breathing can be a tool to expand our eroticism.

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M’kali-Hashiki’s website: www.FiercePassions.com

M’kali-Hashiki’s Instagram: @fierce_passions

Quicky #3 is from Season 1 Episode 4: Leadership In and Out of the Bedroom (with Tully O'Connor)

On this episode, I have a great chat with a very good friend of mine, Tully O'Connor. Tully works as a transformational coach and facilitator. Working primarily with men, Tully has a passion for helping people expand their personal leadership and develop connected, fulfilling relationships. Known for his down-to-earth approach, Tully speaks about complex intimate issues with ease, clarity and humour. His unique ability to hold a deeply present and safe space allows him to facilitate powerful and meaningful transformation in both a 1-1 and group setting. The thing he’s most proud of is his relationship with his wife Kaitlin and being a father to their son. We spoke about leadership, relationships, vulnerability and how what leadership means in a sexual context.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Alice Child (she/her). Alice is a certified Somatic Sexologist, Sex Educator and Coach, and founder of Vulva Dialogues. She works with individuals, couples, and groups of all gender identities, helping them achieve happier, healthier and more fulfilled sex lives - whatever that means for them. The two of us speak about creativity and playfulness are they relate to sexual exploration. We offer a lot of different games to try by yourself and with a partner. If you’re looking for inspiration to play with your partner, this is the episode for you.

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Alice’s Instagram: @vulvadialogues

Alice’s website: https://www.vulvadialogues.com/

Quicky #2 comes from Season 1, Episode 3: Gender Expression, Masculinity & Sex Education (with Kai Schweizer)

On this episode, I chat with Kai Schweizer, a sexologist, sexual health educator, and Masters student. He has a specialist interest in trans and gender diverse sexual health, including dyspareunia, contraception, and HIV prevention. Kai is best known for his sexual health education work with queer young people. This is an eye opening conversation as Kai share's some of his personal story, including his gender transition, as well as some valuable insights into models of masculinity.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat again with Devin Fredericksen. Devin joined me first on episode #11 of the podcast and I have the pleasure of welcoming him back. Devin helps people reconnect to themselves, each other, and Mother Earth in a heart centered path. He supports the Regeneration of the Masculine, with the intention to reunite the global brotherhood. He specializes in sacred sexuality, conscious intimacy, permaculture, and is an ecstatic chef and regenerative farmer. The two of us talk about regeneration, from the very literal sense to the more esoteric and energetic sense. We also discuss the practice of consuming ejaculation and finding sexual pleasure in nature, including the phallic symbolism of mushrooms and the sensuality of forests.

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Devin’s Instagram: @devinfredericksen

Devin’s website: https://www.devinfredericksen.com/

Cam’s Patreon: https://patreon.com/thecamfraser

Quicky #1 comes from Season 1, Episode 1: From Caveman to Multi-Orgasmic Man (with Nicolas Spadaccini)

On this episode, I chat with engineer, author, film maker and life-long student of all things Tantra, Nicolas Spadaccini. This clip is taken from Season 1, Episode 1. He dropped a lot of practical knowledge about male bodies and multiple orgasms. Nic has a refreshingly open way of talking about the not so talked about parts of our sexual bodies. In 2016, he started writing the soon to be released book entitled, "Penises & Vaginas - A Users Manual." It's a hand guide to the basics about our sexual bodies that are often overlooked in our modern world. I really resonate with Nic's approach to sexuality work and always gain valuable insights whenever I chat with him. 

Link to full episode: https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/pUZlo0fh9ub 

On this extra long episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with my good friend Tully O’Connor. Tully is a committed father and husband who has a deep passion for supporting people to access their full creative potential in life, love and leadership. Through his transformational coaching programs and events, Tully supports men to cultivate more confidence, depth and fulfillment in every area of their lives. He also works with couples to support them in developing rock solid foundations for a secure, connected and intimate relationship. The two of us talk about being fathers and how our lives have changed since the birth of our sons. We talk about the ways in which we’ve had to navigate intimacy with our wives and the importance of intentionally connecting with them as well as with the men in our lives.

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Tully’s Instagram: @tullyoconnor

Tully’s Website: https://www.tullyoconnor.com/

Cam’s Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thecamfraser

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Justine Ang Fonte (she/they). Justine Ang Fonte, M.Ed, MPH is the child of Philippine immigrants and award-wining intersectional sex & health educator, consultant, and professor based in New York City. On Instagram, she's known as "Your Friendly Ghostwriter" composing the texts you avoid sending about setting your boundaries. The two of us talk about their social media page _good.byes_ and their work as a ghostwriter for boundaries. We discuss the importance of setting and recognizing boundaries and the reasons why so many of us aren’t very good at this.

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Justine’s website: https://www.justinefonte.com/

Justine’s Instagram: @imjustineaf

Justine’s Instagram: @_good.byes_

Cam’s Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thecamfraser