Men, Sex, and Pleasure with Cam Fraser

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Euphemia Russell. Euphemia, (they/them) is a full spectrum pleasure coach and bestselling author of Slow Pleasure. Euphemia is trained and certified in somatic coaching, international coaching federation, sex-positive education, sexual violence counselling, trauma-informed facilitation, and has a background in Community Cultural Development. Their work, which aims to support people to flourish and feel pleasure, despite our collective crisis of pace and disconnection, has been featured in Elle, Cosmopolitan, Vice, Harper’s Bazaar, and multiple national radios and newspapers. They are particularly dedicated to resourcing and cherishing people who are distanced from their pleasure and bodies – usually because of holding minority identities and being socialised to be people-pleasing and appeasing, defaulting to others, overgiving, and/or playing small to be safe and liked. Euphemia is of Scottish descent, born a settler on unceded Kulin Nation lands (AKA Melbourne, Australia), and a migrant to Tongva land (AKA Los Angeles, California). They hold the identities and experiences of being white, queer non-binary, able-bodied, born middle-class, and a trauma survivor. ‘Slow Pleasure’ is both the name of Euphemia’s best-selling book and their theory of change. Euphemia believes that by accessing the full spectrum of pleasure, drip by drip and microdose by microdose, readers and clients can feel their own aliveness and reestablish a nourishing connection to self, others, and the land. They see pleasure and somatics as a journey of creating moments to pause, listen and remember, rather than ‘fix’ or accumulate knowledge.

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Euphemia’s Instagram: www.instagram/com/euphemia.russell

Euphemia’s website: https://euphemiarussell.com/

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Leah Carey. Leah is a Sex and Intimacy coach and host of the podcast “Good Girls Talk About Sex.” She works with people eager to explore new avenues of their sexuality and fulfill their greatest desires, like: diving back into the dating pool after a long time away, having first-time queer experiences, investigating consensual non-monogamy, or learning how to communicate about kink. Her superpower is radical empathy. The two of us talk about the harmful messages we tell our kids and how we can undo the social conditioning that limits our ability to express ourselves and explore our sexuality.

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Leah’s website: www.leahcarey.com

Leah’s Instagram: @GoodGirlsTalk

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Kabelo Chabalala. Kabelo is the author of “A journey from boyhood to manhood.” He is the founder of and senior mentor at the Young Men Movement (YMM), an organisation that focuses on the reconstruction of the socialisation of boys to create a new cohort of men in our society across the globe. He is a columnist for the Sowetan, and his column appears twice a month in the paper on Fridays. He was the Community Builder Awardee of the year in 2019 for the Marcia Lebambo Foundation. He was 1 of 200 Obama Leaders: Africa 2018 and a Finland Correspondent Participant 2018. Kabelo is a former PR Specialist for Lingashoni and Mzansi Magic, and a former Columnist for the The Citizen newspaper. Kabelo describes himself as a feminist at heart and as an advocate for equality as well as for the well-being of the boy-child. He is also a preacher, having obtained a Theology certificate from the Johannesburg Bible College. The toy us talk about his work as a mentor with teenage boys and how he is helping them to shift their perspectives about masculinity. We discuss how absent fathers impact these boys and how Kabelo helps them take responsibility for their sexuality.

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Kabelo’s Instagram: @kb_the_village_boy

Kabelo’s website: https://villageboyvoice.wordpress.com/

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Carla Crivaro. Carla is a trauma-informed and certified Sex, Love & Relationship Coach. She works with men who experience sexual dysfunction and a lack of sexual desire after being present for the birth of their child. She also works with men who miss intimacy with their partner and feel disconnected from them since becoming a father. The two of us talk about what Carla has dubbed ‘The Forgotten Father’ phenomenon. We discuss the ways in which men struggle with fatherhood and how their childhood wounding can impact their relationships.

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Carla’s website: https://www.carlacrivaro.com/

Carla’s Instagram: @the.sexuality.sanctuary

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Rachel Overvoll. Rachel is a Somatic Sex and Intimacy Coach and author, living in Colorado. She works with clients to move beyond shame, step into safety in their bodies, and to live a life embodied in pleasure. Using her credentials from the Somatica Institute and Kinsey Institute, she works through the mediums of embodiment and self attunement to help clients step outside of shame and into the power of their authentic selves. The two of us talk about Rachel’s experience leaving a religious cult and how she overcame her sexual shame. We also discuss her work, particularly as a practitioner of the Somatica method, and how we can be more in our body when experiencing sexuality and pleasure.

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Rachel’s website: www.rachelovervoll.com

Rachel’s Instagram: @rachelovervoll

Evelyn Sparks (she/her) is a certified sex coach who works to help people heal their sexual trauma and step into their most liberated sexual and emotional expression. She emphasizes bringing aspects of sacred sexuality teachings into the mainstream and curating an inclusive and approachable environment. The two of us talk about how trauma can create numbness in the body as well as how to work through this by reconnecting to the physical sensations of emotion. Evelyn shares about some of the ways we tend to avoid feeling emotions and we discuss how men can healthily tap into and express anger. We end with a conversation about kink and how BDSM containers can help with both emotional expression and regulation.

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Evelyn’s Instagram: @theevelynsparks

Evelyn’s website: www.evelynsparks.com

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Emily Gough. Emily is a human connection coach, writer, speaker and host/founder of the respected top 200 Room to Grow™ Podcast. Fuelled by insatiable curiosity for the nuance and complexities of relationships and the human experience, she takes a holistic mind/body approach using the psychology and physiology of emotions to give you the guidance, real-life tools and perspective you need to take ownership of your life, revolutionize your relationship to yourself, and create thriving connections with others.

An old soul, Emily’s style of both teaching and coaching combines powerful insights and wisdom with a playful attitude and sense of humour. With features in well-known publications like Forbes and interviews on dozens of podcasts, Emily is sought after for her compassionate, direct and genuine approach. The two of us talk about interpersonal communication and how a lack of compassion is hindering our capacity for connection with the people in our lives. Emily also shares ways in which we can cultivate courage within relationships so as to help our partner and ourselves feel safe enough to be vulnerable and authentically open up.

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Emily’s Instagram: @emilygoughcoach

Emily’s website: www.emilygoughcoaching.com

On this week’s episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Jessica Harvey. Jessica is a certified Sex, Love & Relationship Coach with Layla Martin’s VITA coaching. She is professionally-certified with the ICF at the PCC level, and is a student of Process-Oriented Psychology with David Bedrick. Her trauma-informed coaching is also inspired by her devotion to classical tantrik meditation and non-dual philosophy under Paul Muller-Ortega and Christopher Wallis. Jessica spent 10 years in a successful career as a Ph.D. chemist before leaving it all to go say ‘yes’ to what scared her. She spent 4 years in full-time study and practice of neo-tantric sexuality, shadow work, and kundalini in a tantric community in Asia. Now she likes to say that she studies a different kind of ‘chemistry,’ and people often call her the ‘tantric scientist.’ Since launching her Bliss Science coaching business, she has worked with hundreds of men - CEOs and leaders in tech, finance, and consulting - to rekindle passion in sexless marriages, recover confidence post-divorce, heal from performance anxiety, communicate in ways that women love, and develop a tantric mentality to life. Her offerings include: her proprietary Love, Sex, and Confidence course for Men, her new Sex Mastermind for Men, in-person VIP days, and custom-tailored 1:1 online coaching for all genders. The two of us talk about the ways in which men can open up more to their sexuality and take their sexual experiences to a deeper level. Hint: It requires getting in touch with your emotions.

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Jessica’s Instagram: @bliss.science

Jessica’s Website: https://www.bliss-science.com/

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, Samantha Zipporah returns to chat with. Samantha is a fertility, sex, & cycle educator, author, & activist with over 20 years of experience. She is devoted to breaking the spells of oppression in reproductive & sexual health through collective healing, liberation, & education. A former birth doula, she provides radical love for navigating the womb continuum & reclaiming ancestral wisdom. Sam’s unique praxis weaves a balance of scientific data & spiritual presence to offer knowledge & embodied wisdom for claiming inner authority, pleasure, & power in fertility, sex, & cycles. Sam provides vital education for everyone from professionals to preteens and inspires individuals to claim their power through body literacy & sovereignty. The two of us pick up where we left off from our previous conversation and talk about the parallels between ejaculation and ovulation, and how men can take responsibility for their ejaculation by learning about the energetics of ejaculation and practicing what I call conscious ejaculation.

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Samantha’s website: www.samanthazipporah.com

Samantha’s Facebook: facebook.com/samanthazipporah

Samantha’s Instagram: @samanthazipporah

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Freya Graf. Freya is a Yoni Mapping Therapist and Holistic Sex Coach & Educator. She has a background of study in Kahuna massage, yoni massage, facilitation, childcare, yoga teaching, tantric bodywork and sacred sexuality. Freya shares on her website that she was crippled by shame, guilt, and self-consciousness around her body, pleasure, and desire so she went on a journey to tackle this whole sex thing once and for all, which completely transformed her relationship to sex and her body. She says she is now deeply passionate about helping others do the same. The two of us talk specifically about her work as a Yoni Mapping therapist.

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Freya’s website: https://www.freyagraf.com/

Freya’s instagram: @freya_graf_ymt