Men, Sex, and Pleasure with Cam Fraser

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Silva Neves. Silva is a Psychotherapist specializing in Psychosexual & Relationship Psychotherapy, Sexual abuse, and Compulsive sexual behaviours. His model of psychotherapy is integrative and humanistic, which means that he uses different approaches from different therapeutic models to suit his client’s needs best. Silva integrates psychotherapeutic modalities, such as Gestalt, Psychodynamic, CBT, ACT, and Transactional Analysis with specific psycho-sexological knowledge and diverse relationships. The two of us talk about his new book, “Compulsive Sexual Behaviours: A Psycho-Sexual Treatment Guide for Clinicians.” We discuss the difference between the addiction and compulsion models of problematic sexual behaviour as well as the recommended approach for working with clients who struggle with watching porn.

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Silva’s Instagram: @silvanevespsychotherapy

Silva’s Website: ​​https://www.silvaneves.co.uk/

#115 Working with Men Who Use Domestic Violence (with Callan Craig)

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Callan Craig. Callan has a background in psychology and has been working in the industry specialising in healthy relationships, non violent communication and healthy masculinity. Currently working with men who use domestic and family violence facilitating programs to support them in their behavioural change process. The two of us talk about the factors contributing to situations where men use domestic violence as well as what the process of behavioural change looks like for them.

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Callan’s Instagram: @callanncraig

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with acupuncturist, herbalist, and author Christine DeLozier. Christine specializes in sexual health and works with men, women, and patients of all gender orientation. Her book, DIET FOR GREAT SEX: Food for Male and Female Sexual Health, dives deep into the true catalysts of what makes our bodies fire on all cylinders and the best steps to maintain them through diet for as long as possible. The book introduces readers to several modalities of success including how to eat for clearer heads with stronger focus and connection, how to increase pleasure through blood flow and connected nerve pathways, meals for optimal body performance, a menu for after dinner activities to help stimulate the right places, and more. Christine says that DIET FOR GREAT SEX is for everyone who wants to have the best sex possible, through the most natural means possible, for as long as possible. It also covers common topics of concern such as erectile dysfunction, low testosterone, and reduced libido, to name just a few. The two of us talk about Christine’s book and some of the information she presents in there.

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Christine’s Website: https://christinedelozier.com/

Christine’s Instagram: @dietforgreatsex

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Tyomi Morgan. Tyomi is a Certified Sexologist, Authentic Tantra Practitioner and International Pleasure Coach with 9 years of experience in the sexual health field. Her down-to-earth approach to sexuality has garnered the views of millions of eyes around the world via her advice-based Youtube channel and interactive social media presence. She is the founder of Sex Ed blog Glamerotica101.com and emphasizes sexual empowerment of black women worldwide. Tyomi's advice has been featured on several platforms and traditional media publications including Essence.com, EBONY Magazine, Blackdoctor.org, Huffington Post, Comedy Central, The New York Times, SHAPE.COM, Blacklove.com, Vogue.com, Cosmopolitan.com, Washington Post's The Lily, Clear Channel Radio, CBS Radio, Sirus XM, Playboy Radio and dozens of others. Tyomi currently serves as the Resident Sexpert and Seminar Coordinator for the Exxxotica Expo and is a member of the National Coalition for Sexual Health. The two of us talk about semen retention and how to practice this as a couple as well as the spiritual community’s shaming of ejaculation and sex toys.

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Tyomi’s Instagram: @realglamazontyomi

Tyomi’s website: http://sexperttyomi.glamerotica101.com/

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Steph Ganowski, a sex and relationship coach for men, living in NYC. Her mission is to help men improve their relationships with themselves and with their partners through tangible skillsets, mental reprogramming, and emotional awareness. Growing up, Steph was severely introverted and shy. Due to her low self-esteem, she allowed people into her life who “matched” the way she treated herself. This included the men she attracted romantically. Eventually, the prolonged mistreatment from men (and herself) was jolted by 5 incredibly caring, supportive, hilarious guys, she randomly befriended on Instagram, during a hard time. This was a huge wakeup call for Steph. It made her realize that not all men were “assholes” like she had thought. Her curiosity led her to want to understand her relationship with men more closely and understand men in general. Step one for Steph, was to start working with men, 1:1, gain their trust, reach their vulnerable side and find a way to help them. Through understanding men and helping them heal and see progress in their lives, Steph would also learn how to heal and bring people together. Her goal is to eventually get to the place where she can also help women who feel the same way about men, as she once did.

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Stephanie’s Instagram: @stephganowski

Stephanie’s website: https://www.stephanieganowski.com/

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Samuel Shin. Samuel is an ex-psychotherapist now working as an Authentic Dating Coach. He's also a certified men's work facilitator. Samuel offers an alternative to the pick-up industry by helping men open up to their authenticity, masculinity & sexuality to naturally improve their dating & relationships. His work includes 3 components: developing masculinity, working on the root cause of insecurities, and learning what he calls "conscious pick-up.” After recording this episode, Samuel wanted to add a disclaimer for listeners. Though he shares his criticisms of the Western mental health system in the interview and why he stopped practicing therapy, he wants listeners to know that he is still a huge advocate of therapy and recommends everybody try it for at least 6-months with a therapist they really like & feel a connection with (he emphasizes personally liking them and feeling a connection as a prerequisite to successful therapy). Therapy has been instrumental in his path of growth & healing, and he believes there is nothing like it. Getting guidance from someone who is educated & trained at the highest level in understanding the psychological underpinnings of maladaptive thoughts & behaviors is something a lot of life coaches won't be able to offer.  

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Samuel introduces himself 

Disillusionment with talk therapy 

Samuel’s sexual self-discovery 

Entering the dating scene 

Cultivating authenticity 

Dating advice for men   

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Samuel’s Instagram: @authenticdatingcoach 

Cam’s Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thecamfraser

On this episode of #mensexpleasure I chat with Lauren Violet. Lauren is Sex and Relationship Coach with a background in Psychology, Sex Education, as well as in the Adult Entertainment, Modeling, and Fitness industries. In addition to coaching and talk therapy, she also uses somatic practices and bodywork, emotional regulation, relational agreements, and self-pleasure facilitation with her clients. Lauren is passionate about solo sex, group sex, Tantra, BDSM, kink and all things taboo. She believes in the freedom of sexual expression and exploration of desires, and enjoys providing a space for others to explore their own freedom and expression. In this episode, Lauren and I dive deep into the practicalities of introducing a third person to your partner sex life as well as some important principles to be mindful of when experimenting with group sex.

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Lauren’s Instagram: @laurenvioletcoaching

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Claire Eccleston. Claire is a mother of three beautiful children, an experienced registered midwife, a Spinning Babies® approved trainer and a biodynamic craniosacral therapist. Claire has been supporting women’s transitions since 2000. Attending births, offering childbirth education, pregnancy yoga and providing bodywork sessions. Claire is a dynamic facilitator offering national, international and online workshops and speaking at conferences and events around the globe. Claire is passionate about the ancient and sacred arts of birth work, bodywork and where they meet. Claire has a deep reverence for our bodies, the rhythms of our physical nature and our earthy intelligence. She honours this womb work with deep reverence, respect and gentleness. The two of us talk about the impact of pregnancy and birth on the body. I reflect on my experience as a father and non-birthing partner.

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Claire’s Instagram: @clairehomebirth

Claire’s website: https://www.claireecclestonmidwife.com/

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Cyndi Darnell. Originally from Melbourne, Australia, Cyndi is now an honorary New Yorker. She is a certified clinical sexologist and trained therapist & couple's counselor offering holistic counseling, sex coaching, marriage counseling, life coaching, and integrative couple's retreats in New York, plus online video consulting around the USA and across the world. Cyndi serves individuals, traditional couples and people in open, polyamorous, kinky and consensual non monogamous relationships. She warmly invites LGBTIQA & straight identities. You will often see and hear Cyndi within international media. She was the principal sexuality consultant and primary therapist on Luke Warm Sex (ABC) and is a regular media commentator whose opinion is frequently sought for TV, radio and print including The Washington Post, New York Magazine, O-The Oprah Magazine, Refinery 29, Bustle, The Huffington Post, Netflix, ABC Radio, The Age, Sydney Morning Herald, Cosmopolitan and much more. In 2015 she was the only sexologist named in MindBodyGreen’s list of Top 100 Women to Watch. Cyndi is presently an affiliate on the advisory board of the University of Wisconsin - Stout Graduate Certificate in Sex Therapy Program and faculty on Pink Therapy's (UK) Foundation Certificate in Gender, Sexuality & Relationship Diversity Therapy. She has also received the honor to be recognized as a Clinical Associate of Pink Therapy UK.

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Cyndi’s website: https://cyndidarnell.com/

Cyndi’s Instagram: @cyndi_darnell

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Dr. Patti Britton. Dr. Patti has led 55 SAR programs over the past ten years in seven countries to over 1,500 people. She is the author of the only SAR training manual. Dr. Patti is a nationally board-certified Clinical Sexologist and world renown as the Pioneer of the profession of Sex Coaching. She’s the author of hundreds of articles, book chapters, forewords, and five major books in sexology; a popular speaker to consumers and a seasoned professional trainer for her peers. Dr. Patti has hosted over 40 DVD programs on sexual enhancement. Her media record speaks for itself—with appearances on over 200 television shows, as the featured guest on over 250 interviews for radio, podcasts and media, such as Cosmopolitan, Men’s Health, Women’s Health, celebrity podcasts and popular sexual health-related websites. Dr. Patti possesses a Ph.D. and Masters in Public Health, both in Human Sexuality. She is a Certified Sex Coach. Her stellar credentials include: Past President of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT); AASECT Sexuality Educator of the Year 2016; Clinical Fellow, American Academy of Clinical Sexologists; Diplomate, American Board of Sexology; AASECT Certified Sexuality Educator/Supervisor; Lifetime member and Advisory Council for the American College of Sexologists International; Member of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality; National Advisory Board Ambassador of the Woodhull Freedom Foundation; Elected member of the Advisory Committee for the World Association for Sexual Health. Dr. Patti has a private practice in the Los Angeles area and online via zoom worldwide. She is also the Co-Founder of Sex Coach U, the world’s premier training and credentialing organization for sex coaches.

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Dr. Patti’s website: https://drpattibritton.com/

Sex Coach U website: https://sexcoachu.com/