Mother Mayhem: For Daughters of Narcissistic or Emotionally Limited Mothers

This week on Mayhem, we dive deep into the journey of discovering, knowing, and owning your true self after childhoods marked by maternal neglect and abuse.

I’m exploring with you what it means to live authentically and how to reconnect with the parts of yourself you may have lost in the wake of emotional neglect or people-pleasing patterns. 

You'll learn how to break free from survival mode and start expressing your real personality, even when it's challenging. 

Plus, don’t miss the free PDF of journal prompts to help you explore your authentic self further. 

If you're ready for more support, join Tuesday Group where we dive into these topics as a community.

If you’re hurting, I’d really like to help. In this quick chat, I’m talking about the impact of childhood trauma and how we can navigate this journey together. You don’t have to go it alone, and I want to share some ways we can connect more deeply.

This week, we’re diving deep into the heavy, but important, topic of shame.

For many daughters of narcissistic or emotionally limited mothers, shame can feel like a constant companion, sneaking in when you least expect it and clouding your sense of self-worth. But shame doesn’t have to define you.

We’ll explore why shame shows up, how it differs from guilt, and the damaging effects of a shame spiral. More importantly, I’ll walk you through practical steps to interrupt the spiral.

We’ll challenge those negative thoughts, and begin the path toward self-compassion and healing. You’ll learn how to connect to the truth that your worth is not determined by your mistakes or what anyone else thinks of you.

Join the Conversation in Tuesday Group: If today’s episode resonates and you’re looking for a supportive space to explore these topics further, Tuesday Group is open for you. 

In this episode of Mother Mayhem, I dive into a topic that will hit home with a lot of you: dealing with mean girls in adulthood. Meet Thelma and Louise, who bring their own struggles with a mean girl to the table.

I’ll be talking about how the impact of narcissistic abuse can make encounters with bullies even more triggering and difficult to handle.

You’ll hear practical ways to navigate these relationships and how to reclaim your sense of self and empowerment with clear communication and firm boundaries. 

If today’s discussion hits home, remember that Tuesday Group is here to support you in processing these experiences and moving forward. We meet every Tuesday at noon PST, and you can find the link to join in the show notes. 

Join a supportive community where you can talk through these challenges with others who get it.

Also mentioned: Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things, a resource I created to help you navigate the hard lessons in life, love, and work,

Today, we’re talking about the hard lessons that come from abandoning ourselves to please others. I dig into what it means to be a "safe place" without losing yourself and how to love in healthy, full ways without neglecting your own needs.

If you’ve struggled with boundaries or feel drained by being everyone’s go-to, this episode is for you. Boundaries are key to having better relationships—with others and with yourself.

Listen, reflect, and maybe start asking yourself some of these same questions. If you need help working through it, join Tuesday Group. Here’s the link.

Also mentioned: My May episode This is Me, All In, You can find it between episodes 45 and 46.

Also mentioned: Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things, a resource for tough conversations in life, love, or work.

This week, we dive into a painful and often unexpected aspect of dealing with a narcissistic mother: betrayal trauma. When your mom’s smear campaign turns family and friends against you, the emotional fallout can be overwhelming. It’s real and it’s another trauma. Listen in to learn how to reclaim your sense of self amidst the chaos.

If today’s topic resonates with you, remember that you don’t have to go through it alone. Join Tuesday Group, a supportive community where we navigate these challenges together. We meet every Tuesday at noon PST.

Mentioned in the credits: ⁠Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things,⁠ a resource I created to help you manage the difficult conversations in life, love, and work.

In the second part of this difficult and vulnerable conversation, we’re diving into two more of your most pressing parenting questions. 

First, we’ll explore how to pull yourself out of a shame spiral when you’ve made your child feel bad. Then, we’ll tackle the challenge of managing your child’s big feelings when those emotions trigger you and make you want to shut down.

These are tough topics, but you don’t have to navigate them alone. 

If today’s discussion resonates with you and you’re looking for a space to connect with other daughters facing similar challenges, I’d love to invite you to join Tuesday group. 

It’s a welcoming drop-in group where we support each other through the ups and downs of recovery- including motherhood. 

Here’s the link to join—we’d love to have you with us.

Mentioned in the credits: Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things, a resource I created to help you manage the difficult conversations in life, love, and work.

This week, with the vulnerability of one listener sharing her story and questions in her own voice, we’re tackling one of the most sensitive topics we can cover on the show—mothering when you are the daughter of an emotionally limited or narcissistic mother.

We’re talking about how the wounds from your own upbringing can impact your ability to nurture, set boundaries, and connect emotionally with your children.

This is generational curse-breaking stuff, ladies. You’ll gain insights and strategies to break the cycle and create healthy and loving environments for your kids. 

And if you’re feeling the need for more support as you navigate these challenges, I invite you to join our Tuesday Group. 

It’s a safe space where you can connect with other daughters, share your experiences, and find the support you need to continue healing. 

JOIN HERE.

Join us as we begin this important two-part discussion.

Question for the show? Want my two cents on your parenting conundrum? [email protected]|

Today, we hear directly from a daughter, in her own words and in her own voice.

We’re diving into the challenges of grieving and healing from narcissistic abuse when going no contact isn’t an option. Learn strategies for managing ongoing emotional pain and abuse while being financially dependent and feeling trapped by a narcissistic mother.

Identify ways of healing, finding strength, and setting boundaries when your narcissistic mother is still in your life. This is a difficult path that requires you to meet yourselves with compassion. I hope you find some here, too.

If you're looking for a supportive community to help navigate these challenges, consider joining our Tuesday Group.

It's a space where you can connect with others who truly understand your journey and work together on building the strength and resilience needed to heal.

Learn more and sign up.

Have time for a quick chat? I wanted to talk to you about a confusing but important part of trauma work: Navigating the distinction between trauma brain and wise mind. 

In this mini episode, I am walking you through how to identify when trauma brain is taking over and how to reconnect with your wise mind for better decision-making and coping. 

If you’ve ever struggled with knowing which voice to trust, I’m offering practical strategies to help you navigate the maze. 

Friendly neighborhood reminder: This is hard stuff and you don’t always have to figure it out alone.

Consider this your standing invitation to join us for Tuesday Group. This is the kind of thing we will be talking about and figuring out together every week.

Group is here to support you on your journey toward healing and self-trust.