Dr. Rob and Tami answer a listener’s question about why her husband in recovery keeps shutting her down when she gets vulnerable or shows emotions. Dr. Rob suspects it might be due to guilt and this is why it makes him uncomfortable. Instead of looking internally at the cause, he tries to shut you down to prevent him from feeling his true emotions.

 

TAKEAWAYS:

[:30] I’ll make up issues so that I can create distance with my partner. What’s wrong with me?

[3:45] It’s better to come back later and be honest than to never be honest at all.

[6:10] My emotions make my husband uncomfortable. Should he attend an attention meeting to address this?

[8:45] Does your husband have ADHD?

[12:05] I’m going to leave my 15-year relationship, but he’s threatening suicide. Why do I feel so guilty?

[18:45] I had an STD prior to the relationship that I never disclosed. How can I tell my spouse?

[20:45] My betrayed spouse is still upset with me. What can I do?

[30:35] What are the rules when it comes to virtual dating?

 

RESOURCES:

Seekingintegrity.com

Email Tami: [email protected]

Sexandrelationshiphealing.com

Intherooms.com

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Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss