A listener writes in and asks Dr. Rob and Tami about what to do after finding out that her partner of seven years still sleeps with his ex-wife, and is unwilling to cut her off because she is still the mother of his kids. Dr. Rob and Tami offer advice on best steps forward, but if a partner is unwilling to put his recovery first and foremost to live a life of integrity, this is a bad sign that he’s still not ready for a relationship with you. 

 

TAKEAWAYS:

[0:25] How does a sex addict treat their affair partner so well, but their married partner so poorly?

[2:10] My partner of seven years is an addict and cheated on me with his ex wife for the last three years. She also has some health conditions and he doesn’t want to cut her off, so what do I do? 

[6:35] My addict won’t admit he’s an addict. How do I help him?

[11:05] My addict doesn’t want to do a formal closure! Does this mean he is still lying? 

[16:00] I can’t seem to find a sponsor in my group. Any advice? 

[18:40] I still struggle with sexual desires. Will I ever be able to recover?

[21:25] My husband is a sex addict and doesn’t believe he has gaslit me. Can someone be a SA without gaslighting? 

[27:15] We’re about to start a formal closure. What should we prepare for? 

[33:10] My wife is still upset after two years. How can I best comfort her? 

RESOURCES:

Seekingintegrity.com

Email Tami: [email protected]

Sexandrelationshiphealing.com

Intherooms.com

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