Dr. Rob and Tami go a little bit deeper on why addicts seek intensity over meaning. They also offer insight into why a man goes from one night stand to one night stand and then ‘suddenly’ decides to give it all up for an 18 month long affair. Dr. Rob and Tami also understand the frustration betrayed partners have when it comes to their addict’s journey, and answers a question from a listener on how he can better support his betrayed partner. 

 

TAKEAWAYS:

[0:30] My addict doesn’t want to have sex. What’s going on? 

[3:50] Sex addiction is based on intensity. It’s based on the ‘new’. A wife of 10+ years is not new. 

[5:10] How could my SA partner go from one night stands to an 18 month affair? 

[10:05] She is constantly watching my every move to protect herself from further trauma. Is there anything I can do to help her? 

[12:50] How long does it take a recovering SA to feel comfortable with sex? 

[16:55] I’m in a crisis. I don’t think I can be the man she wants me to be. 

[22:25] You can't read one book and think everything is ‘fixed’. 

[26:30] My wife is burning out as she walks this recovery journey with me. How can I support her? 

 

RESOURCES:

Seekingintegrity.com

Email Tami: [email protected]

Sexandrelationshiphealing.com

Intherooms.com

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Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss

Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss

Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss