Dr. Rob and Tami share their thoughts on how to best approach the conversation with your sex addict partner who might be oblivious that they have an addiction. In same-sex male relationships, casual sex is prominent, and it can be very difficult to differentiate between what is a healthy relationship vs. an unhealthy one. Is it even possible? Dr. Rob knows it is and has been the only person to write in-depth on the nuances of these same-sex relationships among sex addicts.

 

TAKEAWAYS:

[:30] I’ve been married for 30 years and I think my husband finally gets it, but I’m not even ready to have him see me naked. Is this trauma?

[2:15] You’re not alone in these feelings! Seek a support group and keep working with a therapist.

[5:45] My husband thinks celibacy isn’t normal. Is this true? I’m a betrayed spouse and he still watches porn.

[8:00] My wife has asked for a divorce. I’ve started to masturbate again. I feel like I’ve ruined my recovery. How can I move forward?

[10:10] Recovery is how we learn to do life differently.

[16:00] Nothing in your life is ruined!

[16:15] How can I talk to my spouse about sex addiction?

[22:15] Dr. Rob is the only person who has written about how sex addiction affects the gay community.

[24:45] When should I believe my addict? How can I really trust her again?

 

RESOURCES:

Seekingintegrity.com

Email Tami: [email protected]

Sexandrelationshiphealing.com

Intherooms.com

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Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss