If you’ve ever felt completely drained—mentally, emotionally, even physically—after dealing with a narcissist, you’re not imagining it. In this episode of The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast, we unpack the seven core reasons why being in a relationship with a narcissist is so profoundly exhausting.

We explore:

• The repetitive cycle of love-bombing, devaluation, and criticism that keeps you off balance
• How narcissists use simultaneous tactics—gaslighting, belittling, ignoring—to wear you down
• Why you feel like you’re constantly performing, yet never “enough”
• How your energy becomes their fuel—and why their tank is never full
• The emotional toll of being unheard, invalidated, and chronically criticized
• Why the longer you stay, the harder it becomes to recognize yourself
• How to begin stepping off the rollercoaster and reclaiming your clarity and strength

This episode is for anyone who’s ever asked, “Why am I so tired all the time?” or “Why does this relationship feel like a full-time job?” If you’ve been stuck in a cycle of confusion and depletion, this conversation will help you name what’s happening—and remind you that it’s not your fault.

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Love bombing may sound sweet—but it’s anything but sincere. In this episode of The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast, we expose the hidden insult behind the narcissist’s most seductive tactic. From the outside, it looks like affection. But underneath? It’s manipulation, grooming, and emotional sabotage.

We explore:

• Why love bombing is the first phase in the cycle of abuse—and why it’s so hard to detect at first
• How insincere praise is used to gain control, create dependency, and erode your self-trust
• The emotional confusion that sets in when compliments are given, then withheld, then weaponized
• How love bombing trains you to perform for validation—and sets the stage for gaslighting
• Why this tactic is not just deceptive, but deeply disorienting, and how to spot it before it takes root

This episode is for anyone who’s ever felt swept off their feet, only to later feel confused, depleted, or manipulated. If you’ve been love-bombed and are starting to see the cracks beneath the compliments, this conversation will help you name the tactic, understand its impact, and begin to reclaim your clarity.

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From the onset of the relationship with a narcissist, the game has begun. Their antics are ready to go, and you will be the target for a while. They will study you, learn your behaviors—because they have ulterior motives at bay.

In this episode of The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast, we explore why the narcissist studies you, what their motivation is behind the scenes, and—as an added bonus—the ramifications of being in a relationship with this type of creepy individual. It’s not curiosity. It’s a calculation.

We examine:

• How narcissists observe your reactions to both praise and punishment to gauge your pliability
• Why they need to predict your behavior before it happens—and how they use that to stay one step ahead
• How they assess your convictions, boundaries, and emotional resilience to determine how much “training” you’ll require
• The chilling reason they collect emotional “ammo” early on—to use against you later if you ever leave
• What happens when you start to lose your voice, your spark, and your sense of self—and how to begin reclaiming it

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Have you ever met someone who was funny, charismatic, and swept you off your feet in record time?

Maybe they listened intently, seemed knowledgeable, and carried a hint of mystery. You were curious—and they knew it. When a narcissist meets new supply, they often lead with charisma. In this episode of The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast, we explore the acting skills narcissists use to lure, confuse, and control.

We examine:

• How narcissists use charisma as a mask to generate interest and desirability
• Why love bombing isn’t affection—it’s investment with strings attached
• How they deploy premature vulnerability to fast-track emotional intimacy
• The purpose behind these tactics—and how they’re layered to create dependency
• What to notice when someone’s “wrecking ball story” feels more like a performance

This episode is for anyone who’s ever felt emotionally ambushed after being swept off their feet. If you’ve been charmed, flattered, or guilted into connection, this conversation will help you see the performance for what it is.

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By design, one or more narcissistic parent(s) have created a disturbing and unhealthy relational connection between the family-assigned roles of scapegoat and golden child. Neither role is desirable, and both suffer consequences—not only in how they relate to the narcissistic parent, but with each other.

In this episode of The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast, we discuss the harrowing relational dynamics between these two roles, which often continue well into adulthood.

We examine:

• How narcissistic parents assign roles early—and why they rarely change
• Why the golden child is rewarded for loyalty, while the scapegoat is punished for truth
• How triangulation and emotional neglect keep the roles locked in place
• Why the golden child often can’t support the scapegoat—even in adulthood
• What happens when one sibling heals—and the other stays in performance mode

This episode is for anyone who’s ever felt erased by their own family. If you’ve been cast as the “difficult one” while someone else was praised for playing along, this conversation brings clarity to a system that was never about fairness.

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If you've just checked your Twitter feed, Instagram DM's, email, text, and your new TikTok blast in the last 15 minutes, while driving and eating your lunch, you may agree that our current reality encapsulates a life of ongoing distractions. 

In a world already saturated with noise, narcissists add another layer—one that’s calculated, deliberate, and designed to keep you distracted. Distraction isn’t always digital. It can be emotional, psychological, and deeply personal.

This episode explores how narcissists use distraction to avoid accountability, derail conversations, and keep you emotionally disoriented. From gaslighting to circular conversations, deception to blame-shifting, these tactics are meant to shift your focus away from what matters—and onto what benefits them.

We examine:

• How gaslighting and circular conversations are used to confuse and exhaust
• Why blame-shifting and deception serve as smokescreens for deeper manipulation
• How entertainment and media can normalize distraction on a cultural level
• What it means to step back, evaluate your consumption, and reclaim your attention
• Why distraction is often subtle—and how to spot it before it derails your clarity

If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation feeling more confused than when it started—or sensed something important was being hidden behind the noise—this episode will help you name the tactic and begin to see through the fog.

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In this episode, we are going to touch on the current estimated number of users (profiles), projected growth of the platforms, success percentages, as well as get to the heart of the issue, which is why online dating draws so many narcissists. We will end with some handy tips to keep in mind if you are communicating online, so you can try to avoid. What better place to practice manipulation and acting skills than a space designed for curated charm and fast connection? In this episode, we explore how narcissists use online dating not to find love—but to perfect their tactics, test new supply, and sharpen their deception.

We unpack:

• Why narcissists get better (and worse) with age—and how online dating accelerates their skill set
• How the digital format removes accountability, making it easier to lie without detection
• Why conversations often feel shallow, evasive, or oddly performative—and what that signals
• How narcissists keep multiple conversations going to maintain a constant stream of supply
• The real reason they let you talk so much: to study your weak spots and tailor their manipulation

If you’ve ever felt confused, discarded, or emotionally drained after trying to date online.

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Ever felt like your gut instinct went silent after enduring narcissistic abuse? In this episode, we unpack the practical steps survivors can take to rebuild trust with themselves and reconnect with their intuition, straight from our latest article on MovingForwardAfterAbuse.com.

What You’ll Learn:

• Why narcissistic abuse cuts you off from intuition
• How trauma hijacks self-trust and decision-making
• Concrete actions to start hearing your inner voice again
• Ways to distinguish intuition from anxiety or fear
• Why self-compassion is the foundation for healing

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A narcissist thrives in certain environments when their needs are met. When things go awry, and their needs are not met, or they have been ousted, they will not be happy campers. 

In this episode, we are going to explore the biggest fears of a narcissist, which are the very things they don’t want you to ever do or act on or heaven forbid, even have knowledge of.

A narcissist thrives in environments where their needs are met, their image is protected, and their control goes unchallenged. But what happens when that illusion starts to crack?

In this episode, we explore the eight things narcissists fear most—their true kryptonite. These are the actions, realizations, and boundaries they hope you never discover, because each one threatens the carefully constructed world they’ve built.

We unpack:

• Why criticism—even mild—can trigger rage and retaliation
• How catching on to their games threatens their entire façade
• The deep fear of exposure, and how they scramble to avoid it

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In this video we are going to talk about Self-Blame and Shame – as we dive into these introspective matters of the heart to aid in the healing and recovery process from a relationship with a narcissist.

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