IF YOU ARE INTERESTED IN PARTNERSHIP, DON’T INVEST IN PEOPLE WHO ARE NOT

If we understand the prerequisites for Partnership, it becomes much simpler to see whether a person we have encountered is interested in developing a partnership with us or not.

Partnership is about two people building something together.

Partnership is about bringing one’s own relationship masteries and offering it to another as the contribution we want to make to their life.

Partnership is about being deeply interested in the other.

It’s about two people coming into a dynamic of AGREEMENT.

It’s about two people coming into a dynamic of COOPERATION with each other.

If you are looking to have this in your life as the next big step in your journey, look for people who are also interested in having that with someone.

If you don’t see these desires and qualifications for partnership in the other, please stop projecting partnership onto them.

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It’s still possible to have a rewarding and thriving connection with someone that is not focused on partnership.  Two big categories of non-partnership relating can be:

1.  Erotic Connection.
2.  Great Companionship.

An erotic connection can very much thrive between two people who are not building a life partnership together.  Often times, erotic connections thrive better outside of life partnerships.  

Life partners regularly face the challenge of keeping eros alive between them.  They have to often create distance and ‘become strangers’ to each other selectively in order to rediscover the erotic energies between them.

And great companionship, great friendships are one of the great joys of life.

It’s wonderful to connect with people in our lives over these two big categories of relating.

The problem people create for themselves is when they start with an erotic spark and they HOPE that a great partnership will magically grow out of it.  This is a foolish and immature notion.

Great partnerships don’t automatically grown between people.  And great partnerships are not FOUND!  Great partnerships have to be built, and build everyday between two people.  And for that to work, the two people have to be deeply interested in each other and in building and growing that partnership together.

— Om Rupani

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COURTESANS AS REPAIR ENZYMES FOR OUR INTIMACY AND RELATIONSHIPS

People who have sensual mastery themselves, and who might be able to contribute to the betterment of sensual lives of others are so badly needed in our culture right now.

Our relationships and intimacies are in widespread breakdown.

Traditional therapy and couple’s counseling has its uses, but most often, the traditional therapist is as stumped in helping their clients in the sensuality department as the average citizen.

In this gap of need, there is actually a very big space available for people who are gifted in the sensual arts, people who have felt the call of their Courtesan archetype, to step in and work with people and help them jumpstart their sensual connections.  But the shadowiness around this kind of work creates an amount of doubt and self-cancellation in the prospective courtesan that is disheartening to witness.

It is indeed unfair that our current culture is not very welcoming or praising of this archetype. It is quite ironic that this is so.  The same people who might benefit from the services of a masterful courtesan, male or female, are also the people who may look down on the courtesan archetype and all that they have to offer.

This places an extra burden on the practitioner.  I feel they get burdened with carrying the collective sexual shame of our entire culture — that is a big load to carry!

— Om Rupani

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MEN’S REALLY NEED TO FALL OUT OF LOVE WITH THEIR OWN CONFUSION & SCATTERED-NESS

God knows the women of our modern world have their share of work to do when it comes to healing their relationship with the masculine and coming into alignment and agreement with men if they are to build any kind of a worthwhile partnership with men.

The women who show up to my classes tend to be women who have already done their work and are ready to receive a man’s strength and leadership and containment.  But for these women, there never seem to be enough men to go around who can meet them and match them.

I see too many men today who are so watery and un-contained themselves that it is downright depressing.  What’s worse, the men seem to have made a virtue out of their wateriness and their lack of strength and leadership.  These are the energies that so many men are walking around in today:

1.  CONFUSION.  AMBIVALENCE.  ENDLESS ‘SELF-REFLECTION’ — WHICH IS MORE AKIN TO SELF-ABSORPTION.

2.  SCATTERED ATTENTION.  UN-CONTAINED.  PRE-OCCUPIED WITH THEIR OWN EMOTIONS AND THEIR OWN EMOTIONALITY.

3.  WOUNDED.  REPRESSED.  CARRYING A BACKLOG OF UNPROCESSED EMOTIONS.  NOT ABLE TO EXPRESS THEMSELVES FLUIDLY, NOT BEING ABLE TO CREATE A PERMISSION FIELD FOR A WOMAN FOR HER EXPRESSION.

4.   NEEDY.  SEEKING UNDERSTANDING.  WANTING APPROVAL.

None of these energies will ever earn you any points with the feminine.  They don't want these burdens of yours in their lap.  They don’t want to sort out your confusion and ambivalence.  

Your scattered attention gives women no containment.  They are not interested in healing your wounds and unblocking your blocks.  And your neediness and approval-seeking is repulsive to women.

None of these stances on the women’s part are unfair!  If you feel this is unfair, you need to work doubly hard at your whininess.  

A man bringing these whining and weak energies to his woman has never been a healthy part of the man-woman contract.  Never has been.  Isn’t today.  Never will be.

Men — do you work.  Come into your clarity and leadership.

You are not much use to women until you do.

— Om Rupani

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THE CRUCIAL BUILDING BLOCK OF COMMITMENT IS ATTENTION, NOT TIME

The word and idea of COMMITMENT for most people implies ‘long time span’.

This is technically incorrect.  Although a commitment can span for a long period of time, time is not the crucial building block of commitment; attention is.

It’s possible to offer your commitment to a person for only 5 minutes.  And it’s possible to be in a long marriage in which the two people have not been committed to each other for years.

I put three ingredients in the building of commitment:

1.  ATTENTION
2.  MASTERY
3.  INVESTMENT IN OPTIMAL OUTCOME

— Om Rupani

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PRIESTESS OF EROS CLASS Q&A.

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WE ARE DROWNING IN EMOTION AND STARVING FOR LOVE

Ask most people, and they will say that Love and Emotions are pretty much the same thing.

Most people will agree that Loving someone means caring about their Feelings.

Many people will agree that how we Love someone is to soothe and comfort their Feelings.

I believe this is a very infantile model of Love.

Events of heart activation in the 4th center certainly generate experiences of strong emotion in us, but far and wide, our emotions have nothing to do with Love at all.

If anything, while we are stuck in the infantile management of each other’s emotions, Love actually has very little room to flourish.

Even when heart activations happen, if the person is so uncomfortable with holding energies in their emotional system, they will do everything in their power to quash the Love energies in order to get back to a level of comfort.

— Om Rupani

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LEAH PIPER & DR. WILLOW BROWN PODCAST - 2023

Lively conversation with Leah Piper & Dr. Willow Brown on all matters related to Man-Woman relating, BDSM and Dominance & Submission.

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IF YOU WANT TO LEAD YOUR WOMAN, BE BETTER THAN YOUR WOMAN

If you want to lead anybody, be better than them.

This is the core demand of leadership.  We want to be led by our betters.  We don’t want to be led by people we look down upon.

This applies to any and all hierarchically relationships.  Teachers need to be better than their students.  Parents need to be better than their children.  Leaders need to be better than their followers.

If you as a man want to lead your woman in your relationship, be better than your woman.

There is no happy relationship in which the woman looks down on her man.

There is no happy relationship is which the woman thinks, ‘I’m better than this man.’  There are no exceptions to this fundamental principle of leadership and hierarchy.

The fact that women are only attracted to men who are better than them in itself is an indicator that women are in fact looking to be in an hierarchical dynamic with men.  Their core attraction principle towards men is a principle of leadership and hierarchy.

Men, on their part, need to stop making excuses for not delivering, not measuring up, for remaining infantile, wounded, slack and then still expecting their women to submit to them.  This can never happen.  It is illogical.  It is against the very programing in women’s DNAs.  In is against the programing in all of our DNAs.  

WE DON’T FOLLOW PEOPLE WHO ARE NOT OUR BETTERS.

No amount of polarity theory and learning is going to make up for the lack in your superiority to your woman.  The core way you dominate a woman is by being better than her and her thinking and feeling day after day that you are in fact better than her.

If a woman is happily surrendering and submitting to you, you can bet your bank account that she in fact does think and feel that you are better than her.

If you want to inspire a woman to surrender and submit to you, make yourself better than her.

As soon as your woman starts feeling that she is better than you, your relationships is heading down the toilet.  Do something about that immediately.

If you as a woman feel you are better than any given man, don’t even bother trying to create anything with that man.  It’s pointless.

If in an ongoing relationship, you as a woman start to feel that you are better and superior to the man you are with, recognize that as the death knell of this particular relationship.

— Om Rupani

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ASPECTING ARCHETYPES IN THE PRIESTESS CLASS

Lauren Harkness and I discuss the First Module of the Modern Priestess of Eros.  Aspecting our Dom/sub archetypes for greater personal expression and to increase our ability to hold space for others.  

This was a powerful and potent exploration for the graduates of the last round of Modern Priestess.  

If you're interested in the class, the next round begins September 17th.  

We have a Q and A next Thursday the 27th.  

You can find info/register for both below.  Hope to see you there!

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