On Purpose with Jay Shetty

For some, success is elusive while for others, it’s years of hard work and dedication.

But how can one truly and effectively achieve success?

How can we be as successful as the leaders we look up to?

Today, in the On Purpose podcast, Jay sits down with New York Times Bestselling Author, Alli Webb. After spending 15 years as a professional hairstylist, in 2010, she pioneered the Drybar concept, a chain of hair salons known for blowout services that quickly expanded nationwide. Jay and Alli go in depth about what the journey was behind creating a business to eventually selling the company for $225 million! Alli’s remarkable journey has landed her on the cover of Inc. Magazine, Fast Company's "100 Most Creative People in Business" list, Fortune magazine's "40 Under 40," and more. 

Alli and Jay explored the messy truth about starting something new– whether it’s a business or a relationship. They also talked about the importance of intuition and paying attention to red flags in entrepreneurship and the role of passion and love for what you do. 

You will also learn about how Alli balances her personal and professional life and the difficulty of navigating and ending a marriage. Remember that sometimes, we won’t always have the ‘perfect ending’ in our stories, and that’s okay. 

In this interview, you'll learn:

The messy truths of entrepreneurship

The importance of acknowledging imposter syndrome and using it as a source of motivation and growth

The challenges and risks associated with starting and running a business

How to take feedback as a gift

How to cope with life changes and challenges

Remember that the most beautiful masterpieces are often created from the messiest of beginnings.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro 

02:50 Success Is Messy 

03:55 The Truth About Starting A Business 

05:55 Anyone Can Be An Entrepreneur 

07:40 ‘I never thought I would be successful’ 

10:30 From Hobby To Business 

13:20 DON’T Think About The Money 

14:26 The 2 Secrets To Success 

15:56 Being Right Or Being Delusional? 

20:05 How To Find Your Passion

22:04 Finding The Right Business Partners 

25:31 Making Your Idea Work 

27:21 Dealing With Potential Failure 

29:22 Feeling Like An Imposter 

33:00 The One Piece Of Advice For Success 

37:00 How To Accept Criticism 

40:50 Can You Be Successful AND Happy? 

45:10 Finding Love During Chaos 

48:25 Navigating Challenges In A Relationship 

51:15 How To Balance Your Life 

54:01 Finding Closure Within Yourself 

57:30 How To Cope With Uncertainty 

1:00:29 Hardest Part Of Divorce 

1:04:58 What Do You Need To Change About Yourself? 

1:07:33 Dealing With Trauma 

1:11:41 Alli’s Best Advice 

1:19:00 Alli On Final Five

Episode Resources:

Alli Webb | Website

Alli Webb | Instagram

Alli Webb | TikTok 

Alli Webb | Book

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Staying in your comfort zone often gives us a sense of control and stability. 

But when it comes to growth, staying in one spot for a long time doesn’t lead to growth. 

So how can you comfortably leave your comfort zone and unlock your hidden potential?

Today, Jay sits down with organizational psychologist Adam Grant. Adam is a leading expert on how we can find motivation and meaning, rethink assumptions, and live more generous and creative lives. Adam hosts the TED podcasts Re:Thinking and WorkLife, which have been downloaded over 65 million times. Adam’s latest book, Hidden Potential offers a new framework for raising aspirations and exceeding expectations.  

Adam and I explore why growth is so important in our lives as we dive into the tools to use in order to grow through discomfort. We look deep into facing discomfort, finding your authentic voice, and the true essence of learning.

Now, let's talk about something that can sometimes weigh us down – envy. We'll learn how we can turn envy into inspiration, using our role models as a stepping stone to success.

In this interview, you'll learn:

Why personal growth matters

How to deal with discomfort

How a life coach can help you

How to find your authentic voice

How to get out of your comfort zone

Truly, this is a journey of self-improvement, self-discovery, and embracing personal growth. 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro 

03:57 Why Growth Is So Important 

06:25 Should You Compare Yourself To Others? 

09:01 “I thought I should quit” 

10:50 You Need To Study Your Role Models 

12:00 How To Face Discomfort 

16:07 Are You Being Too Cautious? 

17:56 Why You Need to Stick With Things 

20:10 What Do You Need To Be Better At?

 23:35 How To Know If You’re Doing Well 

27:29 The Trick To Gaining Self-Confidence 

30:32 How To Deal With Never-Ending Criticism 

32:27 Should You Care What Other People Think? 

35:40 Myths About How We Learn 

39:37 The Truth About How We Learn 

43:50 Doubt Can Be Helpful 45:40 Why You Should Get A Coach 

52:25 How To Succeed Without Perfection 

56:17 Is Self Promotion Bad? 

1:00:10 How To Promote Your Work 

1:04:45 Adding Value To Others’ Lives 

1:08:55 The Secret To Success 

1:12:42 How To Enjoy The Struggle 

1:16:50 “What one piece of advice has stuck with you?” 

1:19:11 Why Choices Are Important 

1:23:15 Finding Hidden Potential 

1:26:54 How To Optimize Education 

1:28:00 Conclusion

Episode Resources:

Adam Grant | X

Adam Grant | Instagram

Adam Grant | Facebook

Adam Grant | Threads 

Adam Grant | LinkedIn

Adam Grant | Website

Adam Grant | Books

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Have you ever found yourself comparing your current partner to someone from your past? 

Are you wondering why your current relationship isn’t as happy as it used to be?

If you’re currently struggling with keeping your relationship afloat, then this episode is for you. 

We all know that effective communication is the key to maintaining healthy connections, and I am here to guide us on how to better express our thoughts and concerns to our loved ones. Here's the first golden rule in improving your relationships – someone's past behavior doesn't define them today. And it's not just about their actions; it's about what you bring to the table as well. 

Let's take a look at crucial insights on how we tend to fill in the gaps with our own assumptions, the importance of asking the right questions, and why criticism rarely leads to positive change. And always consider the significance of seeing vulnerability as strength and not putting your loved ones down in public.

In this episode, you'll learn:

The reasons why relationships fail

How to avoid actions that ruin relationships

How to become a better listener

How to communicate yourself effectively

We're in for a heartfelt discussion that will surely help you strengthen your relationships and take a step closer to the happier, healthier connections you deserve.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:38 How to Better Communicate Issues in Your Relationship

03:31 #1: Someone's Behavior Doesn’t Make Them The Same As Someone You Were With Before  

09:01 #2: Don't Fill In Uncertainties Mentally

13:26 #3: We All Have A Long List Of Needs

18:12 #4: Ask Yourself These Three Questions

20:38 #5: Criticism Doesn’t Help Change, Coaching Does

23:27 #6: Seeing Opening Up As A Weakness 

26:33 #7: Criticism Is Often Linked With Comparison

27:20 #8: Don’t Put Them Down In Public

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Do you want to shift your thoughts to change your reality? 

Do you want to shift your self- criticism into compassion? 

Today I welcome Charli D’Amelio, a digital superstar, crowned “the reigning queen of TikTok,” by The New York Times. Charli was the first on the platform to hit 100 million followers and is the current leading female TikTok creator with over 150 million followers, making her the most followed person on the platform. Now Charli is one of the most recognizable faces online, in print and on screen with her family’s Hulu docuseries, The D’Amelio Show.

In this interview, Charli doesn’t hold anything back. She openly discusses how she preserves her self-esteem and identity while navigating the challenges of online bullying and fame. She talks about her breaking point and what led her to change the way she talked to herself by implementing self-compassion. It’s a reminder that checking in with yourself is important in order to sort out emotions and assess your physical and emotional needs. 

In this interview, you will learn 

The importance of being kind to yourself 

How to tap into your authentic self

How to rediscover yourself and giving yourself permission to be 

The power of learning to trust yourself and your decisions 

Strengthening your ability to bounce back from setbacks.

How to voice your needs to those around you. 

Join us in a conversation of self-exploration, where we explore the depths of self-awareness and empower you to build trust in yourself and your choices. 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro 

02:34 Did Charli Just Get Lucky?! 

5:50 Charli’s Online Identity vs. Her Real-life Persona 

11:26 Learning To Focus On What Actually Matters 

13:43 On Losing Her Identity 19:10 Finding Joy In Everyday Life 

25:00 How To Be Less Self-critical 

29:00 Treating Your Friends With Kindness 

32:43 Navigating Difficult Family Dynamics 

36:43 What It’s Like To Film A Reality TV Show 

39:10 On Being Trust In The Adult World At The Age of 

16 45:24 Gossip, Rumors, and Clickbait

47:38 Being Friends With Other Influencers 

50:15 Having A Famous Boyfriend 

54:28 Learning To Ignore The Haters 

58:34 Raising Her New Puppy! 

1:00:30 Finding Her Personal Style 

1:02:00 Learning To Use Her Voice 

1:09:40 Finding Peace With Animals 

1:13:15 Visiting Africa 

1:17:30 Charli D'Amelio On Final Five

Episode Resources:

Charli D'Amelio | Instagram

Charli D'Amelio | TikTok

Charli D'Amelio | YouTube

Charli D'Amelio | Twitter

Charli D'Amelio | Facebook

Charli D'Amelio | Website

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Have you ever wondered why our schools don't focus much on nurturing our creative sides? 

What possibilities could have happened if we were given more time to explore our creativity?

Today, I am going to share with you some insights on why many of us don’t pursue our creative interests, the different ways to respark our creativity, and what we can do to hone our creativity despite our busy schedules.

It's a thought that's crossed many of our minds, and today, we're going to explore it together.

As we go along, you'll discover eight practical ways to reignite your creativity, and they're as fun as they are effective. From browsing a bookshop to asking thought-provoking questions, from giving your living space a creative twist to engaging your friends in the process, there's something here for everyone.

With this episode, learn how to break free and get those creative juices flowing. It's time to embrace your inner artist and find the inspiration you've been looking for.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to develop creativity

Steps to be more creative

How to challenge yourself to be more productive

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:28 Developing creativity is not prioritized in educational institutions

04:43 How Schools Kill Creativity

06:13 #1: Walk Into A Bookshop

11:34 #2: Asking Better Questions 

14:52 #3: Imagine Solving a Real Live Problem in Your Mind

17:59 #4: Think About the Next Place You’re Traveling

20:22 #5: Play With Toys

21:29 #6: Ask Your Friends What You Can Do Next

23:42 #7: Redecorate More Intentionally

25:40 #8: Find Random Friends

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Can self-hate be turned into self-love, and if so, where does this transformation start? 

How can we replace self-criticism with affirmations and begin prioritizing self-care?

Today, I have something truly special to share with you on the On Purpose podcast. We're about to dive deep into the incredible journey of Elliot Page, whose story is not just a memoir but a testament to the power of self-discovery and authenticity. 

Elliot Page is an Academy Award-nominated actor, director, producer, writer, and a New York Times bestselling author known for his indelible on-screen presence in both tentpole and art house films. Today we are talking about his memoir Pageboy which became an instant bestseller. 

Starting with a detailed exploration of life-changing memories, we journey alongside Elliot through a life-long experience that's beautifully reflected in this memoir. It's a story of resilience and growth, a reminder that we all have the capacity to overcome challenges and find our true selves.

Elliot's story sheds light on the importance of not letting societal conditioning dictate who we are. We'll explore how being true to yourself can lead to living the life you've always wanted. From struggles to self-discovery, we will discover the impact of authenticity and self-acceptance and how these can help anyone take pivots at the most crucial moments. 

And amidst it all, we'll touch on topics like community support, transitioning resources, and how parents can empower their children to express themselves.

In this interview, you’ll learn:

How to let go of self hate

How to appreciate your authenticity

How to develop self love

How to find your own voice

The importance of community support

The challenges when transitioning

How to deal with unsupportive people

This episode is not just about one person's journey; it's about the universal themes of self-love, acceptance, and the incredible strength of the human spirit. 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:58 Elliot's Memory Exploration 

03:46 Pageboy: A Memoir

06:16 Breaking The Mold Of Conditioned Reactions 

07:41 Living Your Dream Life

09:28 Fighting to Function In Your Own Pace

10:26 Let People Be Themselves

13:08 How Transition Shapes Your Profession and Life

15:15 The Positives of Being Grounded And Present

18:20 The Significance of Community Support

20:16 Resources for Transitioning Individuals

23:19 How Parents Can Aid In Self-Expression 

25:13 Misconceptions on Youth and Trans Health

28:43 Trans Men On Conversations About Masculinity

32:11 Empathetic Conversations With Other Trans People

38:09 Lessening the Burden of Feeling Alone

42:51 Connecting Through Stories

44:29 Balancing Alone Time And Forming Relationships

47:30 Living A Life With Limited Resources

51:40 Biographies And Intriguing Lives

53:04 Having A Moment Of Self Love

56:14 Elliot Page on Final Five  

Episode Resources:

Elliot Page | Twitter

Elliot Page | Instagram

Elliot Page | Facebook

Pageboy: A Memoir 

If you are interested in learning more in the topics we discussed today, below is a book list curated by Elliot Page: 
 
A Trans Man Walks Into a Gay Bar, Harry Nicholas
Amateur, Thomas Page McBee
Bellies, Nicola Dinan
He/She/They, Schuyler Bailar
Miss Major Speaks, Miss Major and Toshio Meronek
None of the Above, Travis Alabanza
Redefining Realness, Janet Mock
Surpassing Certainty, Janet Mock
The Risk it Takes to Bloom, Raquel Willis
The Transgender Issue, Shon Faye
Transgender History, Susan Stryker
We Both Laughed in Pleasure, Lou Sullivan

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Has your perspective on life changed since you lost a loved one?

How has forgiveness made a difference in your path to healing?

Today, we are joined by Nicole Avant, a producer and political activist who served as the United States Ambassador to the Bahamas. Her new book Think You’ll Be Happy: Moving Through Grief with Grit, Grace and Gratitude takes us on a personal journey of grief and healing. 

Nicole opens up about facing unimaginable challenges, including the loss of her beloved mother, Jacqueline Avant, in a tragic incident. Through heartfelt anecdotes and profound insights, Nicole reveals how she found strength in the face of adversity, and the role that resilience played in her healing process.

Throughout the conversation, we explore the power of vulnerability, the importance of community, and the beauty of honoring one's emotions. Nicole beautifully discusses the transformative effect of grief and how it can shape our understanding of ourselves and the world around us.

Whether you're navigating your own journey of resilience or simply seeking inspiration to overcome life's obstacles, this conversation will touch your heart and leave you with a renewed sense of hope.

In this interview, you’ll learn: 

How the power of resilience allows us to overcome adversity

How grief will transform us 

How important community is when we are facing pain 

How to turn pain into purpose 

How to face life’s obstacles with resilience and determination

Think You’ll Be Happy by @nicoleavantofficial is now available wherever books are sold. A moving story that is sure to inspire us all. 

With Love and Gratitude, 

Jay Shetty 

What We discuss:

00:00 Intro

02:53 The Essence Of Showing Up for Others 

04:46 Allowing Yourself To Pause And Repair

07:25 Always Pay It Forward

11:18 Leaving a Lasting Impression Through Emotional Memories

12:42 Nicole Recalls the Time She Tragically Lost Her Mother

19:07 The Real Definition of Courage

21:22 Self-Expression as a Form of Healing

24:02 The Best Way to Honor Anyone You’ve Love

29:55 The Power of Choice

34:37 Grief Is Proof That You Loved

39:44 Different Ways We Deal with Tragedy

43:41 The Invisible Threads That Connect Us

47:21 You Must Carry On

51:12 Honoring the Departed by Living Life to Its Fullest

55:22 The Lessons Life Offers

01:00:35 Do You Still Cry?

01:03:10 Nicole Avant on Final Five  

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Do you want to transform shame into self acceptance? 

Do you want to learn how to forgive in order to heal?

Today, Jay sits down for an extremely powerful, vulnerable and transformative conversation with Jada Pinkett Smith. Jada is an actress, producer, musician, host, author and advocate whose career has spanned over 30 years. Jada is also one of the hosts, on the Emmy award-winning talk show titled Red Table Talk. Today we are talking about Jada’s new book is out now called “Worthy” 

Jada fearlessly shares insights into her marriage, shedding light on never-before-heard truths, including the 2022 Oscar's incident. We also explore the notion that our relationships serve as mirrors, reflecting our inner selves, and delve into the transformative power of embracing greater love to conquer life's challenges.

In this interview you’ll learn: 

How to let go of the old version of you 

Why self love is so important

How to remain courageous in adversities 

How to turn shame into self acceptance

How to overcome your past and thrive

With Love and Gratitude, 

Jay Shetty 

In this interview, we’ll discuss:

02:48 Jada On How Writing Her New Book Was A Healing Process 

09:48 On Growing Up With Young Parents Who Struggled With Addiction 

14:31 “I wasn’t a priority… I felt unlovable” 

20:40 *Trigger warning* Jada On Struggling With Suicidal Thoughts 

32:11 Jada On Her Journey To Hollywood & Facing Disappointment 

39:32 On Her Friendship with Tupac Shakur 

42:59 The Difference Between Sexual Chemistry & Energetic Connection 

52:54 A Realistic Approach To Love & Marriage 

01:03:53 The Complicated Timeline of Jada and Will Smith’s Marriage

01:11:27 On Self-worth & Self-love 

01:13:49 Jada Speaks About Jaden and Willow Smith including a *Surprise Letter From Willow*

01:23:58 It’s Important To Show Your Flaws & Humanness To Your Children 

01:42:00 Friendship Built On Healing & Personal Growth 

01:45:50 Be Okay With Your Victories & Your Challenges 

01:49:52 How Jada & Will Are Healing Together 

01:52:19 Why Jada and Will’s Marriage Hasn’t Ended In A Divorce? 

01:59:09 Romantic Love Is An Aspect Of The Highest Form Of Relationships 

02:02:57 Letting Go Of The Romantic Love 

02:07:13 Marriage Is A Partnership That Works For Both Partners 

02:15:23 Despite Living Separate Lives There Is A Strong Bond 

02:19:52 *Surprise Moment* Jay Reads A Letter From Will 

02:22:59 Married Young With Different Needs & Visions For The Family 

02:29:11 The Fear Of Embracing Our Humanness

You can purchase Jada’s book here https://ourworthyjourney.com/

Episode Resources:

Jada Pinkett Smith | Youtube

Jada Pinkett Smith | Instagram 

Jada Pinkett Smith | Tiktok

Jada Pinkett Smith | Facebook

Jada Pinkett Smith | Website 

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You might have heard the buzz about positive thinking, but have you ever wondered if it truly works? 

People are often encouraged to visualize their goals, maintain an upbeat attitude, and affirm positive outcomes.

Today, I am going to share the power of shifting your thinking and the impact it has on our lives. We'll begin by dissecting the concept of thinking into three distinct types. It's an eye-opening revelation that sets the stage for our main topic - the Possibility Mindset. This mindset is a game-changer, a shift in thinking that can transform the way you approach life.

But, of course, not all thinking is beneficial. We'll delve into the Problem Mindset, dissecting the seven key elements that hold you back from your full potential. From only seeing the issues to choosing your words carelessly, we'll uncover how these habits can discourage not only yourself but also those around you.

The ultimate question we'll explore is the difference between talking about big things and actually doing them. So, get ready to challenge your thinking and embrace the possibilities that lie ahead. 

In this episode, you'll learn:

What is possibility thinking

How to stop being a problem thinker

How to develop the possibility thinking

How to level up your doer mindset

Your mindset is a powerful tool, and by the end of this episode, you'll be armed with the knowledge to wield it effectively in your journey towards success.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:19 Positive Thinking Doesn’t Work?

03:13 The Three Types of Thinking

04:23 What Is The Possibility Mindset?

05:28 Do You Have A Problem Mindset?

09:19 #1: You Only See The Issues 

12:02 #2: Doing Things In The Mind Alone

13:08 #3: Nothing Is Never Enough

15:56 #4: You’re Likely To Discourage Others

18:12 #5: Choosing Words Carelessly

20:27 #6: Thinking Like An Expert

20:56 #7: Talking About Big Things vs Doing Big Things

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What’s stopping you from turning your visions into reality?

This is a question that many struggle with and we often spend most of our time finding the answers. 

Today, we are happy to welcome Austrian-born bodybuilder, actor, businessman, philanthropist, bestselling author, and politician, Arnold Schwarzenegger. Arnold served as the thirty-eighth governor of California and his new book, Be Useful: Seven Tools for Life, takes readers on an inspirational tour through Arnold’s tool kit for a meaningful life. 

We will explore Arnold's early years, growing up with a strict father and his deep yearning for genuine conversations. His experiences in the military taught him invaluable life lessons that would shape his path to success. Arnold shares the pivotal moment when he first arrived in the United States, igniting his passion for bodybuilding, a journey that would ultimately define his legacy.

As the conversation deepens, he emphasizes the importance of creating our own paths to happiness and challenges the notion of sacrifice when you truly love what you do. He highlights the significance of having a clear vision for our goals and how compromise plays a vital role in maintaining family unity. Arnold's insights on the art of selling and looking beyond conventional markets shed light on his extraordinary success. 

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to be resilient in the most difficult situations

How to change the trajectory of your life

How to be genuinely happy and content

The importance of allotting time for your family

How to effectively sell your product

How to breakthrough any market

His journey serves as a testament to the idea that every accomplishment unveils a new purpose, driving us to explore our next chapter in life and an inspiration to us all to reach for greatness and share our stories with the world.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:06 Growing Up with a Strict Father

07:24 How the Military Shaped Me 

10:54 Discovering America on My Bodybuilding Quest

17:05 How I Kicked Off My Bodybuilding Journey

23:57 Creating Your Path to Happiness

31:37 Is It Sacrifice If You Love What You Do? 

45:26 How to Set Clear Goals and Achieve Your Dreams

49:50 How Compromise Saved Our Family

54:53 Shifting Your Sales Focus to Real Customers, Real Result

01:10:07 Expanding Your Reach Beyond Big Markets

01:15:54 How Arnold Turned Goals into Achievements  

01:21:11 Why You're Never Truly Self-Made

01:25:31 Arnold Schwarzenegger on Final Five

01:28:27 Discovering New Purpose Through Achievements

01:32:50 Arnold's Public Speaking on His Success

01:41:24 Finding Calm Amidst Chaos with Meditation

Episode Resources:

Arnold Schwarzenegger | Twitter

Arnold Schwarzenegger | Instagram

Arnold Schwarzenegger | Facebook

Arnold Schwarzenegger | TikTok

Arnold Schwarzenegger | YouTube

Netflix: Arnold

Arnold’s Pump Club

Be Useful: Seven Tools for Life

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