On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Today, I'm joined by Haesue Jo, Licensed Therapist & Head of Clinical Operations at BetterHelp, with years of experience providing individual and family therapy in community mental health. Her current clinical focus includes working with individuals with a variety of presenting problems, including anxiety, relationship and family issues, trauma, community violence, gender identity, and depression.

In this session, we sit down with Ulato Sam as he talks about the challenges he had growing up, the hardships that comes when migrating into a new country as a person of color, overcoming the pressure of preconceived beliefs other people have, and learning the necessary skills and tools to be able to fend for yourself and still have the heart to help others.  

Disclaimer: Haesue Jo is not Ulato's actual therapist, and they are not in a therapist-client relationship.

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp.

What We Discuss:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:02:32 Growing up in Jamaica
• 00:06:06 Not fully understanding self awareness 
• 00:14:33 Expressing your thoughts without perspective interference
• 00:17:33 The reality of moving into a new place
• 00:22:01 Motivation to overcome societal pressure
• 00:25:16 Where did you learn these skills?
• 00:28:01 The pressure of life never stops
• 00:32:00 “You should eat so as not to get hungry.”
• 00:36:45 We all grow up with different experiences
• 00:40:30 Tools we need to survive and thrive

Episode Resources

• BetterHelp

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Today, I am talking to Kanwer Singh aka Humble the Poet. Humble is a toronto-bred mc/spoken word artist with an aura that embodies the diversity and resiliency of one of the world’s most unique cities. He stimulates audiences with ideas that challenge conventional wisdom and go against the grain, with dynamic live sets that shake conventions and minds at the same time. Humble's latest EP titled Righteous/Ratchet features the first single H.A.I.R, a celebration of women of all shapes, sizes, hair and walks of life. His self directed video for H.A.I.R has amassed almost 2 million views since its release. The video features YouTube sensation and longtime collaborator, Lilly Singh. His first book Unlearn: 101 Simple Truths For A Better Life was published through Indigo Press in October 2017 and became Heather's Pick and has stayed on the Globe & Mail Bestsellers list since its release. Humble's next book Things No One Else Can Teach Us was released in the fall of 2019. 

Humble emphasizes the importance of making the relationship you have with yourself the best among all the relationships you currently have. This is because knowing your own self worth will make setting boundaries easier for you and for the people around you. We exchange thoughts on what makes us resilient, why self respect matters more than self-esteem, the constant validation we seek from others, and what makes love so simple.     

What We Discuss:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:04:54 Why do we try to impress others?
• 00:06:46 Self-esteem versus self respect
• 00:12:27 What makes us resilient?
• 00:17:04 Not everybody’s going to like you
• 00:20:27 Be in relationship with yourself first
• 00:25:36 There can’t be love if there’s resentment
• 00:34:14 How to develop a healthy relationship? 
• 00:40:21 We are attracted to what’s familiar, not what’s healthy
• 00:54:46 Not getting a reward is not a punishment
• 00:58:47 When you’re in a romantic relationship with someone
• 01:06:45 Love is simple

Episode Resources

• Humble the Poet | Website
• Humble the Poet | Facebook
• Humble the Poet | Twitter
• Humble the Poet | Instagram
• Humble the Poet | YouTube

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Today, I will be sharing with you my conversation with Whitney Cummings from her Good For You podcast. In this conversation, we deep-dived into codependency and we also did the Vedic personality test from my book, Think Like A Monk, to help better understand yourself. 
If you want to pre-order the book, 8 Rules of Love, go to https://8rulesoflove.com/

Key Takeaways:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:01:07 Codependency
• 00:02:52 Giving is selfish
• 00:04:17 When does self-care become selfish?
• 00:06:24 Friendship is not obligatory
• 00:09:28 We all want an answer
• 00:11:29 Why we choose familiar pain over unfamiliar pain
• 00:13:19 Vedic Personality Test
• 00:15:16 Question #1: Which of the following sounds most like what you’re about?
• 00:16:31 Question #2: What role do you play in your friend circle and family?
• 00:18:42 Question #3: What is most important to you in a partner?
• 00:20:52 Question #4: What do you watch most often on TV?
• 00:25:31 Question #5: What causes you the most pain?
• 00:29:13 Question #6: What is your favorite way of working?
• 00:33:51 Question #7: How would your ideal self spend/spare time?
• 00:36:49 Question #8: How would you describe yourself in 3 words?
• 00:37:22 Question #9: What type of environment do you work best?
• 00:38:41 Question #10: How do you prepare for a vacation?
• 00:40:33 Question #11: How do you feel if you make a mistake?
• 00:45:23 Question #12: What do you do when you have to make a big decision?
• 00:46:52 Question #13: Which best describes your daily routine?
• 00:49:23 Results

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Today, I am talking to Roxie Nafousi. Roxie is an self-development coach, manifesting expert, author, ambassador for the Mental Health Foundation and Instagram Agony Aunt. Her commitment to transforming the lives of people who suffer with emotional and mental health issues, and helping them to fulfill their potential, has seen her become a well-known figure in the wellness world. She has hosted self love and motivational workshops and events for major brands as well as being a regular speaker on wellness and mental health panels both in and outside the UK.   

Roxie opens up about her past, her addiction, and how she found spiritual healing that eventually led her to a better path in life. We both shared our vulnerability as we talk about the real value of manifestation, the misconceptions surrounding it, how fear and doubt can hold us back from manifesting our goals, and how we can continue to manifest the goals we want to achieve alongside the priorities we currently have.   

Having clear goals will help us set a clearer vision of the future we want to have. And when we work hard to achieve these goals, its manifestation is put into action.    

What We Discuss:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:03:10 When did your spiritual journey start?
• 00:07:43 Tapping in drugs and addiction
• 00:10:48 Manifesting the wrong things
• 00:14:07 How do we manifest negativity?
• 00:17:02 Devaluing the meaning of manifestation
• 00:21:43 Misconceptions about manifestation
• 00:24:27 Having clear goals
• 00:30:22 Fear and doubt
• 00:36:05 Self care through fear and doubt
• 00:41:23 Does manifestation and prioritization work together?
• 00:45:44 Mom guilt
• 00:50:01 Legally changing a name
• 00:54:24 Who you want to be
• 01:00:35 Being clear with your vision
• 01:03:14 What does envy represent
• 01:08:59 Finding joy in other people’s losses
• 01:11:53 Building self respect
• 01:16:45 Roxie on Final Five

Episode Resources

• Roxie Nafousi | Instagram
• Roxie Nafousi | Facebook
• Roxie Nafousi | Twitter
• Roxie Nafousi | Website
• Manifest: 7 Steps to Living Your Best Life

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Today, I will be sharing with you seven questions you can ask yourself before the year ends to help you get a clear insight of how this year went, the ups and downs, the special moments, and the things you might want to do away or restart next year. These reflections will help you realize what you may want to do differently this new year.  

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Key Takeaways:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:02:46 Question #1: What is the challenge that you’ve overcome this year?
• 00:06:24 Question #2: What’s a surprise you dealt with?
• 00:09:24 Question #3:What is something you bought this year?
• 00:11:45 Question #4: What’s the best book/podcast you read/listened to?
• 00:13:04 Question #5: What are your blind spots for next year?
• 00:14:03 Question #6: What made you the happiest this year?
• 00:16:14 Question #7: Who’s the person you couldn’t have gotten through this year without?

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You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.

Today, I am talking to Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a licensed clinical psychologist in Los Angeles, CA, Professor Emerita of Psychology at California State University, Los Angeles, and the Founder and CEO of LUNA Education, Training & Consulting. She is an author of several books including Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship with a Narcissist, and “Don’t You Know Who I Am?”: How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility. The focus of Dr. Durvasula’s clinical, academic and consultative work is the etiology and impact of narcissism and high-conflict, entitled, antagonistic personality styles on human relationships, mental health, and societal expectations.   

Dr. Ramani shares her studies about narcissism and our narcissistic tendencies. She and I talk about how our personalities define how we act with people and around people, why narcissists are resistant to change and to how deal with one, the truth about gaslighting and why it is so unhealthy to the person at the receiving end, and why we shouldn't misplace our hopes in others and instead place it on ourselves.      

What We Discuss:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:03:11 When did narcissism become a study of focus?
• 00:07:06 Narcissism is a very quiet condition
• 00:12:45 Awareness and discomfort
• 00:19:37 How do people end up with a narcissistic personality?
• 00:26:25 Narcissists can be very attractive
• 00:33:26 The concept of multiple truths
• 00:36:40 Love bombing
• 00:41:08 The real meaning of gaslighting
• 00:47:05 Dealing with a gaslighter
• 00:53:35 “I can change this person.”
• 01:00:07 Ultimate healing from a narcissistic relationship
• 01:04:31 Setting healthy boundaries
• 01:06:49 Adopting narcissistic patterns to be able to fight back
• 01:09:20 Misplaced hope

Episode Resources

• Dr. Ramani Durvasula | Website
• Dr. Ramani Durvasula | YouTube
• Dr. Ramani Durvasula | Twitter
• Dr. Ramani Durvasula | Instagram
• Dr. Ramani Durvasula | Facebook
• Navigating Narcissism with Dr. Ramani

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Today, I will be sharing with you three ways for you to break out of your comfort zone and the endless possibilities if you start following your curiosity. If you keep growing and stop being too comfortable, you will see yourself achieving a whole lot more.

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Key Takeaways:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:01:36 Prepare for the year ahead
• 00:02:11 Breaking out of our comfort zone
• 00:03:42 What is a good goal?
• 00:04:49 You learn in the uncomfortable moments & change your environment
• 00:07:57 When comfort creeps in
• 00:10:39 Figure out your blind spots
• 00:11:35 The uncomfortable became comfortable
• 00:13:08 Complacency and comfort lead to a crash
• 00:15:39 Be limitless
• 00:18:24 Follow your curiosity
• 00:21:58 Three things you need to do next year

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Today, I am talking to Trevor Noah. Trevor is the most successful comedian in Africa and is the host of the Emmy and Peabody Award-winning “The Daily Show” on Comedy Central. Under Trevor, “The Daily Show with Trevor Noah” has broken free from the restraints of a 30-minute linear show, producing engaging social content, award-winning digital series, podcasts and more for its global audience. He has written, produced, and starred in 11 comedy specials, including his most recent, “Trevor Noah: Son of Patricia,” which launched in November 2018 on Netflix. He is the author of the #1 New York Times bestseller “Born a Crime: Stories from a South African Childhood” and its young readers adaptation “It’s Trevor Noah: Born a Crime: Stories from a South African Childhood,” which also debuted as a New York Times bestseller.     

Trevor opens the conversation by sharing what it was like growing up, how he sees the rest of the world, and why it felt like it was okay growing up the way he did. We then exchange thoughts and perspectives on topics such as finding the true meaning of having a ‘home’, the type of friends we often surround ourselves with and why, finding independence in a completely new and foreign place, and being mindful of yourself and in one with your inner thoughts.     

What We Discuss:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:02:18 Same story, same book but different meaning
• 00:05:33 Comparing your hardships to others experiences
• 00:09:27 “It was not bad because it happened to everyone.”
• 00:13:27 Are you forced to be grateful for everything?
• 00:19:13 The true definition of the word home
• 00:21:39 What is your purpose?
• 00:25:19 Who are your friends?
• 00:35:43 Becoming unrelatable to people
• 00:44:43 How does a monk fire someone?
• 00:46:48 What is your idea of safety?
• 00:52:30 When’s the best time to walk away?
• 00:56:37 Having conversations with yourself
• 01:03:37 When you leave home
• 01:09:25 The burden our parents unconsciously give us 
• 01:17:54 The Many Sides to Us
• 01:24:03 Trevor on Final Five

Episode Resources

• Trevor Noah | Shows
• Trevor Noah | Instagram
• Trevor Noah | YouTube
• Trevor Noah | Twitter
• The Daily Show with Trevor Noah

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Today, I will be sharing a snippet from my book, 8 Rules of Love, that talks about the three dates that truly matter in any relationship including finding common interest and have fun together, learning what your partner values and respecting their choices, and being open about future plans.     

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Key Takeaways:

• 00:00 Intro
• 00:03:01 The 3-Date rule
• 00:04:19 Having healthy and unhealthy disagreements
• 00:08:18 Personality
• 00:13:14 First Date: Have fun together
• 00:18:31 Second Date: Respect their values
• 00:25:44 Third Date: Share some ideas of the future

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Today, I sit down with one of my good friends, Jim Kwik. Jim Kwik is a widely recognized world expert in brain performance, mental fitness and memory improvement. After a childhood brain injury left him with learning challenges, Kwik created strategies to dramatically enhance his cognitive performance. He has since dedicated his life to helping others unleash their true genius and brainpower. is the author of the NY Times and #1 WSJ bestseller: “Limitless - Upgrade Your Brain, Learn Anything Faster, Unlock Your Exceptional Life.” Make sure to grab a copy here!

Jim tells us about the power of choice and how transformation is just like a butterfly inside a cocoon. He also talks about rejecting a limit from someone we love and how we can break free from a limitation.

This episode was filmed at Soho Works: 10 Jay Street. 

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What We Discuss:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:02:17 Is this limitation real or not?
• 00:05:02 Open mindedness vs. delusion
• 00:06:03 The power of choice
• 00:11:15 Limitations are safe
• 00:14:59 Transformation is like a butterfly
• 00:18:57 Reflecting on someone else’s life
• 00:22:11 Pain makes you present
• 00:24:05 Living slow-paced
• 00:26:27 Peace of mind
• 00:29:42 Having options
• 00:32:11 The Limitless Model
• 00:41:46 Rejecting a limit

Episode Resources

• Jim Kwik | Instagram
• Jim Kwik | YouTube
• Jim Kwik | TikTok
• Jim Kwik | Website

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