On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Today, I’m speaking to Rayna Greenberg and Ashley Hesseltine who share their thoughts on dating and relationships. They take turns in talking about their best and worst dates, the general struggles most women have while dating, how to get through a difficult breakup - the do’s and don’ts - and the subtle dating red flags that are often missed.  

Rayna and Ashley of the "Girls Gotta Eat" podcast. The podcast was launched in 2017 and has since become a popular destination for listeners who enjoy discussions about dating, relationships, sex, and women's experiences in these areas. Each episode features the two hosts discussing their personal experiences, sharing dating and relationship advice, and answering listener questions. The podcast is known for its humorous and relatable approach to these topics, as well as its frank and honest conversations. In addition to offering advice, the hosts also interview guests who are experts in various aspects of dating, relationships, and sex, such as therapists, sex educators, and relationship coaches. Overall, "The Girls Gotta Eat" is a lively and entertaining podcast that provides a unique perspective on the ups and downs of dating and relationships for women.

You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:18 Rayna and Ashley talk about settling into LA and what’s been going on for them since moving in.
• 04:09 What defines a good date?
• 06:32 Many relationships may be great on the phone, but some don’t work after meeting up.  
• 15:41 How do you manifest your dream date and what can you bring into the relationship?
• 22:00 Success can be intimidating and this is why it's challenging to date when you’re successful.
• 27:24 The early mistakes we make when dating and how to avoid them.
• 29:25 This is why our happiness shouldn’t depend on other people and start learning to enjoy every moment in our life. 
• 32:16 Common practices of happy couples and why they work so well. 
• 35:16 Rayna and Ashley share their thoughts on lovers becoming friends and vice versa.
• 39:11 How do you deal with a breakup?
• 45:00 The hidden messages many of us don’t see that often leads to the relationship breakup.
• 47:01 Pay attention to these commonly missed red flags because not all relationships are the same.
• 51:19 Having children is a choice, Rayna and Ashley share their stance on the topic.
• 59:58 What options do we have when we’re at the end of our lives?
• 01:03:24 Girls Gotta Eat on Final Five

Episode Resources

• Girls Gotta Eat | Website
• Girls Gotta Eat | YouTube
• Girls Gotta Eat | Instagram

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Today, I sit down with my friend Lewis Howes to talk about finding the courage to work on ourselves a little bit more. We share ideas on the dealing with the different seasons in our life and being present in each season, the level of discipline you have for yourself determines the outcome of goals you’ve set your mind and heart into, getting unstuck of the same pattern of familiarity that hinders personal growth, and the misconception of greatness and how it always starts within you.   

Lewis is a lifestyle entrepreneur, high performance business coach, a New York Times best-selling author, 2x All-American athlete, and keynote speaker. He hosts The School of Greatness podcast, which was launched in 2013, where he shares inspiring interviews from the most successful people on the planet—world-renowned leaders in business, entertainment, sports, science, health, and literature. 

You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 00:What did it take Lewis to finally focus on the path to healing?
• 10:04 This is how it felt growing up in a family with financial limitations.
• 14:46 When you finally find the courage to work on yourself, you become more authentic.
• 19:30 What is the difference between motivation and discipline?
• 23:21 Lewis explains what role our inner emotional state plays in our success.
• 25:45* The 3 P’s to help you figure out what you want to do with your life.
• 33:50 How does discipline keep you organized and focused on your mission?
• 36:37 What is the right way to get ready even when you don’t want to do it?
• 39:44 Why do we always get stuck in the same pattern of familiarity?
• 43:53 This is the reason why the fear of failure stops us from trying and doing our best.
• 50:48 The misconception about greatness that we don’t know about. 
• 58:39 The more you become for others, the brighter your own path will be.
• 01:08:26 What are you looking forward to this year?
• 01:11:48 What does it truly mean “to live in the season that you have reached?”
• 01:14:50 Stop doing other things and start focusing on the person you are becoming.  

Episode Resources

• Lewis Howes | Website
• Lewis Howes | Instagram
• Lewis Howes | Twitter
• Lewis Howes | YouTube
• Lewis Howes | Books
• The School of Greatness Podcast

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Today, I am going to share with you another snippet from my latest book, 8 Rules of Love. This time, we will talk about solitude. My focus is on the importance of solitude in our daily lives and how it can help us love ourselves better. Rule #1 - Let Yourself Be Alone outlines a three-stage process for transitioning from loneliness to solitude, starting with being present with yourself and moving towards developing confidence in areas of personal growth. It also emphasizes the importance of self-control and patience in the process of learning solitude and understanding our complexity, and embracing the idea that being alone can be transformational.

You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.   

Key Takeaways:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:28 Solitude: Learning to Love Yourself
• 02:57 Rule #1: Let Yourself Be Alone - and learn to find solitude in your daily life. 
• 09:41 Solo Audit - Finding out how you want to spend your time alone.
• 17:49 The Path From Loneliness to Solitude
• 18:44 Stage #1: Presence - The first step to making use of solitude is being present with yourself.
• 23:32 Stage #2: Discomfort - There are 3 different ways to get used to being alone.
• 27:55 Stage #3: Confidence - The 5 growth areas of life you can recheck and see whether you need to change or not.
• 30:22 For change to happen, start with identifying your biggest growth area. 
• 33:09 Here’s how to develop a growth plan using the 3 C’s of transformation.
• 36:18 One Mind - This is how solitude allows us to understand our complexity.
• 42:57 Why self control and patience are the two key skills when learning solitude?
• 45:46 A Whole Self - It’s not always about looking out for our better half and this is why.

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Today, I sit down with my good friend Marianna Hewitt to talk about a range of topics related to self-care, mental health, and the challenges of being a content creator. She emphasizes the importance of finding a morning routine that works for you, rather than following what works for others. She also discusses the concept of creator burnout and the importance of prioritizing your mental and emotional wellbeing over views and clicks. Additionally, she touches on the importance of quality friendships and the challenges of running a company. 

Mariana Hewitt is the leading voice in social media and the co-founder of Summer Fridays, the skincare brand whose iconic jet lag mask became an instant bestseller. Marianna is also the host of her own podcast Life with Marianna, the number one fashion and beauty podcast. 

You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 03:19 What is your earliest memory as a child?
• 06:44 The reason why we react differently when presented with similar situations.
• 08:42 The advantage of becoming a parent when you’re fully ready.
• 12:08 This is why you should never rely on anyone for anything.
• 15:41 Marianna shares the life lessons she learned from her parents.
• 18:11 Pursuing the passion for sharing things that you love with an audience.
• 20:59 Every job and experience brings about different learnings.
• 23:24 Falling into the trap of chasing virality.
• 28:54 Marianna explains the balance of having a time off to avoid burnout.
• 33:45 Surround yourself with a group of people that resonates with your core.
• 35:29 Do you really want to run a business because you want to build a company?
• 40:05 Think about what you are uniquely good at.
• 44:23 How do you decipher what you think is important and what’s truly important to you?
• 47:18 There’s got to be a reason why successful people have morning routines and do journaling.
• 50:57 What are you looking forward to in the years to come?
• 53:06 Let’s focus on taking care of our brain health.
• 01:00:00 You can be two opposite things and still be happy. 
• 01:01:24 Marianna on Final Five 

Episode Resources

• Marianna Hewitt | Instagram
• Marianna Hewitt | YouTube
• Marianna Hewitt | TikTok
• Marianna Hewitt | Twitter
• Marianna Hewitt | Website
• Summer Fridays  

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Today, I am going to share with you a conversation I had with serial entrepreneur, author, podcast host, and inspirational speaker Ed Mylett. In this interview, I talk about why we should build and practice a morning routine to help incorporate positivity in our day, the two opposite sides of ego that we don’t know about, and how being in service of others is a reflection of inner self.   

You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.

Key Takeaways:

• 00:00 Intro
• 03:18 Jay explains how we can create calm instead of looking for it.
• 05:10 What am I going to learn from a monk?
• 09:04 Digest this: Plant trees under whose shade you do not plan to sit.
• 11:36 How to avoid becoming the person you think other people want you to be. 
• 15:01 The two lies we’ve been told growing up.
• 20:19 The 3 core aspects to incorporate in your morning routine.
• 28:09 Jay talks about the two opposite sides of ego.
• 30:27 What it means to find yourself when you lose yourself in service of others.
• 34:02 How do you take control of something you can’t control?
• 37:51 The monk life teaches you how to be child-like.
• 41:18 Do this if you want to start living a better life.  

Episode Resources:

• Ed Mylett | Website
• Ed Mylett | Instagram
• Ed Mylett | YouTube
• Ed Mylett | Books 

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You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.

Today, let’s welcome Dr. Andrew Weil, a world renowned leader and pioneer in the field of integrative medicine. Combining a Harvard education and a lifetime of practicing natural and preventive medicine, Dr. Weil is the founder and director of the Andrew Weil Center for Integrative Medicine at the University of Arizona, where he is a clinical professor of medicine and professor of Public Health. A New York Times bestselling author, Dr. Weil is the author of 15 books on health and wellbeing. He is also the founder and partner in the growing family of True Food Kitchen Restaurants. Dr. Weil's current project includes matcha.com, bringing the world's best matcha to the West.

Dr. Weil talks about the benefits of integrative medicine to help treat the mind, body, and soul. He also shares his expertise on the common causes of inflammation, how to combat cognitive decline, natural remedies to keep the mind active and relaxed at the same time, and the superfoods that we should incorporate more into our daily diet.

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 03:20 Do you know the first rule of healthy eating?
• 07:24 Dr. Weil shares some of the superfoods we can incorporate in our daily meals.
• 11:52 The amazing growth of matcha tea worldwide.
• 16:52 Let’s talk about the green mediterranean diet.
• 18:07 Did you know that cooking oils are processed differently?
• 24:47 Let’s talk about cannabis and its medicinal use.
• 30:41 This is how cannabis preparation has drastically changed over the years.
• 36:17 What are psychedelics and how can one have a positive experience with it?
• 42:02 Minimizing the risks and increasing the potential benefits of psychedelics.
• 44:36 Dr. Weil on empathogens and the promising results of this type of psychedelic.
• 48:10 Is there a spiritual potential to psychedelics?
• 51:16 The most common effects and benefits of psilocybin.
• 53:44 Another psychedelic variation we can learn more about.
• 59:05 This is what you should stop drinking alcohol
• 01:01:21 Let’s talk about the book: Chocolate to Morphine
• 01:03:33 There is a wide range of mind-body interventions and its possible connection to spirituality.
• 01:07:18 Born with the fascination of the mind and body wellness

Episode Resources

• Dr. Andrew Weil | Website
• Dr. Andrew Weil | Twitter
• Dr. Andrew Weil | Instagram
• Dr. Andrew Weil | Facebook
• Dr. Andrew Weil | YouTube
• Dr. Andrew Weil | Books
• https://matcha.com/

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You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.

Today, let’s welcome Raquelle Stevens and Tanya Rad. Raquelle Stevens’ most recent work includes hosting and producing, Giving Back Generation. She also starred in the Apple documentary, Selena Gomez: My Mind & Me and the hit series, Selena + Chef. 

Tanya Rad co-hosts On Air with Ryan Seacrest, hosting iHeartRadio's Top 40 show, The Vibe, and creating community on her popular podcast, Scrubbing In. Raquelle and Tanya just released their new book, The Sunshine Mind. 

Raquelle and Tanya opens up about how to turn a possibly bad day into a good one, the beauty of giving love unconditionally and receiving the same amount of love in return, the imposter syndrome we all have, finding contentment wherever we are in life, and the huge difference between chemistry and character when it comes to your relationships.  

What We Discuss:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:03:46 What makes a great day?
• 00:06:21 Define a bad day
• 00:09:58 Reaching out
• 00:12:33 Unconditional love
• 00:16:56 Why 100 days?
• 00:18:19 Overcoming imposter syndrome
• 00:28:59 Being comfortable in the uncomfortable 
• 00:36:36 Contentment
• 00:44:27 Be done with shame
• 00:50:29 Character over chemistry
• 00:54:19 The 200 dates
• 00:57:43 A partner of character
• 01:01:49 Discerning character
• 01:07:49 Raquelle & Tanya on Final Five

Episode Resources

• Raquelle Stevens | Instagram
• Tanya Rad | Instagram
• The Sunshine Mind: 100 Days to Finding the Hope and Joy You Want

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You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.

Today, we welcome back a very special guest, one who’s very dear to my heart, my other half, Radhi Devlukia-Shetty. Radhi and I sit down for our yearly check-in as we answer questions about relationships and marriage. Come join us and let’s discover the beauty of open communication, supportive partnership, and setting new goals together this year.  

This episode was shot at The Grove in Hertfordshire, U.K

What We Discuss:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:04:18 What do you love most about each other?
• 00:08:38 What have you learned along the way?
• 00:13:25 Are you a parent, child, or partner?
• 00:20:05 When does your partner become annoying?
• 00:29:29 Your happiness is your perfection
• 00:38:05 Be a guru in your relationship
• 00:47:35 The things you no longer prioritize
• 00:53:55 Top 3 things you’re looking for in a partner
• 01:02:05 Going deeper into the relationship in less time
• 01:05:06 What are your goals this year?

Episode Resources:

• Radhi Devlukia-Shetty | Instagram
• Radhi Devlukia-Shetty | YouTube
• Conscious Cooking

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You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.

Today, I am going to share with you relationship red flags. There are warning signs that indicate potential problems in a romantic relationship. These can be behaviors or attitudes that are harmful or incompatible with a healthy relationship. It's important to be able to spot these red flags early on in a relationship so that you can make an informed decision about whether to continue the relationship. Pay attention to your gut feelings and listen to any concerns that your friends or family may have. Trust your instincts and if you notice multiple red flags, it may be time to reassess the relationship and consider whether it is a healthy and positive situation for you.  

Key Takeaways:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:02:09 Avoiding relationship red flags 
• 00:09:09 Red Flag #1: Saying “I love you” too soon
• 00:12:46 Red Flag #2: Pressure to have s*x
• 00:15:52 Red Flag #3: Talking about moving in and starting a family
• 00:20:18 Red Flag #4: Gaslighting
• 00:21:34 Red Flag #5: Encouraging you to give up your passion
• 00:25:08 Red Flag #6: Talks about their ex-partner

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You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.

Today, I am talking to Robert Waldinger, a professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development, and co-founder of the Lifespan Research Foundation. Dr. Waldinger received his AB from Harvard College and his MD from Harvard Medical School. Dr. Waldinger is a practicing psychiatrist and psychoanalyst, and he directs a psychotherapy teaching program for Harvard psychiatry residents. He's also a zen master and teaches meditation in New England and around the world. And he is the co-author of the book, The Good Life: Lessons From the World's Longest Scientific Study of Happiness.

Robert shares his expertise on adult happiness. We go back and forth with our thoughts on the effects of chronically stressful relationships on our physical body as well as our mental and emotional health, why we should stop minding what people think about us and instead start checking in with ourselves, and the pros and cons of engaging in personal development and being open to changes.     

What We Discuss:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:03:23 The pros and cons of remote conversations
• 00:05:16 This 75-Year Harvard Study
• 00:13:10 The three flavors of happiness
• 00:17:45 Turn to activities that are enlivening
• 00:20:18 We’re not trained to look inward
• 00:26:23 Take note of the things that are evolving 
• 00:35:32 When you’re living with people that causes you stress 
• 00:40:14 Active re-imagining of life from a different time
• 00:47:03 Chronically stressful relationships break down the body
• 00:53:30 Looking at the long view when dealing with relationships
• 01:01:00 Socio-emotional learning 
• 01:02:57 How do we keep our relationships in shape?
• 01:06:02 Security of attachment for introverts and extroverts 

Episode Resources

• Robert Waldinger | Website
• Robert Waldinger | Facebook
• Robert Waldinger | Twitter
• Robert Waldinger | LinkedIn

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