On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Today, I'm joined by Haesue Jo, Licensed Therapist & Head of Clinical Operations at BetterHelp, with years of experience providing individual and family therapy in community mental health. Her current clinical focus includes working with individuals with a variety of presenting problems, including anxiety, relationship and family issues, trauma, community violence, gender identity, and depression.

This is the part two of a two-part series where I take the client seat and have a full therapy session with Haesue. In the first session, we talk about several sensitive topics including my childhood experiences, trauma, bullying, teenage struggle and so much more. Our focus for today’s session is relationships. We cover the unhealthy patterns that ruin relationships, what to do when you’re not getting the level of love and affection you are willing to give, learning how to read your partner’s emotional struggles and their efforts to make the relationships work, and how you can control your emotions by setting the right kind of boundaries.   

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp.

What We Discuss:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:02:30 How do therapists monitor relationship building?
• 00:06:07 What do relationships mean to you?
• 00:11:02 If parents can articulate their thoughts well
• 00:12:21 Not getting back the same love you're giving
• 00:16:00 Why monks practice celibacy?
• 00:19:24 We love and express love in a certain way
• 00:26:56 Expecting your partner to just know
• 00:30:38 How do you know your partner is making an effort?
• 00:35:05 Overcompensating because of fear
• 00:40:24 What makes a relationship worth fighting for?
• 00:47:43 The 'WE' versus 'YOU' language
• 00:52:00 Not all things in the world is one-sided

Episode Resources

• BetterHelp

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You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.

Today, I am talking to Joe Jonas. Joe rose to fame, alongside his brothers Kevin and Nick, as a member of the pop rock group Jonas Brothers. The band became one of Disney's prominent figures and even took the lead roles in the widely successful musical television film Camp Rock and Camp Rock 2: The Final Jam.    

Joe opens the conversation by sharing how he had come to love meditation and how this has helped him appreciate self love even more. We talk about his struggles as a solo artist, the realization that he needed professional help which eventually led to therapy which then led to the understanding that his feelings were valid. Joe is proud of his humble beginnings and how this affects our perspectives, becoming a husband and a father, and the value of staying connected to the people that you truly care for.      

This episode was filmed at Soho Works: 10 Jay Street.

What We Discuss:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:03:31 Creating a bond through meditation
• 00:08:35 When did you start to work on yourself?
• 00:17:02 Respect for individual creativity
• 00:22:25 Venturing into acting
• 00:26:18 Inspiration to develop a good work ethic
• 00:31:23 Humble beginnings is so essential
• 00:35:58 We’re each other’s best friend
• 00:38:41 Enjoy every moment with your child
• 00:41:28 An unforgettable experience with a therapist
• 00:43:27 What’s your daily routine?
• 00:47:08 An interview with Vanessa Bryant
• 00:49:37 Sometimes it better to reach out first
• 00:52:53 Keeping relationships as healthy as much as possible
• 00:57:29 Final Five with Joe

Episode Resources

• Joe Jonas | TikTok
• Joe Jonas | Instagram
• Joe Jonas | Twitter

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Today, I will be sharing four struggles that most people go through when they are in a relationship. It’s about the major stressors in many relationships, how we may currently be dealing with them, what we can do to break free from these struggles, and focus our strength on actions that enable our relationship to survive any challenge and stay strong.  

Key Takeaways:

• 00:00 Intro
• 00:01:49 4 key challenges every relationships go through
• 00:03:41 Struggle #1: Technoference 
• 00:06:44 When you want your partner’s undivided attention, you communicate that
• 00:09:38 Put your devices away and make a commitment
• 00:10:40 Mirroring 
• 00:12:36 Struggle #2: Bringing work-stress at home
• 00:19:34 Struggle #3: Finances
• 00:22:33 Struggle #4: Chores

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Today, I am talking to a returning guest and good friend, Ray Dalio. Ray is the founder and co-chairman of Bridgewater Associates, which, over the last forty years, has become the largest and best performing hedge fund in the world. He is the author of #1 New York Times Bestseller and #1 Amazon Business Book of the Year, Principles. Dalio has appeared on the Time 100 list of the most influential people in the world as well as the Bloomberg Markets list of the 50 most influential people. He lives with his family in Connecticut.   

Ray genuinely shares the deepness of thoughts and what is his views on passing on your principles to others and picking up theirs and learn from it, the unappreciated value of journaling, knowing the right approach to having better relationships through thoughtful disagreements, the lessons we can learn from history, and the three things that mainly influence us and our society. We also exchange thoughts on asking approval and validation from others, how we react to others out of our emotional state, and how we can be of service to the world.        

This episode was filmed at Soho Works: 10 Jay Street.

What We Discuss:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:03:00 The first time you fear meeting someone
• 00:04:17 How did you develop clarity?
• 00:08:13 The smartness of your move determines the outcome
• 00:10:55 When did you start journaling?
• 00:18:19 The arc of life
• 00:21:08 The three people you must have in your life
• 00:25:12 The biggest problem of our society
• 00:29:50 How to win the debate of life
• 00:32:20 Looking at the sequence of discovering the truth
• 00:38:03 Three big things that influence us
• 00:47:00 The typical cycle for a new system
• 00:49:16 It’s more human nature than the system
• 00:57:26 Producing a reaction that becomes instinctual
• 01:03:36 Four important decisions we make in life
• 01:10:25 How do you approach money?
• 01:14:27 Don’t worry so much about the approval of others
• 01:20:27 Three practices of successful relationships
• 01:25:08 How do we serve the world?
• 01:27:56 What’s your view of love?

Episode Resources

• Ray Dalio | Books
• Ray Dalio | LinkedIn
• Ray Dalio | Twitter
• Ray Dalio | Instagram
• Bridgewater

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Today, we have another special Friday episode and this time it is an interview I had with Deepak Chopra from his Deepak Chopra’s Infinite Potential podcast. It is a conversation that revolves around finding success within you and ultimately achieving success by knowing yourself deeper and learning your purpose. We discuss how incorporating discipline in our life is one of the main catalysts of positive change, finding your purpose and having the right intentions to act upon them, and the benefits of surrounding yourself with the people that contribute to your personal growth.

Key Takeaways:

• 00:00 Intro
• 00:01:09 It was always about how you did well at school
• 00:02:48 The tough ego façade 
• 00:06:44 Meeting the monk
• 00:08:58 Discipline is a key trait in our lives
• 00:14:38 Falling back into your old habits
• 00:18:16 Finding a way to spread purposeful intentions 
• 00:24:25 Difference between happiness and success
• 00:29:13 Be around people who can help grow yourself

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You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.

Today, I am talking to a good friend and celebrity, Selena Gomez. Selena is a globally and culturally celebrated artist, actor, producer, entrepreneur, and philanthropist of her generation. As a recording artist, Selena has sold more than 210 million singles worldwide and has over 45 billion global streams. Her upcoming biographical documentary, Selena Gomez: My Mind & Me, is out right now. In 2019, she launched her beauty line, Rare Beauty, exclusively with Sephora. As part of the partnership, Selena announced the Rare Impact Fund pledging to raise $100M for mental health services for individuals in underserved communities. Philanthropy and activism have been key pillars of her career and she's used her platform to advocate for many important causes. Selena has raised millions of dollars for charity including Global Citizen and Lupus Research Alliance.   

Selena bravely tells her story about her long battle with mental health and how this led to her life mission to help spread mental health awareness around the world and provide mental health services for the less privileged. I get to deeply understand her inner thoughts on topics such as dealing with pressure of being a celebrity and the gossip that comes with it, finding self healing, embracing change, being one with your inner self, and living day by day being content, kind, and full of love to share. 

Life isn’t a simple journey, but despite the complications, challenges, and struggles, we can always find it in our hearts to tap into our inner good and be compassionate, especially to ourselves.   

What We Discuss:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:04:21 Selena Gomez: My Mind & Me documentary
• 00:06:59 Sharing our darkest secrets with others
• 00:10:04 Befriending your own inner critic
• 00:13:39 Learning to be more compassionate towards yourself and others
• 00:18:59 Taking control of your own story
• 00:26:04 Getting asked frustrating questions
• 00:24:39 No one is perfect, even celebrities
• 00:27:40 How do you deal with imperfections?
• 00:33:03 Areas in your life that made you who you are
• 00:35:07 Embracing change
• 00:39:36 Mental health awareness
• 00:43:59 You have to be aware of people
• 00:48:10 How do you deal with fears?
• 00:51:23 What is your intention?
• 00:56:13 Sometimes parents project perfection around their children
• 00:59:57 Pain, suffering, growth
• 01:06:09 Wondermind - mental fitness
• 01:09:30 You’ll figure it out, keep going
• 01:12:18 Missteps parents may have taken
• 01:23:07 Producing the series 13 Reasons Why
• 01:27:50 Selena and Mandy on Final Five

Episode Resources

• Selena Gomez | Website
• Selena Gomez | Facebook
• Selena Gomez | Twitter
• Selena Gomez | Instagram
• Selena Gomez | YouTube

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Today, I’m going to share with you my interview with Vishen Lakhiani of the Mindvalley Podcast. It’s a very insightful conversation because we talk about my life as a monk & why refining your intentions for the day can help you improve your life.

I also talk about spirituality and how you can help someone to bring them in a transformational journey. Forcing someone to change their beliefs will be difficult especially if it’s already what they’ve believed for a long time, but with patience you can surely succeed.

Key Takeaways:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:32 Refining your intentions everyday
• 08:40 Creating in depth
• 11:55 Removing an identity attached to your ego
• 13:10 Jay’s tattoos
• 14:49 Spirituality is not separate from life
• 17:08 Meditation is an important part of the cloud
• 18:29 Relationships
• 20:37 Starting a spiritual learning
• 23:53 Those who love peace need to learn to organize themselves
• 26:52 Bringing someone else into a transformational journey
• 32:29 What’s next?

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Today I sit down with one of the most influential women in the tech industry, Susan Wojcicki. Susan Wojcicki is CEO of YouTube, the world’s most popular digital video platform used by more than a billion people across the globe to access information, share video, and shape culture. An early champion of online video who was instrumental in Google's 2006 acquisition of YouTube, Susan now oversees YouTube's content and business operations, engineering, and product development.

Susan shares to us her story from studying history and literature to being a tech icon. She also talks about the importance of balancing time at work and spending time with family, having her mom as an inspiration in her parenting, and why it’s necessary to practice supportive leadership.

What We Discuss:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:01:42 Start a YouTube channel
• 00:03:40 From a humanities major to being a tech icon
• 00:08:00 Sharing her garage to Google
• 00:10:24 Acquiring YouTube
• 00:14:17 Day in a life of a YouTube CEO
• 00:19:30 Supportive leadership
• 00:24:52 Celebrating the little successes
• 00:29:29 Diversity in tech industry
• 00:32:06 The future of tech
• 00:36:33 “Be persistent and not give up”
• 00:40:27 Her mom as an inspiration
• 00:45:33 Final Five with Susan Wojcicki

Episode Resources

• Susan Wojcicki | Instagram
• Susan Wojcicki | Twitter
• Susan Wojcicki | Facebook

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Today, I'm joined by Haesue Jo, Licensed Therapist & Head of Clinical Operations at BetterHelp, with years of experience providing individual and family therapy in community mental health. Her current clinical focus includes working with individuals with a variety of presenting problems, including anxiety, relationship and family issues, trauma, community violence, gender identity, and depression.

It’s going to be a little different today as I take the client seat and get a first hand experience of what it’s like to be in a therapy session. This is Part 1 of a 2-Part special episode and we open the conversation by talking about my childhood experiences - how it affects my adulthood, the memories that may seem as passing but are actually traumatic, and how these can possibly lead to repression of painful memories. Haesue also helps uncover the challenges surrounding racism, bullying, identity crisis, teenage struggles, and finding your safe space and security.  

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp.

What We Discuss:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:03:36 Why therapists start with talking about childhood 
• 00:10:22 How did you feel about school in general?
• 00:16:26 Repression of painful memories 
• 00:25:16 How do you feel about being othered?
• 00:31:29 What I remember as a teenager
• 00:35:04 Choosing to be understood than be liked
• 00:42:59 Dealing with racism
• 00:50:12 Did you want to understand bullies? 
• 01:00:02 Can you change your identity?
• 01:02:55 When you have some form of security

Episode Resources

• BetterHelp

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You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.

Today, I talk to Dr. Gabor Maté. A celebrated speaker and bestselling author, Dr. Gabor Maté is highly sought after for his expertise on a range of topics, such as addiction, stress, and childhood development. Dr. Maté has written several bestselling books, including the award-winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction; When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress; and Scattered Minds: The Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder. He is also the co-author of Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers. His works have been published internationally in more than thirty languages.

Dr. Maté generously shares his deep understanding of childhood trauma, vulnerability, grief, and emotional distress. He explains what real trauma is and how time doesn’t necessarily lead to healing, how vulnerability is ingrained in us since we are young and the importance of these formative years to mold our emotional health, and the societal expectations we always try to meet but have never truly given us real fulfillment. We also exchange thoughts on dealing with grief, how we struggle to identify with the people we look up to, and how childhood experience varies for every child even when they are raised in a similar environment.

Trauma is a wound that has not fully healed which can be triggered at any point in our life so it matters that we are able to find a common ground and stay firm in what can give us healing, emotional stability, and happiness.

What We Discuss:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:03:12 How do you define trauma?
• 00:06:32 How is healing defined?
• 00:08:45 Time itself does not heal emotional wounds
• 00:11:38 We are all born vulnerable
• 00:13:55 The inherent expectations we all have
• 00:20:00 The societal standards we try to live up to
• 00:25:15 It’s not possible to love kids too much
• 00:29:35 Grief is essential for life
• 00:32:19 When the past dominates the present reactions
• 00:35:16 There is no healthy identification
• 00:42:11 Why are we set on things staying the same
• 00:44:38 No two children have the same childhood
• 00:50:19 The difference between loneliness and being alone
• 00:53:54 How do you see human nature?
• 01:02:24 Suffering has to be acknowledged
• 01:06:27 Getting closure and start moving on
• 01:10:04 Spirituality becomes commoditized
• 01:15:56 Dr. Maté on Final Five:

Episode Resources

• Gabor Maté | Website
• Gabor Maté | Instagram
• Gabor Maté | Twitter
• Gabor Maté | Books
• The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture

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