This coaching call is about believing you can have what you want. Today’s caller, Rebecca, grew up wondering if her mother’s love was conditional. She asks for guidance on how to believe she can get what she wants without her life always being one way or the other. This episode will resonate with you if you fear being disappointed and believe you are limited in what you can have in your life.

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode438].

It is important that we challenge our thinking and realize when we are in either/or, then eliminate it. There are often many more options than we think there are. A lot of it comes from growing up in fear-based environments. When we grow up when there is dysregulation, very little reassurance, or when adults are not leading the family, and inconsistent messaging, there is a desire for certainty and we have a limited view of our possibilities. It also happens when we grow up in a strict household, or highly intellectual household where there isn’t a lot of room for creativity and imagination.

Do you engage in either/or thinking? Do you settle for something because you don’t believe you can have what you want?

When we believe we can have what we want and we settle into those places, we don’t have the fears that come with the limiting belief that we don’t deserve it or are not capable of it in some way.

We don’t need to be afraid of disappointment. Regret is way worse than risk. When we play it safe and we settle, we end up with regret.

Journey to Joy is a free three-day inner child workshop with Christine and Stefanos on February 6th ‒ 8th, 2024. Send an email to [email protected] to get more information or go to ChristineHassler.com/joy to sign up.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Were you parentified as a child?

• Were there mixed messages in your home? Maybe, you felt loved but if you made a mistake, you doubted the love.

• Do you believe you can have what you want?

• Do you fear disappointment that you end up settling for things?

Rebecca’s Question:

Rebecca is bouncing between states of being when making life decisions.

Rebecca’s Key Insights and Ahas:

• She is in survival mode when trying to make decisions.

• She feels low when she finally makes a decision.

• She is an emotionally sensitive person.

• She had to make sure her mother was doing well.

• Her mother was inconsistent about giving her love.

• She is in a relationship with someone who isn’t clear about how he feels about her.

• She doesn’t believe she can get what she wants.

• She dreads sharing her joy with her family.

• She has unprocessed anger and guilt.

• She wants to punish her family.

• She doesn’t fully apply herself to any one thing.

• She puts herself last.

• She tries to avoid disappointment.

• She believes she is unlovable.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Take action while believing she can have everything she wants.

• Check in with herself several times a day to see what she wants.

• Being disappointed is okay.

• Challenge her either/or thinking.

• Join the Inner Child Journey to Joy workshop.

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Today I unpack how your childhood imprinted your nervous system and mind which informs how you experience stress, anxiety and overwhelm. If you ever feel frustrated that you experience these feelings so often and/or so intensely, don't miss this episode!

This coaching call is about getting out of our heads and into our bodies. Today’s caller, Ivy, had to suppress her natural inclinations as a child and she doesn’t feel safe in her body. She asks Christine for guidance around releasing the blocks to get what she wants from life. This session is extremely helpful if you relate to being in your head, or cognitive, or thinking more than feeling your way through things.

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode437].

As children, we internalize and amplify the voice and the messages of our parents and that is what becomes our inner voice, or inner critic. And, often, why we don’t feel safe in our bodies because we left our bodies at a very young age due to not feeling safe. We didn’t feel safe to be ourselves, and we didn’t feel safe mentally or emotionally.

There are so many things we do to protect ourselves. And what often happens is we hurt ourselves more. But until we realize so much of what we’re doing is protective patterning and until we find another way to “protect” ourselves, we keep doing the things that make us feel safe even if they aren’t the healthiest things for us. It is so deeply healing to get into our body and communicate with our inner child.

Remember, working with a coach or therapist is great, but it can be helpful if the person you are working with has struggled with similar things you are struggling with.

Journey to Joy is a free three-day inner child workshop with Christine and Stefanos on February 6th ‒ 8th, 2024. Send an email to [email protected] to get more information or go to ChristineHassler.com/joy to sign up.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you have trouble getting out of your head into your body?

• Have you been told to do somatic work or body-based practices but you just can’t seem to do it?

• Do you have a fierce inner critic?

• Do you carry a lot of shame?

Ivy’s Question:

Ivy would like guidance on how to remove the blocks that are keeping her from taking action to get where she wants to be.

Ivy’s Key Insights and Ahas:

• She is in therapy.

• She thinks she may have a block due to body shaming.

• She is unable to identify how she feels.

• She thinks she is emotionally unavailable.

• She finds it difficult to express her anger.

• She feels she is not worthy.

• She struggles with using her internal compass.

• She criticizes herself.

• She has inner child wounding.

• She would like to get out of her head.

• She was shamed for being emotionally expressive as a child.

• She doesn’t feel safe in her body.

• She fears people will see her as messy and unlovable.

• She had to suppress herself as a child.

• She is committed to her healing.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Find her passionate parental voice.

• Know that she is worthy.

• Do inner child work. Possibly Journey to Joy.

• Find things that work for her, not just what she is told to do.

• Commit to loving herself and giving herself the childhood she didn’t have.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

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This coaching call is about grief and guilt about past choices. Today’s caller, Michelle, is doing her best to navigate through the guilt and shame she feels about a decision she made. This is a beautiful conversation that can be triggering for a lot of reasons. Please listen with an open heart, open mind, and compassion. We all can relate on some level to making decisions we regret, or are not proud of, or that we feel shame or guilt around.

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode436].

With any choice, it is easier to look into the past from where we are now and evaluate the choice and wish we had done something differently. We have an amazing ability to judge and punish ourselves for a decision we made in the past. When truly we were making the best decision we could at the time.

If you have shame, guilt, or regret over a choice you made, how is that serving you? What is the guilt doing? How much longer do you want to punish yourself? 

Eventually, we have to let the guilt go and get to forgiveness because unless you have a time machine there is no way to change it. The only thing we can do is move forward.

When a person, especially a mother, is taking care of their health and making decisions that are most in alignment with their truth, it benefits their child.

Journey to Joy is a free three-day inner child workshop with Christine and Stefanos on February 6th ‒ 8th, 2024. Send an email to [email protected] to get more information or go to ChristineHassler.com/joy to sign up.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Have you made a choice that you have shame or guilt about?

• Are you trying to justify a decision you have made?

• Is there a part of you that doesn’t feel safe and secure? 

• Can you get out of your head, your beliefs, or your judgments and allow your heart to open to feel what you need to feel?

Michelle’s Question:

Michelle is asking for guidance on how to release the grief she feels about terminating her pregnancy.

Michelle’s Key Insights and Ahas:

• Michelle terminated her unexpected pregnancy last year.

• She felt she was abandoning her inner child.

• Her young-woman energy was not ready to have a child.

• She feels unworthy, unsafe, and insecure.

• She wants one day to step into motherhood but wants to release her grief first.

• She knows the pregnancy came into her life for a reason.

• She knows she made the best decision for her.

• She’s been trying to connect with the soul because she didn’t during her pregnancy.

• She was not ready to be a mother.

• She knows she is worthy but finds it difficult to embody it.

• She wants to let go of things that don’t serve her.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Know that taking care of ourselves is the best thing for our children.

• It is time to deal with her inner child wound.

• Grieve without the story and the justification.

• Ask the child what it was there to teach her.

• Create safety and security for herself.

• Check out Byron Katie’s “The Work.”

• She is worthy of love.

• Trust her decisions.

• Join the Journey to Joy inner child workshop.

• Prepare to consciously conceive with love.

Takeaways:

• Where are you not making self-honoring choices in the name of love?

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This coaching call is about removing blocks. Today’s caller, Matt, has fears related to starting a new entrepreneurial business based on childhood wounding. Christine offers guidance about how he can release his self-protective mechanisms and fears of not being worthy of success.

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode435].

There are life-changing repercussions from significant childhood events where we felt shame, were not seen, or were not loved for who we are. Those events can create conscious and subconscious blocks because deep down our inner child believes something is wrong with them.

Many of us don’t get to where we want to go in life because we haven’t healed the origin wound that is holding us back.

We can get critical of the ways we believe we are sabotaging ourselves. But in reality, we are not sabotaging ourselves, we are protecting ourselves. The next time you notice yourself procrastinating or making excuses, put your hand on your heart and remember that it is just a form of self-protection and that you are safe to express yourself because you are an adult now and you’ve got this.

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Journey to Joy is a free three-day inner child workshop with Christine and Stefanos in February. Sign up at christinehassler.com/joy

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Was there an event in your life that has dramatically impacted how you see yourself and how you see the world?

• Is there something you want to do, maybe a career you want to step into or a relationship you want to take to the next level but you’re terrified?

• Do you fear rejection?

• Do you fear getting your heart broken, so much so that you don’t go after the things you want?

Matt’s Question:

Matt has blocks around starting a video production business.

Matt’s Key Insights and Ahas:

• He has a day job.

• He had an HIV diagnosis that changed his trajectory.

• He runs a support group for others with HIV.

• He fears that something will go wrong when he tries something new.

• He is in a two-year relationship.

• He has a block around planning for the future.

• He has childhood wounds around being who he is.

• He has a lot of awareness about his blocks.

• He’s been incorporating inner child work into his life.

• He wants to get his website up and running but he is stalling and making excuses.

• He has time management concerns around starting a new business.

• He loves video editing and being creative.

• He acknowledges it is OK to have fears.

• He is ready to make a change.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Change his language when talking about his fears and protective patterns.

• Don’t get frustrated with the protective part of his psyche.

• Completely accept himself for who he is.

• Know he is lovable.

• Get a picture of himself as a teen and use it as a tool to follow his “why.”

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Josh is an ex-paramedic, and Holistic Nutritionist, specializing inIK8VB gut health. It was the successes his clients have had with complex digestive diseases, previously thought to be impossible, that got him connected to some of the world's most renowned doctors.                       

Since then, he’s been recruited to the Priority HealthAcademy as a medical lecturer, helping educate doctors on the holistic approach to gut health, and complex digestive issues.  

This coaching call is about doing the work and not expecting a partner to bring the romance to you. Today’s caller, Joey, is yearning for more romance and intimacy in her marriage but her fear of abandonment may be holding her back from deeper intimacy. Christine offers guidance on how Joey can accept her partner for who he is and create more romance in her relationship.

[For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode434].

We all can relate to that initial stage of a relationship where it’s hot and heavy and you can’t get enough of each other, and then it’s ten years later. How do you sustain that? You can’t. You cannot sustain the initial hormonal rush that happens when you first get together with someone. But, what you can do is grow your passion.

When you initially meet someone, even if it’s your soulmate and fireworks go off, the kind of intimacy you have with someone after you have known them for five, ten, or twenty years is much deeper. And, unfortunately, it cannot be so HOT sometimes because you know someone a little too well. However, if you can reframe how you see it, it can be a turn-on.

Connect to your partner in a way that lights them up instead of expecting them to romance you and seduce you the way you think they should do it. Let that build the passion. Because when you are constantly on someone to be more romantic, passionate, and emotionally available, it is not a turn-on for them.

When you take an interest in what your partner loves, it pays emotional and sensual dividends.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Are you someone who wants more romance and passion in your relationship?

• Do you want more emotional intimacy in your relationship?

• Have abandonment wounds made you more avoidant in relationships?

• Are you willing to accept your partner for who they are and see that as the most romantic thing you could ever do?

Joey’s Question:

Joey would like guidance on how to create emotional availability and intimacy in her marriage.

Joey’s Key Insights and Ahas:

• She and her husband do conscious healing work.

• She has abandonment wounds from childhood.

• She left her corporate work and is becoming a coach.

• She is not sure if it is her emotional unavailability, or her husband’s, creating intimacy issues.

• She wants romance and passion from her husband.

• She has been married for ten years.

• She sets the bar for romance high because of her abandonment wounds.

• She may be overlooking when her husband sends intimate signals.

• She finds fault and resentment in her husband when he doesn’t meet her expectations.

• She creates fantasy relationships with other men in her head.

• She is vague when asking for what she wants.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Accept her partner for who he is and stop projecting on him.

• Reframe how she looks at passion, romance, and intimacy.

• Acknowledge, nourish, and encourage her husband when he does romantic or sensual things.

• Make space outside of her relationship to ensure intimacy lines don’t get blurred.

• Remind herself that what she truly craves is consistency and stability.

• Be clear about what she wants.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

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This is the second part of my annual ritual to complete this year and step forward into 2024 with intention! In this episode, I guide you through a receiving process and meditation to start 2024 with steps to get clear about what you want to call in. Be sure to listen to the 2023 release episode to prepare you to receive freely.

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